We talk a lot about GFE and what it entails (looks, performance, attitude).  I have been involved in the hobby for many years and have learned from mistakes and successes.  This business involves relationships between two people.  I have found that in all types of one on one relationships (husband-wife, BF-GF, BFFs, etc.), if each side focuses their energy on pleasing and satisfying the other side, it optimizes the relationship.  It is never exactly 50-50 in terms of effort and attention spent by each side, but as long as it does not edge past 60-40, it does not feel one-sided.
The idea of creating and presenting a Boy Friend Experience (BFE) for the provider is that if done well, it will enhance and inspire reciprocity, and the energy will recycle and strengthen the GFE. GFE providers have already established their credentials of generous attention, it is up to you to focus on yourself if you have properly identified and made an arrangement with a GFE. Let’s keep in mind that this is all virtual during the duration of the visit, and is rarely going to result in a relationship outside of the contracted time period. After all, this is a business arrangement.
What is BFE?  We can’t morph into pool boy bodies, so unlike the desired GFE, it is not physical in nature (although you should do your best to present your appearance), but rather creating an environment in which the provider is on a lofty pedestal and feels that you are making every effort to make her feel special.  Physically, she probably gets compliments and glazed looks all the time, but it is the little attention to many details that I will discuss in subsequent chapters that can make her go wow! Small stitches of kindness result in a lovely garment.
Women prefer a man who is in control when that control is channeled toward her needs and desires.  A BFE establishes non-threatening control of the environment and provides relaxation and comfort.  It’s not going to be just about the sex; it’s the conversation, the atmosphere, the mood that helps her forget about the cautions of meeting up with a stranger in a (sadly) quasi-legal arrangement. Most women will gladly relinquish control once they are assured that the man is pursuing her interests.  If they don’t, then a balance can be struck or else you may have misidentified or may just need one more time to prove yourself.  Keep in mind the threats these women face from disrespectful customers, hotel authorities and law enforcement.
I am sure that the foregoing may spark skepticism and scorn and it may not be for you, but I do know what I am talking about. If there is interest in continuance, Chapter 2 will be Researching Targets.  Peace and Love.