Nothing is taboo IMHO, since you are a paying customer (EOM)

a few answers!!!!!!!

Yes it is appropiate to ask preference , if is not said in the ad
About the recent picture ....the answer will be yes ,even if is not
Do not ask (are you really that big? do you live alone?when was the last time you came?is that really you in the picture?

Those questions will only irritate the provider
and she can always lie........
i hope i was helpful.

many ads instruct you to not ask sex-specific questions... many providers immediately reply with "What did my ad say?".... but I have been burned enough that I will begin asking more specific questions... I recently had a major turnoff with a beautiful provider in NYC.... the action was extremely limited with her and she said that I should have asked on the phone... can't win... I think the questions should be asked, discretely....

I find that I ask questions in stages.

1) First contact, "are you available and if she doesn't already post them, what are your rates".

2) Second contact.  "Are there any things that you consider taboo during our session. Fill me in on the do's and don’ts so I don't do something silly that might ruin it for both of us."

3) Final contact. Just before the date, call and ask, can I bring you anything, wine flowers. (use your imagination here). This gives you and her an opportunity for last minute question you may have missed in question 2.

Question number 2 is the most important one. By using an open ended question but phrasing it as a "hey... can you give me advise, since we don't know each other yet" This serves two purposes. It puts the provider at ease and starts a dialogue. You are letting her set the ground rules and setting up a situation of mutual respect. Trust me, if she feels you will respect her, she will give you better service. This also let's you know what goes and what doesn't. That will tell you whether you should expect FS or something less. This then let’s you decide if her rates are worth it.

So as an example, on one occasion when I posed question #2, a provider told me she was more of a top than a bottom. For me that was fine. It also established up front what my expectations should be. So during the session, I did not try to top her and let her have control from the beginning. We had a great time.

Now after asking question number 2, if a provider puts back to you, "well... what are you looking for" you’d better be prepared to answer that question. Write it down if you have to before hand. I've read here that many providers get pissed when a guy doesn't know what he wants. I saw one provider write that she couldn't read minds. I think she was right.

Now if a provider gets flippant with you, then my strong advice is to move on. My experience has been that if they can't handle question number 2, if I then went to the session, it always ended badly. I no longer go to sessions that don’t pass the test of question 2.

As far as discussing money or specific services. You can simply ask, is it ok to discuss that over the phone? Trust me, she will let you know.

I had one lady tell me she does not like the words provider or session and will not accept them in a discussion. She said instead use words like photo shoot. So whenever I call her I ask her if she is available for a photo shoot. Weird? Maybe, but it's her choice and I must respect it.

I had another lady tell me up front that the donation must come in an envelope and must be put in a silver tray in the bathroom and to never discuss it. It seemed a little odd at first, until I realized that it was a perfect defense if I turned out to be LE. If we never talked about it and she never asked for it, then technically it was something I simply left behind and of course she couldn’t control what I did in her bathroom. Wink. Wink.

Hope this helps.


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