one of my favorite movies, was probably the Tom Cruise breakout hit, Risky Business. One of the absolutely great lines from that movie is very simply, "sometimes you just have to say what the fuck".  This is one of those times, if you don't you will forever wonder, I wouldn't put myself through that.  Hell after getting off that plane I would run like hell to her appartment, then if is bad you will have the rest of your trip to make up for it, and if it is as good as it would seem to be everything will have a new benchmark.  Good luck!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!