Does it make you think twice about seeing her if a GFE provider also crosses over into the specialty/fetish category, like sensual domination for instance? And if you're more interested in domination, do you pass on the doms who also offer full GFE sessions?
If so, why? I'm curious, being a girl who is in this category Whit
I had a feeling that was sort of the consensus. I've realized I go in streaks. Either all GFE guys for a while, or all dom guys for a while. When I'm doing all GFE appointments, I play with dom in my free time and when I'm seeing mostly dom guys (and getting no cock might I add), I definitely go searching for civilians to fill the need.
I guess this leads me to another question, do most hobbyists believe that we don't enjoy our 'jobs'? That we all fake everything from the smile at the door, to the orgasm, to the smiley we send after you text later thanking us for a fun time.
I don't feel like I'm flipping a switch at all. I feel more like I'm spicing up my own sex life. Sex with my boys is part of my sex life. That's exactly how I started offering the sensual dom aspect. My regular GFE clients in Boston, after seeing them for a few years, eventually wanted prostate play added, then maybe a little tying up, then maybe me being a tad bossy and telling them what to do to me.
Either way, sensual dom or GFE, I kinda pride myself on not being a faker.
From this end of the computer screen, seeing a woman who does Dom & GFE, or GFE & Massage leaves one wondering well, which does she do better? And you have the nagging thought that you wonder who's going to show up to the session.
This is supported by reading some reviews. You can tell there are women who offer additional services, but the guys aren't all that thrilled with what they're getting. And there are some where in the reviews the issue doesn't come up.
As to the other question, when it comes to intimacy society has conditioned us to believe that women don't enjoy it, so it's a dilemma men face in ALL relationships. So it may be something we're just sensitive to all around.
I agree completely with Curly. Hobbying shouldn't be an "either or" proposition. I generally look for a lady who offers both GFE and domination. I like to play with a woman who takes control and "owns" my orgasm and won't let me cum until I've proven myself and satisfied her. Dirty talking, light bondage, CBT, boot worship, DATY, and prostate play are big turn-ons for me. I especially like being tied up as a dominant woman rides me in the CG or reverse CG position.
After an hour or so of sexy torments, I do like a GFE/BBJ/hand job ending. I don't want to be told to stand in the corner and jerk myself off. I rarely see traditional pro dommes any more because too many of those ladies don't want to help in the finish.
Great post, Ms. Whit. I would love to play with you again soon.
In my personal life I love VANILLA and also BDSM but I don't always get to act on BDSM so I love to add a little spice and get the best of both worlds when I can... I have gents who visit that just want a little play with Vanilla, such as light tease and denial.. that is very erotic... and then others who want full fledge of Vanilla or BDSM, either way my sessions and reviews show that I am totally into and love both.... It gets me wet personally... love the taboo and the excitement of it... as long as he really enjoys it and is having fun, that makes it even more arousing for me. Thinking bout it now getting me steamy....
My preference is GFE, and connection is really important. So first and foremost I'm looking for someone who's fun, likes to laugh and doesn't take themselves too seriously. I can somewhat get a sense of that through your websites and ads, but what's really helpful is a board presence that demonstrates those traits. Then I'll look at reviews to get a sense for other guys' experiences. Whether or not they also provide Dom doesn't factor in typically.
That said, there may come a time when I'll want to experiment some. Don't know that I'll ever want to be tied up or verbally dominated, but I'm not gonna lie...prostrate play sounds kinda interesting. And if I did go there, I would DEFINITELY want it to be with someone that I had already built a good GFE relationship with. Would never go see someone who only did Dom.
To your second question, I'm not naive and I try not to think too much about it, but I REALLY hope the girls I'm with find the session enjoyable. I don't feel like I need to make them cum 5 times, or even at all, because I know women just don't work like that, but I really do like to give as well as receive, and my hope is that the girls I spend time with come away feeling like they'd like to see me again. Maybe its vanity, but that's important to me.
I find being dominated very sexually exciting. In addition I find that ladies who practice domination tend not to rush the session. They usually take tremendous pride in what they are able to accomplish. The advantage of seeing a lady who also offers GFE is that she will usually take the domination activities to a different level than a pure dominatrix. I look forward to trying to see you
I prefer what one provider terms spicy vanilla. So I tend to to pass on the providers who must be one or the other.
A little GFE... A little BFE... A little PSE... A little Dom... A little Sub...
And mixing everything up so that we both get what we feel we need in that moment. Nothing scripted, just go with the way the appointment flows. One of the reasons I like longer appointments with spicy vanilla providers.
But I'm personally not into giving or receiving pain or humiliation, so I normally limit the BDSM activities to things like tease/denial, bondage, blindfolds, alternate sensations, etc.
Now if I could just find a provider that plays like that in the DC area... Big sigh...
makes me sad that certain people will not get to know my passionate sexy romantic fun side. just because I offer BDSM, Fetishes and domination. I have many sides of my personality. I genuinely enjoy having fun. I do not "play act". If there is every a time where I did not find this fun, I would retire
I've found that my varied experience & flexibility ultimately results in a better encounter for the client. Even the ones who say they aren't into kink have a great time with me. I feel no need to fake it, as I'm authentic in the way that I interact with clients. First and foremost, I'm a sex worker because its fun, emotionally fulfilling and allows me the freedom to pursue other interests. I get different needs met with different types of sessions. I'm an extremely kinky perv, I enjoy sex with multiple partners, and I love helping people. So, offering GFE/BDSM/FBSM makes perfect sense. Clients are free to choose one or a combination of any. I just wanna love people! You wouldn't want to eat the same exact food for every meal, would you? Just my thoughts...
I will not do anything I am not comfortable with. I am a provider , I provide fun, a laid back, sexually charged environment. I have fun no matter what is going on. If someone wants to make out, great. If someone wants to worship my body, or get a spanking, lovely.
As someone who is interested in GFE, vanilla or spicy vanilla, and erotic massage, a provider offering both GFE and BDSM/FemDom would not cause me to think twice, as long as the provider(s) made clear that they offered GFE with no BDSM or FemDom aspects.
For any providers that offer both types of service who are worried about possibly scaring off GFE customers, providing assurances and clarity (in websites and ads) that the GFE/vanilla services involve no pressure to try kink, BDSM, and FemDom activities could reduce the chance of scaring off customers. For example, if a provider's website has a heading and page titled Kink, BDSM, Fetish, FemDom etc., they might want to also add a page and heading labeled GFE or something similar. By heading, I mean the navigation links such as Intro, Services, Photos, Fees, FAQ etc that direct users to the right pages.
The main potential problem I see with providers offering both types of service is when less experienced GFE/vanilla providers decide to add BDSM to their service menu to increase business, but have no training or mentoring in ways to safely engage in BDSM without risking serious injuries or health problems.
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