I think she should've been professional and considerate enough to tell you she did not want to see you (if you indeed confirmed a time), but if you didn't confirm a time (not too sure about that), and you traveled to her location hoping that she'd be available at the time you all discussed but did not confirm, then I think it's on you. Whether you confirmed or didn't confirm, after about the second call, then you should've let it go. She was just likely one of those people who is too cowardly to cancel. I encounter guys like that all the time. They schedule appointments, and then never call to come. I don't call them because if they wanted to see me, they would've called me. The same applies to your situation. If the girl wanted to see you, she would've called you.
In the future, I would advise you not to call more than twice unless you are playing phone tag because if you call her, and she never calls back, she may not be calling you back because you've called her so many times that you come off as creepy.
So I knew my time would come in regards to backpage. I join the legions of others who have be a part of the disappointment! I know we've all seen this post before right?
But I made a call to meet up with her and a time, then she said ok she'll text me the location somewhere in springfield. All good so far right? I dont' see her text after we just got off the phone so I figure she just forgot. I text her where is the address? No response.
I figure I aint got shit to do so why not go to a strip club over that area and call her at the scheduled time we agreed on before, which was about an hour after our initial convo.
I call her 3 times cause she usually answers on the 2nd ring and her vm is full. So I say ok I'll just wait another hour to call her back later (its backpage I know the drill) So an hour later and I call twice and she picks up and calls me an asshole and to stop calling her phone. I was so shocked as I thought we'd agreed on time and everything. And I even gave an hour in between calls so as not to hassle her. So is the rule call you once and then if you don't answer thats it? I should go back home? there really isn't any hard and fast rules and I figured I was appropriate, I know these ladies receive lots of calls, etc.
And trust me If I had left everytime a provider didn't answer their phone when a session was set up I'd of never met them. I have been doing this for 10 years I know 2 calls tend to work if they don't answer. I'm very respectful and appreciative of providers time and efforts.
Her reviews aren't great but if she didn't want to see me why not pick up on the first call and be like hey something came up nevermind. I would have totally been ok.
Not sure you can accept; can you tell us who this was? My advice is to just chalk it up to the game- occasional aggravation and inconvenience can be the cost of doing business in this arena
Tell us whom the provider is and that YMMV. I have had the same thing happen to me- I didn't post here, I just called another girl and went to have my fun.
I've seen her a few times to good effect, but there have definitely been a number of guys who've reported being stood up or not getting a great attitude during the visit. Chalk her up as a YMMV girl, with your mileage depending on her mood and/or how she feels about you.
I feel your pain. She did sort of the same thing to me. It was literally my very first day hobbying. I called her. She agreed to do an outcall. She called about half an hour later said she was on her way. About an hour after that, I called her and she said was driving but confused about the directions and would call back. Never did. About an hour later, I called her again and she said she was not going to be able to make it. There were alot of unanswered calls in there, too.
Of course, this was before I was on TER. So I called the next one on BP and got a "real" ripoff there. She DID show up, took my money, and then made it clear that nothing other than talking was on the agenda.
THEN, I joined TER!!
I think with the woman you did not connect with that missing an appointment is better for you than taking the money and then doing nothing. But still it is frustrating. I remember really being annoyed after that first day.
My impression, from reading her reviews over time and considering whether to call again, is that she was just overwhelmed, not an evil or malicious person
You gotta remember girls in their 20's (especially early 20's) hate doing this and only do this because they have bills to pay. Heck if you read her reviews guys were stating that she was watching the clock.
Also when I do BP I usually book the appt. within 30 mins to an hour. No reason to give them much heads up than that. Because if you do they will leave you hanging out in the parking lot while they are banging some last min. appt. they figure 50% of guys are flakes.
I think she should've been professional and considerate enough to tell you she did not want to see you (if you indeed confirmed a time), but if you didn't confirm a time (not too sure about that), and you traveled to her location hoping that she'd be available at the time you all discussed but did not confirm, then I think it's on you. Whether you confirmed or didn't confirm, after about the second call, then you should've let it go. She was just likely one of those people who is too cowardly to cancel. I encounter guys like that all the time. They schedule appointments, and then never call to come. I don't call them because if they wanted to see me, they would've called me. The same applies to your situation. If the girl wanted to see you, she would've called you.
In the future, I would advise you not to call more than twice unless you are playing phone tag because if you call her, and she never calls back, she may not be calling you back because you've called her so many times that you come off as creepy.
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