... if some men masterbate too frequently WITHOUT COITUS, they can desensitize themselves to coitus. I'm talking over a significant amount of time. They get used to the feeling of their hand and the pressure they use and not to the feeling of the wetness and warmth of the vagina.
Just got out of a conference covering medicadtion, brain function, and addiciton. There was a small clip about stamina and guys inability to go "multiple rounds".
This isnt a problem for me, but when doing my due diligence prior to make an appointment with a provider, i do read many reviews that mention not being able to "get it up" for multiple rounds.
So, i'd thought i'd pass along the full video (only 16mins) which offers great info.
This doesnt mean seeing fewer providers, but more so to re-train your brain. Stay away from porn, dont manually take care of yourself, etc. This way, when its "game time" your brain & buddy downstairs will WANT to perform.
I understand not watching porn, but less masterbating? I always thought masterbating more allows you to have a quicker cum back haha That's the way it works for me anyways...Unless of course you mean no jacking off the day of?
... if some men masterbate too frequently WITHOUT COITUS, they can desensitize themselves to coitus. I'm talking over a significant amount of time. They get used to the feeling of their hand and the pressure they use and not to the feeling of the wetness and warmth of the vagina.
Are you saying over a significant amount of time your hand can start feeling better than pussy? Damn real life truly is stranger than fiction!
It's true! Some men (me until about a year ago) would masturbate so rough that I desensitized myself to the point that the only way for me to reach orgasm was through the same, rough, routine. I never realized it but I was squeezing my stuff pretty tightly and using silicon lube which is not as slick as water-based. Condoms were an immediate bone-killer, I seriously could not feel anything when wearing a condom. I listen to the Savage Love podcast and Dan said you need to retrain your body to feel a much lighter pressure / feeling. First, I just stopped all sex and masturbation for about a month, then, when I would masturbate, I would use the slickest gel and lightest pressure I could and only go for about 5 minutes. If I didn't cum, I'd quite, hit the shower or workout.
I'm happy to report that I have retrained my junk and now can enjoy sex with a condom (which I never could do before). I've also discovered other things that make me pop without having to use the "death grip" as an old girlfriend used to say. Mainly, when the lady stimulates my prostate, I pop big-time.
That's an interesting talk, I don't think one round vs. multiple rounds have anything to do with what this guy was talking about. I do think porn does desensitize you to regular sex, but I've been a one round guy forever (at least in span of an hour). When I read about some guys going 3 times or more in one session, I thought that they were lying or exaggerating, so I asked some of my regular providers. They said that about quarter of the guys can go twice in an hour. Then they confirmed that there are few guys that they see who can go 3 times in an hour. They call them rabbits who can go in 5 min or less and recover to do it again. Then there are guys who can also go straight for 30 min or more, but fortunately these guys are not multiple shot guys.
First, I agree with xnyong that talk is not about multiple rounds per session.
There is a refractory period for about 30 minutes for men, more if older. In a typical one-hour session there is not enough time for a second pop unless you pop at the start, which I'm not willing to risk a degradation of my performance. I enjoy the journey.
It is found that oxytocin increases during orgasm for both male and female and is chiefly responsible for the refractory period. This hormone may also be responsible for monogamous pair bonding. This suggests that monogamy is natural and normal.
This was a common topic on the Erotic Highway board when it was moderated by the Love Goddess. Lots of guys posted about an inability to finish vaginally. Her remedy for 'retarded ejaculation" (RE) was "no mas masturbation" as part of re-training your mind and cock to cum other than by manual stimulation. Her advice certainly helped me.
Say again the connection between oxytocin levels and the refractory period?
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First, I agree with xnyong that talk is not about multiple rounds per session.
There is a refractory period for about 30 minutes for men, more if older. In a typical one-hour session there is not enough time for a second pop unless you pop at the start, which I'm not willing to risk a degradation of my performance. I enjoy the journey.
It is found that oxytocin increases during orgasm for both male and female and is chiefly responsible for the refractory period. This hormone may also be responsible for monogamous pair bonding. This suggests that monogamy is natural and normal.
I'm now 53. MSOG in an hour is almost out of the question for me now. Since I've been hobbying I had one memorable day where I was rabbit style. Many years ago I scheduled for 3 providers in one day. The first was in the AM and the second was in the early evening say 7:PM so no degradation with that time span. However my plan for the 3rd session was to be at Midnight-ish but the provider said can I come now say say 9:PM. I knew performance may be an issue but I said WTF I'm on my way. Once at the appointment, chubby was taking his time getting in gear. No kidding, she realized this and commenced to "handeling" my dick the roughest it's ever been handled before, tugging, pulling, slapping it against my leg, etc.. Surprisingly, my dick responded with one of the hardest dick's I had in my post 20s age. We fucked I came and wow.....a three pop day. My dick was a bit sore afte that but nothing serious.
The PORN factor. I'm not a porn addict, or even watch it very often, only in spurts..pun intended. However, I can jerk off to porn and cum, continue watching the porn (new, different scene) and be hard and ready to pop in 30 - 45 minutes.
The only time I'm able to do this with a lady, provider or not in the last say 8 years is NEVER.
I subscribe to the theory the mind is the best viagra. But it takes two. So if my partner, provider or not, is not say, or does not say, have the ability to bring out the laytent second pop in me I aint gonna happen....in an hour time slot.
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That's the way it works for me anyways...Unless of course you mean no jacking off the day of?