I searched around and did not found much info on this subject..

Is it a common practice amongst hobbyist, when you are a provider in their stable, to drop you off their list if they call and want to see you and you are not available to accommodate their request? Usually a 'right now' request..

I have had two such events happen. Returning friends who call and I am either busy or not available when they want and they may say "I am so disappointed" and that is the last I hear from them...

IMHO this is poor practice on their part, as it may make me "not available" to them ever again...

What gives here???? It happens and should be expected...

Men have such fragile egos.  I’m sure they just couldn’t handle the rejection and didn’t want to risk it again with such a popular lady

Perhaps they felt that you were not interested in seeing them again.  I seriously doubt that because you seem like a pretty straight forward communicator and would have undoubtedly asked them to call some other time.  

Over on the GG side it seems that there is much more respect for people’s schedules which is why we see so many more meetings scheduled in advance AND people honoring those commitments (both provider and hobbyist).  Unfortunately the TS side of this hobby seems to be much more of an instant gratification thing.  Many TS providers and TS hobbyists demonstrate little respect for schedules.  Double booking by providers is common and no shows appear to be fairly frequent for both.  This we have discussed with respect to TS here before – your recent experience may just be the flip side of this issue.

All you can do is stay on the high road and deal with the consequences of other, less considerate, people’s behavior.  Such is life, unless you should choose to become more like one of them.

Take care,


TS Tempted

Regretfully,

I think you will find that this where the concept of "if I am paying for it I want when I want it" comes from.

It is not right. Regretfully it just is.

If they are like that it is probably better that you do not see them anyway. When people start treating you like a thing who knows where it might lead.

Very good points..

Nobody on TER talks about it, but something many "hobbyists" are buying is acceptance, only incidentally in the form of sex.  While some of us are seeking variety or adventure or libido gratification or physical stimulation, others are trying to compensate for shyness or some other inadequacy, real or imagined.

Having an appointment cancelled -- by someone whose very profession defines acceptance -- is a form of rejection, the pain and humiliation of which can be far out of proportion to the real event.  Risking a repeat of such a rejection, or even being reminded of it, is too much to ask of some fragile egos.

...to the disappointment level you show him at the time he calls. Personally, if I really like a lover whom I cannot see on the requested date and time, I will let him know how disappointed I am that I cannot accomodate his request I will then give him a reason to call back (next time ill spend a couple hours with you for a single session price) for example...

The other thing you may want to consider (if you haven't already), is a VIP list. I will see a VIP lover as priority to a new customer. Thats the way it has to be. Most of my VIP lovers dont even know they are on my list but...I treat them accordingly.

Now I need a VIP vers guy to fight me for top position this evening!!!

- Jas

Jas - Please come back to NY or LI soon, and I'll do my best to get on that list!

If my imagination counts at all tonight, I know I would of been at the top of the list.

Not to downplay Stuart11105's request, and I am sure NY is great.

But, Pretty Please with Sugar on Top, Stop in Detroit first.

give me special treatment.

xoxoxo

Yes, I did just that... Offer up myself for their next available time..

Don't we all keep such list??? Seems like a good business practice to me.. Try a 1024 bit encrypted mysql database.. Not enough super computer time to crack it seeing how they have yet to break 128 bit encryption...
Nothing like discrete....

Me first,

I said pretty please.

How about pretty please with sugar on top.



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XOXOX

Now I am just begging.

Happy New Year

- Jas

I think there is also a simple escort client thing going on as well.

Some guys only have certain windows of opportunity when they can meet a girl.  And most guys I know want to visit different girls but tend to repeat with the girls they had good experiences with.  If a girl can't meet them, even if she's his ATF, he probably has a couple other girls in mind often one or two that are new and he'll give them a call next.  If he has a nice time with the new girl then that new girl is in the mix.  So add that to what the other people have said and it's easy for a girl to get pushed down a little on his list of phone numbers and the girl won't hear from that guy for a while.  And if the new girl turns out to be a new ATF, then it may be a long while if ever.

Nichole, how can you bill yourself as "just a country girl".  From a quick look on the web you are obviously a gifted photographer, excellent writer and communicator, and can even program the AB SLC's!

Now that's an incredible package.  Hope to see you soon.   -Steve