So, I have been in the hobby for some time.  A fair amount a variety.  But never have been with a TS.  

When I surf for porn, or even spend time on here, I start with regular girls.  Then in the search find a few D/s providers, and it gets more interesting.  Then if a TS provider pop's up on my review search, I reluctantly, read the review.  Then starts me wanting to just search for TS.  

Same with porn.  Start regular, but to me, the ultimate intense fantasy is with a TS.  But I cant seem to cross the line. I must say, what turns me on totally is the fantasy of being "used" but more in a tender loving way.  Its incredibly hot, to be an orifice (one or more) to pleasure that cock.  But I love the girl talking to me, caressing me, as she uses me.

Seems like a drug.  I start with MJ, but then it quickly leads, in fantasy to heroin. Now I do not do drugs nor have I ever, but it just seems like, for me, when I start surfing, that TS fantasy is the ultimate.  

Some of my stopping points?  
Many more of the TS advertiser seem seedy.  Many cannot spell.  Many seem like their about getting the guys in and out.  Many many more seem to be falsely advertising - photo of something they are not.  
Plus, I am really nervous that my 1st time should be with the right person.  Yes I do have an idealized fantasy, but I worry that if I get a lousy experience, i'll really feel turned off.

So, question:  how do I quench my intense desire?  Try to ignore and get it out of my system?  Take the plunge?  Yes, I've done lots of research, but I am not in an area where there are many providers, have to travel.

Anyway, there's my rant.

You pointed out a lot of the negatives with t-girls but are they any different than GGs? Many of them have the same drawbacks and there are fakes everywhere, both T-girls and GGs. But there are also the good ones! And remember that sometimes t-girls are bad at spelling because english is their second language!

If you are really interested, read reviews, find the right girl, and go see her. There are plenty that will satisfy your fantasy. In my opinion, there is no sexual experience more intense or wonderful than with a good t-girl.

Great post, well thought out.  You have hit on most of the major concerns about trying a TS, and you also are looking for a specific type, which is a sensual top.  Many TS providers are bottoms and "fake" top the best they can, but you can tell who is really into it.  I had the same concerns when I first took the plunge, but did my research and avoided duds in most cases.  Be selective, as you appear to be doing, and you should be able to find the right one for your first experience.

If you can travel, I highly recommend TS Rachel in Chicago.  I have been with her twice, most recently including Audrey Davis, her GG partner, which was absolutely mind-blowing with the two of them together.  Rachel is the ultimate pro and will no doubt give you the experience you describe.  She will mix GFE and PSE however you want it.  She does come with one warning - she is highly addictive and you will want more!

If you can't travel, I recommend keeping an eye out for Christie L'Amour, a GG who travels frequently and extensively, and last year had a great TS friend traveling with her.  Having a female provider with the TS could make you more comfortable and Christie is another pro who will give you the experience you want.  You may want to email her to find out when she is traveling to your area and let her know what you are interested in.  She has always been great with me via email and I'll bet she will get a charge out of helping you pop this cherry.

Best of luck and please post a review when you finally do it!

I started getting interested in the same way you described.  If you are like me, you enjoy hetero sex, but you are really curious as to what it is like to be penetrated.  The idea of being with another guy doesn't really do it for you, but you see all of this hot TS porn and it turns you on.  A lot of those TS's in porn are also providers, so you know that there are some really attractive one's around.

I started visiting TS's about 10 years ago.  I just saw one today.  I consider myself straight, and am married.  But I love submitting to a great TS experience.  Yes there are bad one's, but the good one's will blow your mind.  If you call one up and get a bad vibe, politely back out of the transaction.  

My top three sexual experiences by far have been with transsexuals.  It's an experience that you should try... just beware... you might still be doing it 10 years later ;O

I would personally join the others in encouraging you to take the plunge, but since you expressed interest in D/s, you might dip your foot in the shallow end by first trying strap-on play with a genetic female or post-op TS as an intermediate step.  

And before even doing that, you should be doing some self-experimentation with butt plugs or other ass toys to find your male G-Spot and have your anal canal ready to be explored with something larger than a finger.  It takes a little practice.  Doesn't hurt to also learn how to give yourself a proper douche cleansing before playing, either, so that you're clean "down there" before you have your first session.  Just sayin'.

As quite a few are available.  You may have to travel as you say, but if you are going to do this, you may as well do it right.  Go check out Eva Lynn, Foxxy, Vanilla, Sunshyne Monroe, Morgan Bailey, Domino Presley, Jessica Fox, etc...on the pornotubes and if one tickles your fancy, it would be fairly easy to find most of those girls with a little research and some airfare

thx for the feedback, it helps.
as I read your responses, it hits me, that in my fantasy with a TS, a unique feature is the focus is not on me cumming, its more about me servicing and wanting to be the best job I can of getting her to cum, pleasing her, and the expression on her face.
no, I don't get it at all, but its powerful...thx for your help

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