Not going to give out real world info , won't do it for any escort I contact through text show up on time pay as agreed upon . I understand you frustration but it's part of the game for both parties involved have meet scammer providers as well it's an unfortunate reality
Too many losers have been treating my website's booking form like a computer game and I don't have the patience for it any longer. I need to start screening to avoid this. How can I make new clients feel comfortable with giving me real world screening information as a trans escort? I know some men are very secretive about their attraction to trans women and don't want to risk the possibility of anyone finding out, but I'm sick of people giving me fake names, lying about their age, and filling out my booking form for shits and giggles.
Readytorock1- I already know that you don't provide screening information to TS providers so you don't have to comment. Thank you.
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Just to get this out of the way first, I don’t treat trans girls, ladyboys, CDs, whatever, any different from anyone else. So, with me at least, nobody is being singled out.
Now, screening is a hot potato. Clients don’t want to do it because it puts our personally identifiable info out there. Always a huge security risk. So, I don’t give out screenshots of my Drivers license, etc. Never going to happen. But, I can understand how providers want some way to vet clients for safety. It’s a difficult situation.
The only thing I can come up with is to let the provider know that I am a member here, and they can see my reviews, and that I’m not a creep. Maybe provide a video call online. That’s anonymous enough to where it’s not readily disclosed personally identifiable info, but enough to where the provider can get to some info for support if needed. Not great, but showing membership on an online community should cover the bases. I’m no genius, but that should suffice.
Thank you for your input. I've met some really great people without screening, but they all contacted me through text or email with everything we needed for the session. The issue I'm dealing with is men misusing my booking form. I may get rid of the form and just use my website to direct potential clients to text or email me with the details for a booking, because that seems to work most of the time. I just liked having the form because it's very fast and convenient, but what's the point if it's not used properly? I'm sure I'll be okay, just a little disheartened by the time wasters.
As far as using a TER account for screening... that's a tough one because I would be completely deterred from a client if they shared their TER with me and I found out they like to pick fights, insult other users, talk about women like animals, and leave nitpicky reviews. If they were like you, I would love to see them, though, haha. It really depends, but as I said, I'll figure it out and be just fine.
FFS
no way am I giving you my real name
I've been 60 for the last 6 years,
and if I send a picture it's probably 5 years old
Deal with it
I've only ever been asked for a picture once, by a white trans provider. Asian girls have never asked
Is the right business for you?
I understand your frustration. Unfortunately a lot of guys would get turned off if you asked for any personal info. Like you said in your post "a lot of men are secretive about their attraction to trans women". So why would they want to give up any personal information? Especially to someone they don't even know? That being said, I think Facetime screening or asking for a small deposit of 10 - 20% of your rate would clear out a lot of time wasters.
I personally don't use my real name & never gave any other personal information up. In my opinion it's too invasive, not to mentioned I've been blackmailed before. However, I am willing to send pictures of myself through Whats App that can only be view once or get on facetime to verify it's me. And will occasionally send a deposit if I really want to meet.
Thank you! This sounds feasible. I appreciate the advice.
Not going to give out real world info , won't do it for any escort I contact through text show up on time pay as agreed upon . I understand you frustration but it's part of the game for both parties involved have meet scammer providers as well it's an unfortunate reality
There are risks on both sides for providers and clients, but providers are in the more vulnerable position.
I don't send photos, filling out forms or disclosing anything. I don't negotiate price either. I am respectful handsome and fit for an older gentleman. Want a good time and get paid well take me for a spin. lol ditch the form and requirements it's called the cost of doing business!!
So providers are supposed to just take your word for it and go in 100% blind? I’ve done it many times before and had great experiences, but I’m beginning to realize how bizarre tha actually is lol. It’s nice to know who you’re seeing beforehand.
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Personally I don't fill out screening info for "shits and giggles", and I don't understand why guys play with providers time, but that's me. But you said you're sick of people giving out fake names, so I ask, is "LucyJane" your real name? Is that the name you go by IRL? If not, why should clients be required to give their real name? Worse case scenario, a client can lose everything e.g. family, friends, job if outed for seeing escorts, let alone TS escorts. Providers get away with a lot of shit, mainly their thought process that a client should give up his identity while they (the provider) is allowed to keep their identity private.
I don't understand a client lying about their age, I don't, but to each his own, but at the end of the day, why does age matter? If it's a personal preference for you then why not just put it in your ad that you don't see clients under a certain age or over a certain age?
I prefer simple interactions e.g. are you who you say you are (the girl in the pics), what are your rates, and when are you available. PID, deposits, etc. all depend on how hot you are and how bad I want to see you, per your reviews. At the end of the day busting a nut is not that important to risk sending drivers licenses, LinkedIn pages, and or something that can be used to doxxx me later on. All this PID crap started coming into play when providers decided to get on their "Golden Pussy Syndrome" and not accept simple forms of screening like TER PMs and P411.
Whenever providers bring up real safety and logistical concerns, clients always try to jump into defense mode and act like we’re on equal playing fields when we’re not.
Clients are expected to provide their real names while providers aren’t because men/clients are the more dangerous/threatening party in a client-provider dynamic. There is no tangible benefit to a client knowing an escort’s real name, but there are countless benefits to knowing a client’s real name—-> criminal record, potential blacklist info, name to give to the police if he harms you, etc.
Worst case scenario for a client is losing their wife and being judged by their asshole friends and family; worst case scenario for a provider is losing their LIFE, not to mention that we ALSO stand to lose our reputation, friends, family, job, significant others, etc. if a client decides to expose us which has happened many times before
We are on equal playing fields , both parties have equal investment we both invest time and resources there is risk on both sides . Providers aren't using there real name as well as clients aren't either most of the time . I do into it believing treat on as you would like to be treated most guys are there to enjoy have a good time pay what's required and on your way .
I never said that clients don’t risk anything, but providers are in a more vulnerable position 100% of the time, especially considering that most escorts are female and most clients are male. Providers can also be exposed, blackmailed, robbed, etc and it’s more likely because men commit those crimes at a higher rate than women, not to mention the threat of VIOLENCE as well. I wish clients would stop playing the victim and acknowledge all that we put on the line. We are not the same and that’s okay. Just act accordingly.
A trans woman just literally stabbed a client because he wouldn't have sex with her. I used to follow that same girl on IG where I saw her expose an rapper by videoing him through her peep hole. Crazy goes both ways, there is equal risk. For the client, it's being doxxed. And most providers have their faces uncovered so I doubt family knowing what they do is an issue, it may be for providers who blur their pics. It's wild that you think clients trying to protect themselves from being exposed/ruined is playing victim. Besides danger, the client is taking the majority of the risk, the high majority of us just want to pay for some ass, have a good time and move on, not risk our entire identity and hope the providers doesn't post that shit on Twitter/X.
Not trying to play the blame game or have a danger measuring contest, but if i can't send a simple PM or screening request on P411 to see a provider, it just isn't meant to be, I simply pass. Busting a nut is never gonna be worth me send a LinkedIn, or driver's license, that's just insane to me.
"Crazy goes both ways, there is equal risk"
Crime statistics say otherwise.
"For the client, it's being doxxed."
I'm tired of you clients acting like you lead countries when most of you have regular jobs with little to no social capital. No one cares that Billy Bob from Indiana saw a $400/hour escort once back in 2021. Get over yourselves.
"It's wild that you think clients trying to protect themselves from being exposed/ruined is playing victim."
I don't think clients trying to "protect themselves from ruin" (you're proving my point with that line right there) is playing victim. I think that conjuring up random hypotheticals that have a less than 0.5% chance of occurring to justify not sharing vital information with escorts is playing the victim.
You sound delusional, and completely full of yourself. Most people live check to check, not some fairy tale land you live in where they're worth millions and can afford being doxxxed, then divorced, and have there life ruined. Billy Bob, working his regular job, with no social capital, doesn't have to lead a country, but without him writing reviews, where would TER/escorting be? I can see now you're jaded asf.
You're right, most people live check to check, so why are you and so many other men who see escorts acting like you have to maintain a squeaky clean image to remain in high society or something? Like I said, no one gives a rip what Bill Johnson the mechanic from TN does with his life. Divorce will not "ruin his life" because he doesn't have any wealth to give to his wife if she leaves him. Please stop bringing this red pill, men are victims narrative to the sex work industry. We have zero time for this nonsense.
Your so ******** clueless and naive it's painful to read
Bill the mechanic could lose his family, his children, his friends, livelyhood,his home etc etc consequences could be catastrophic if some vindictive whore decides to out him.
If you ever feel like outing a client, think twice before doing something you can't undo.
Good thing I would never out a client. I still don't think you and other men who see providers are victims and refuse to play into that toxic narrative. And like I've said probably a dozen times on this thread, escorts stand to lose all of the same things that clients risk losing and they're targeted far more in the provider-client dynamic because men commit more crimes than women. End of discussion. All that needs to be said has been said. We're getting nowhere and I don't care to play a game of "who's the poorest victim".
At the end of the day, you do what makes you feel safe and comfortable. You don’t need every guy’s business. If they don’t like what you are asking, they can go with other options. I understand why some guys prefer not providing screening information. I also understand why most escorts ask for it. Different strokes for different folks.
And I realize that I may be missing out on some fine ladies due to that, but it's just not been all that common a practice among trans escorts, so there have been plenty of fine ladies to fulfill my wants.
I think you just have to accept the fact that screening is going to cull some percentage of the client base, and if there are plenty of guys wanting your company, then it need not be a big problem for you.
IDK if the "2 provider references" system works well in the trans escort world. When I used to see lots of cis ladies, it was pretty common and worked out well. As I recall there was only one or two instances when I shared personal information that might have been a basis for doxxing, and those were for some irresistible porn stars. I felt 90% confident that it would be okay, but 10% nervous about it, but ... irresistible.
But a web form is clearly going to be an invitation to the Beavis and Butthead crowd. Maybe only offer a link to the form after an initial contact?
Benjamin Franklin.
Works every time.
I think Dfusethesituation made a lot of good points about why guys don't like "screening". There's an obvious risk for the customer and the idea is completely contrary to one of the pillars of this industry; discretion. I also don't understand the benefit to providers either. IDs can be easily faked, especially by LE or people who wish to do you harm. I will always skip a girl who wants to screen me. Fuck that.
Also, you're asking a lot of questions that are thoughtful and I appreciate how you approach your business. I think you might benefit from having some insight from other providers in addition to customers, so I hope you know a few and talk business with them too.
Answer is already out there, and its easy. Register as a provider on TS4rent.eu, which is essentially a TS/TS admirer community. (And plenty of TVs as well, and more are welcome!) The site is unique, as it allows reviews to be posted, and providers to reply/acknowledge those reviews. So Jack posts, right on the providers listing, "yes, I had a nice visit with jill today", and jill can reply, "yes thanks jack, it was great meeting a true gentleman like you". You can even contact other providers regarding any potential admirers.
The site has been out there for 10 (?) years, so there are many many highly reviewed gals and clients with multiple reviews. If the admirer has posted 5-6 reviews over 2-3 years, with 2-4 provider replies, you know hes safe.
Done.
But not every client who books trans providers is a premium member on TS4Rent. Screening this way would eliminate over 90% of potential clients.
Run your business the way you wanna run it. dont let them tell you how to run your business. Plenty of people who are serious will have no problem providing you the info you need. Would i personally ask for ID, ssn, or their mother's maiden name? probably not, you gotta find balance in what you need to feel comfortable to conduct your biz in a way that makes you feel safe. This forum has mostly mongers who have been in the game too long and they are set in their ways. the business has moved past their way to view the world a long time ago. (sorry guys but its true). Asking for deposits has become the industry standard so asking for some. Review ads in your town and other popular cities like NYC and copy some of their tactics. There is nothing wrong with that.
Listen to people here who instead of tell you what to do, they encourage you to find your voice and your niche. You will have slow times and good times, you will have annoying people and you will have gentle, kind people who want to spend quality time with you will understand what that takes. What is most important is, dont compromise your values for people who wanna push you around and violate your boundaries, cuz once they do, they will just keep trying to see how much more they can push you around with donations etc.
It took me years to get a nice customer base, lots of self doubt, second guessing myself. you gotta hang in there. i once got approached by a reviewer from this site during the days when TER was more relevant. he was very quick to say he wouldnt pay for my services because he would write me a review. I was very quick to invite him to have intercourse with himself. although i remember using other words at the time. Good Luck!!! you will do great!!! stay strong!!!
Thank you and you’re so right. I need to stop seeking validation and approval from others, especially those who are committed to being contrarians and tearing you down no matter what you say. I’m just trying to gain footing and find my place in this industry. Thanks again.
I 100% understand why providers need to feel safe. You never know who is walking through that door, but for me I will explain my age, race, general demeanor through a text app.
I will never send a deposit, send a photo of my identification, use a video chat other than Telegram which I have anonymized, or send work information. I understand that these rules on my part limit who I can see, but I don't think providers understand how many scammers are out there. How often have you guys received texts from the supposed cartel with photos of bodies missing heads? If you use your real phone number, facetime with your real apple ID, use whatsapp attached to your real phone number, those fake cartel texts list your name.
As far as sending a photo of an ID, why would someone have a photo of your ID if they are arrested? It makes no sense.
The deposit is the most humorous move to me. I'm going to send money through a service that has my information, a digital record of what I am doing, for an activity that is not legal?
Single guys who are self-employed might not care about any of this. Married guys and guys employed by companies that have increasingly become more concerned about public image are foolish to mess with any of these verification methods.
Lucy Jane - it seems like the first move is to drop the web form. Seems like it's not doing you any good. As you can see from these posts, you expand or limit your customer base depending on your screening requirements.
“I understand why providers need to feel safe but refuse to do anything to ensure their safety”. Goodbye sir.