ok so this guy came over and since I've been screwed so many times in the past b4 i now start asking for the donation up front b4 anything happens and case and point this guy came over today tried to make out and do all the stuffs right away and i stopped told him to put the donation on the table and he said he left his wallet in the car and that he would get it later after were done? like are you serious i told him to go get the donation in the car and come back but he won't leave i was so scared cause i thought he was gonna snap and do the worst like hurt me and rape me but thank god he left but his still harassing me until now calling me and texting me i don't know what to do I'm still a lil freaked out.

Google his phone number and maybe by chance you get a hit on some type of personal information from him.  Many times, people will sell things online and when you google their number, the old ad comes up.  You can find all kinds of stuff from the point forward.

Then when he calls back address him by his real name and tell him to fuck off and one more call and you go to his wife

Was wondering about how much self confidence you ladies would have to have to even do this to begin with, but stuff like that is over the top. Don't know what the deal is with conceal and carry in CA, but if it is in your home, you have every right to defend yourself, and don't see any reason why you would not have a weapon on hand for just in case. Too bad, that's not a nice trick at all.

if you have another phone then start calling him, every few minuets just keep blowing his phone up.
different times, day and night, play the game until he breaks.

That is the oldest trick in the book that a lot of hobbyists try to get over on providers with. As matter of fact one guy raised the question on this board a few months ago why female providers accept the donation after the session and why tg providers demand it upfront. This incident that you had is the perfect answer for that question. Just be careful I suggest you may wanna blacklist this guy on verifyhim.com

i will do that thanks brooke

i have pepper spray

This is the typical asshole abuser/bully who probably beats up his gf/apouse in his private life.  While I understand the reluctance of any provider to involve law enforcement in their lives......it won't hurt to tell this dick over the phone that you've filed a police report, given his number to law enforcement, etc.

The vast majority of these guys are such punks that the thought of confrontation with another guy (esp one with a badge and a gun) scares the shit out of them. Good luck.

You have to decontaminate the place afterwards. As long as you have something that if the client is not leaving, and you feel your safety is threatened, you have options for protecting yourself. Maybe a taser is what you need if you don't feel comfortable with other options. They are selling them at sporting goods stores now, at least here they are.

I definitely advise the taser route.  Unless you know how to handle a gun in close quarters it can cause more harm than good and some people can't actually commit the act of shooting someone. Pepper spray is messy and unreliable. Tasers are fantastic...debilitates immediately...I've used them, very reliable. Just make sure you are charged. And find q brave friend to try it on so you are confident that it would work in a real situation.

Expect the best but prepare for the worst.