Are you expected to tip over the agreed amount when you visit an incall escort?

Use your best judgment is what I suggest. Most indy's clearly state on their sites that tipping is not required. Even the agencies suggest tips are not required. In all cases, it still is appreciated.

Your tip should be a reflection of your appreciation for the services provided. If you think you will benefit with extras giving a tip - you will probably be disappointed so don't base it on that.

In some cases I've known providers appreciate gift as much of not more then extra$$. It shows them you creativity and they know selecting a gift takes time and effort - giving up the extra$$ is no effort.

It is unlikely you will be refused services or given less quality for not tipping so you decided what your conscience will accept.

I'd agree, extra tipping has never gotten extra services, except for greek with certain ladies and that's usually stated up front. Most ladies will have gift suggestions on their webpage so check that out before selecting a gift. Cash is appreciated, but not recieved with the same level of enthusiasm. I think that's true for  any of us though. The experience of getting SOMETHING, to unwrap and discover is a timeless joy for all of us.

I once had a provider present me with a gift before our session. It was my first time with her and it reall took me back, OK it was only a condom and some lube that were soon put to use. But it was a nice touch and I'll never forget that. or her

You're not required to tip.  The ladies always appreciate it but given a choice, they'd rather you save up your $ and see them more frequently.  

Gifts are also appreciated, but I have heard from several ladies they'd rather have the cash than something like a box of chocolates or yet another gift certificate to Victoria Secret's.  There's only so much lingerie one can possibly pick up.

OK, maybe what I'm about to say may burst a couple romantic bubbles and I hope the ladies I see do not mind me revealing this.  But I think it's useful to know to give you an idea of where there might be a problem with the gifting.  I've had providers (yes plural) offering *me* excess chocolates they couldn't eat, flowers they couldn't take with them on trips, perfume and makeup that didn't really suit them, and offering to give me or sell at a reduced price Victoria Secrets gift certificates.  All unprompted offers simply because they had too much of a good thing.

This is why I believe that at least some kind of gifts are given a little too freqently, and that cash may not be as romantic but it really is appreciated.  I doubt any other hobbyist get these offers but because of my gender, I am sometimes treated a little differently.  This is one example of it.

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ones I need to take to heart.

I typically do not tip, but when a provider provides an experience that goes way beyond my expectations I do. Tipping is also dependent on the fee charged. If a lady is charging $$1/2 (which is typical of our local agencies) and supplies a better experience than a $$$ visiting lady I am more likely to leave her a tip.

I am guilty of buying the occaisional gift cetificate for an atf, but based on the advice of GirlinDC I think I will go with cash for now on.

This is funny
I started out reading this post and immiadiatly agreed with slip. I have found by going out of my way a little bit and being creative in a gift giving since goes a long way. I only do this with providers i see on a regular basis though.
I will probably get hammerd for saying this but i usually do not tip providers that i only see once or for the first time " no matter how good they were".
Now 2nd, GirlnDC has got a great point as well.
Most girls probably want "cashola"
So if i were you i would use your own discretion at first but probably not bring them a gift or tip them on the first visit.
If you see them again defenitly go for it

I sometimes leave a tip and it is entirely based on if I feel I received an extraordinary session. Most of the time it is certainly based on my preconceived expectations. After that interesting perspective from GirlinDC, I am glad I don't spend too much time getting gifts for the ladies!

I agree with slipry, a gift of jewelry, clothing or some other item is appreciated more than $$$. The agency gals who are inexpensive $250 or > might appreciate a few extra $$. I always try to bring something extra besides the envelope, wine or candy or both.

Girl.  I think your advice might also particularly apply to traveling/visiting ladies.  Now, I picture them getting on the plane with seventeen boxes of chocolate, six stuffed animals, five wine bottles, and the potted plant I always give.

Is it being unique. No -  gift checks, chocolates, flowers won't cut it. I know a hobbyist who put time and effort into finding something unique and a card to match that made the provider very happy.

I know of another provider who appreciates those unique small items that makes her very happy when a gentleman takes the time to think about the gift.

In all cases – it will be different. Arriving on time, being clean and polite, even dressed to impress goes a long way and is more important then a tip or gift.

He he he

I thought it over and I would say that universally it's safe to say tipping is appreciated but not necessary.  But regarding the gifting, I really think it should be determined on a case by case basis.  There may be ladies who really enjoy their chocolates and flowers or prefer certain unique gifts.  After all there are many who have gift pages on their websites.

I hope that some providers who read the board can contribute their 2 cents regarding their personal preferences on gifts and tips, to guide us hobbyists here.  I do NOT want my last post to be construed as some universal gift-giving rule of thumb.  Simply that I know of cases where ladies seem to be getting certain kind of gifts in excess and where they've indicated to me, cash is a little easier on them.

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I have given was a surfing magazine subscription. We were both surfers and based on some emails I knew she did not get the magazine. Poor girl, I hope she does not think of me every month when it arrives (especially if she has just eaten).

However, beyond that one moment of inspiration my other gifts have been gift certificates and flowers. Think I will stick to cash in the future, and only when it is warranted.

Oh, you meant no extra needed for greek ... LOL

LOL, back to the drawing board! I used to bring something from around here (or VA at least) especially to visiting ladies. Virginia wines, peanuts, candy, etc.

What I want to know is where they HIDE all that stuff that won't go on the plane, while I am giving them more...

Virginia wines?  I'm surprised they didn't throw you out! LMAO  Now MARYLAND wines would be entirely DIFFERENT matter....

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I leave "impressions" too; just not the ones I intended.....~~

Girl, I'm not sure how many providers would feel comfortable about leaving their .02.  After all, they might feel doing so would leave the impression that they are ASKING for something.