had situation where provider pics were much different than girl. Is there proper way to handle? i don't wanna be rude and hurt someone 's feelings by walking out and also costing them money, but really not into the differences and not too happy the pics were not up to date.

I don't do reviews and if I did I wouldn't want to give negative review as provider is just trying to earn a living.

I'd be interested in providers thoughts also.

If guys grew a pair and stopped rewarding scam artists like your ho there would be less hos using fake photos.

Auto234, we appreciate when gentleman like you are polite and understanding.  If there is a huge difference, then you're absolutely allowed to tell her that and say "I'm sorry, but since your photos are not actually an accurate representation of you, I wouldn't like to continue our date."   If it were me, I'd be a little hurt, but would completely understand.

To "!_!", maybe don't refer to us as ho's.

And then read the newbie board- you can do a search about fake pics, bait & switch, and scam providers. And then- do your homework and check out the lady and her profile on TER and her reviews and even then if you don't know, then ask- has anyone seen her? Is she real? And always, always, always know, if it's too good to be true then dammit it is! A model type chick is not going for $120/ hr on BP, not gonna happen.  

And hey, anytime you want to give away free money to a lady trying to make a living, well let me forward you my number... Thanks! SMH!!!

Seeing him you don't write reviews but only came to cry about someone not being the girl or as good as the one in the pic and provide no links to her ad or site, thanks for nothing.

Hope the replies satisfy your curiosity

Goes to lengths stating his unwillingness to do anything about the situation other than rewarding the scammer for her bad behavior.  WTF??

Tricking someone into paying for something is a very mean thing to do. Sales people use human compassion all the time. They reel the customer in, make them look them in the eye, and it now becomes personal.  If it's a charity, advertise it as a charity. Discretion can make it hard to decipher what we look like, so there's always a surprise, but there's still an art to making the guy even more pleased to see you in person. The lying and cheating means there's a lack of skill in that area.

It's one thing to be generous, another to walk into and sit down in someone's trap. I get pissed off now when someone pulls the compassion bit with me, but they don't consider my needs or wants.

A car dealer used the whole, "come on, you're going to help me make a good sale, aren't you?" After realizing I was going to keep negotiating. Problem is, he had no consideration for my finances whatsoever. He pulled the compassion card out, and also asked me to do his job. I fell for it at 19 years old, but now I get angry and point out their scam. It's not MY job to make THEIR sale. They're the ones getting paid to do their job. If they want me to help them out with their sale, then pay me.

Sorry, if someone just opens their finances up to any scammer, they won't be helping anybody very soon. Protecting your finances from the unethical people makes more for the ones who are honest and do their job with care. Why not supply honest people instead of scammers, giving them even more power to do bad. Empower the decent workers.

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I think as Holly pointed out, it depends if there's a huge difference.  Ladies put up glamour shots, and its hard to match that same fantasy image in person. So if the pictures are glam pics taken by a professional photographer with some editing, I know when I walk in she won't look quite that good, but I will be dissappointed if she's much heavier, or looks completely different.

you bought something on eBay, but returned it because when it was delivered to you, it looked 10 years older and nothing like the photos?

No, you wouldn't feel bad. Because that person pulled a bait and switch on you.

Remember, this isn't match.com.  This is business. These ladies are charging a premium for their time.  When this happens, you walk the fuck out and don't think twice about it. And if she has that bat shit crazy look in her eyes, the leave a $20 bill on the dresser.  

Yes, they need to make a living, but they also need to be honest in how they represent themselves.

really did not know how to react.  She came to my room so I was unable to leave and froze on the thought of asking her to leave. Her pics were extremely flattering to her compared to the in person person.  In fact, as she went to the rest room I really struggled with whether I could go thru with the date.  When she came out I was ready to suggest that it might not work when she made a funny comment that caused me to laugh.  We chatted for a bit and I realized that I'd simply adjust my plan and accommodate the situation.  While I won't repeat with her, and likely overpaid for the services, the bbbjcim was really tremendous and her allowing my over the top breast play saved the day for me and it worked out.

...say "sorry this won't work" and just go. And hopefully she's not crazy as hell. -_-

You have every right to walk out if it is obvious you have been bait and switched. You will know. You were expecting a hot, tanned, athletic Mediterranean girl with dark beautiful hair, and instead you see a pudgy blonde with bad sunburn who obviously had too many children.  

But you have to move quickly and act convincingly. Just act a bit shocked and surprised and tell her you left your money in the car. This will look better if you pat your pockets at the same time as you recite your lines. Say ABSOLUTELY NOTHING about her appearance and her bait and switch scam. She knows that she is a pudgy blonde with bad sunburn and not that hot, tanned Mediterranean girl you were expecting. There is no point in agitating her. You just need to get out of there as peacefully as you can.  

She will quickly attempt to extort some type of deposit from you. She will know that you caught the scam and will try to salvage the situation. Act surprised and just a bit offended, and say "You don't trust me to return?" By this time you should be heading for the door. That's it. Once you're out the door, you're home free. She will continue complaining and screaming like an angry wife about your betrayal. Pay her no mind, just get out the door.

You're walking back to your car and wondering what the hell just happened. The agency or provider pulled a bait and switch scam on you. They shamelessly wasted your time and tried to rip you off, yet the provider in the hotel treated you as if you're the scammer and time waster. Outrageous, isn't it?

As you drive out of the hotel parking lot, the agency or provider might have the audacity to call your cell phone. This has happened to me twice. They're not through with you just yet. They tried to rip you off and you managed to escape that rabbit hole. Just turn off your cell phone and continue driving safely out of there. No need to hurry and create an accident. The next time you will do your homework and check her out on the TER before making a move.