Would I date or marry a TS?....Sure, I would.

Would I worry about what someone might say?...Hell, no.  If the girl is really important to me then the other people in my life would have to accept and respect her or hit the road.

Saying smak about her?...They could hit the road, RIGHT NOW.

As far as disclosure of "extra parts", that is her decision and if I love her, I will respect it.

Nuff said.

thegiver

Hello Kylie,
Good Question. I feel that the TS is still taboo as was homosexuality 20 yrs. ago.  I think in time TS relationships might be more "acceptable."  As for me, I would NOT be open to dating a TS for the reasons you bring up.

THATS A VERY GOOD QUESTION  AS FOR ME  I AM CURRENTLY IN A SITUATION THAT I WOULD LIKE TO DATE A TS AND I THINK SHE WOULD ALSO LIKE THAT, BUT FOR REASONS THAT YOU SAID I AM UNSURE, BUT SHE IS TOTALY PASSABLE SO I DONT THINK ANYONE WOULD FIND OUT UNLESS THEY WERE TOLD AND IF I DO DECIDE TO TAKE THE STEP AND DATE HER  I GUESS IF THE ISSUES CAME UP IN THE FUTURE I WOULD JUST DEAL WITH THEM WHEN THE TIME COMES

Great question.  I would like to think that I would be able to do it -- but it would be a challenge as you point out.  Have only been with a couple TS's -- have really enjoyed there company -- one in particular have seen multiple times -- I could see having a relationship I guess -- she is very nice and we get along great.  I hope like anyone -- that if the TS provider was someone I really cared about then I would want to date them -- but I guess you never know until you try it.  Great question though -- really made me think.  Good luck!

You are spectacularly beautiful.  I have seen your page on Eros and hope to meet you someday.

I would have no problem with introducing you to my friends or family.

If anyone talked any smack, they would be off my friends list.

I went to a certain college because a couple of my friends who I looked up to as musicians went there.  They listened to black music, and played songs written by black people.  I was shocked when they criticized me for dating a black girl.  It was like suddenly finding myself in the Twilight Zone.  I stopped hanging out with them.

Going to TS providers in this country and in Europe has been a mixed experience, although I have never gone to one who has had SRS like you have.  It can sometimes be highly uninspiring, even depressing when the girl is psycho, greedy, or numb, but then other times it can be fulfilling and a genuinely friendly  and uplifting experience.

Other girls who still look somewhat male may not have it as nice as you do.  And, I might not be as attracted to them.

Hope this answers your question.  See the link for an article I wrote for Urnotalone.com.

Best wishes to you -

- LAA

I'm not as aggressive a dater as most young men my age, that is, I don't typically go "on the hunt" for women that I'd like to date.  Most of my girlfriends have been women who seem enticing under casual circumstances like grocery-shopping, waiting at the car wash, etc.  While I'm certainly attracted to TS women, I have yet to acquaint myself with any that are not providers.  If I were interested in a woman enough to ask her out on a date, only then to find out later that she was TS, that wouldn't turn me off from the relationship.  As far as introducing her to my friends and family, I'm would step out on a limb to try it if the relationship meant that much to me.

Kylie, I have some questions for you, along a similar topic:  I have been with five ts providers.  Four of these women have either offered to waive their fees for me, or have asked me to visit them again whenever I'd like without worrying about paying.  I've paid anyway, but I don't visit them a second time out of fear that they might be interested in me as being more than a customer.  Is this a common practice among providers, perhaps to make a customer feel wanted and thereby ensuring a higher rate of customer return?  Or do you waive your fee when youre attracted to the guy visiting you?  It sure is awkward, whatever the case may be.

Kylie:

My attraction to TS women is a relatively recent one, as you might or might not remember from the time we talked once, but I have yet to actually get together with one in the flesh to see what the experience would be like, so I can only go on the conjecture of my fantasies at this point.
At this point, my only "contacts" with TS women have been via magazines, porno tapes, or talking to a couple from Eros when they were in town. That being said, I have often fantasized and wondered about what it would be like to go with a passable TS versus one that maybe isn't. It all comes down to their appearance. I think I would love going out in public with someone such as Lilienne Li or Sapphire not only because I'm attracted to them for different reasons, but also because they seem so passable and effeminate in my eyes. It would be such a rush not only to come home to them everynight and to introduce either one to friends and strangers as my significant other knowing that my girl was extra special and that we were getting over on everyone knowing of our little secret. I don't know if I could go far enough to say I'd introduce her to family members.
On the other hand, if the woman wasn't as passable as the aforementioned and I was still attracted to her for some reason enough to have relationship, I might relegate and confine our affair to midnight rendevous at our places. I don't think I personally could handle all the whispers and stares from others. Hopefully she would understand my reluctance to have our affair out in the open to everyone but still get a rush out of the illicity of it all.



...My kingdom for Sapphire or Lilienne li!

I would be very open to dating a TS. I also know that my family would not care who I married as long as that person would love me and treat me right. As for my friends if they could not accept who I am in love with and willing to spend the rest of my life with then I would say that they were never really my friends and do not deserve my partners or my friendship.

Certainly I would date or Marry a TS if I cared enough about them... I would not be concerned abuot others opinions either though I would be hesitant to make my choices known until there was an established realtionship! And i would stick up for her just as as I would any other girl friend...

WELL I AM NOT MARRIED OR INVOLVED AT THE MOMENT. OVER THE LAST COUPLE OF YEARS I FIND THAT I GET ALONG VERY WELL WITH TS & TV AND WOULD VERY MUCH LIKE TO DATE A TS WITHOUT THE BUSS PART BEING IN THE WAY. SOME PROBLEMS I FACE ARE I AM NOT WHAT MOST TS LOOK FOR I AM SHORT, BALD AND A BIT OVERWEIGHT NOT ALOT- SO ITS HARD TO MEET TS IN CHICAGO THAT ARE NOT WORKING. MY FAMILY WOULD BE OK WITH IT, IF NOT  THEY HAVE TO RESPECT WHO I AM WITH OR ELSW

Great question, Kylie.  As for dating or marrying a TS, love happens and one can't always help it.  Were I openly dating a TS and someone were to talk smack about her, I would defend her just as I would defend anyone else I cared about.

TS is behind the G/L revolution and still has a way to go, maybe not for ourselves but most certainly for many family members and friends, as tglover said above.  While we and our friends may be willing, the reactions of others is not ours to control.  I would also add that because someone is unwilling to 'out' a relationship, does not necessarily mean that they are embarassed about it.  They may be protecting their own happiness from a family or friendship that is not ready for reality.

Nice article BTW, LAAdmirer.

LOL this cracked me up. Recently I had to go "home" (another city far far away) and a friend(TS) here in Houston wanted to visit some of her friends in my hometown.She tagged along for the ride.My family never suspected a damn thing.We stayed at a relatives place for a couple nights.the punch line>>> One of my idiot cousins got drunk and hit up on her. HAD NO clue she was packing a bigger cock than he was.I debate,sheould i tell his crazy ass the truth? He wouldnt believe me anyways.

I did LEGALLY marry a post-op TS TWICE.  Once in 77 and then in 81.  My SO and I have been together for 4 years is a pre-op whom will have SRS in early 05.  I have dated over 30 post-op's and many pre-op's.  Not bragging but I started in 1968 during the swinging 60's& 70's.  I find TS women unique and very sensual.

Re:A question for the guys?

Let's be real here,having a relationship with a TS girl is way out of the mainstream and could have serious social repercussions if our straight friends/co-workers/supervisors/family found out. I have always been pretty much a loner so having a TS gf where her and I did things together and kept to ourselves would be good but I am not going to tempt fate and fly in the face of conventional wisdom by going public with the fact that I have such unusual desires.