Why not?

Vic:

Welcome!  I noticed your ad in Dallas a while back and am very glad to see you participating.  In all the years I’ve been active on this board I don’t ever recall another FtM participating nor can I recall seeing any ads for FtM providers.  Your questions are an interesting twist on the “Am I gay?” question that pops up on transsexual forums from time to time.  Since no one is rising to take the bait and provide some input into your questions I’ll give it a go.

I hate to disappoint but I think you’ll find most participants here are first and foremost attracted to WOMEN.  As a result, since MtF transsexuals think and feel about themselves as women, we find them attractive to a lesser or greater extent based on how well they actually act and look the part.  This is why you will find a great deal of emphasis here on “passability” which focuses mainly on looks, voice and bearing, i.e. how well does the person in question carry off being female.  After all many TS are only interested in men as it seems very few TS providers offer their services to women or even couples, so the feeling would seem to be mutual.  As a result, this forum focuses mainly on TS as the end of the spectrum from cross-dressers (CD), transvestites (TV) to transsexual (TS).  Few CDs are truly able to satisfy these passabilty criteria and while more TVs do you will still find both to be few and far between here.  I think you will find this group focused mainly on pre-op TS and the occasional post-op with nil gay and bisexual interests.  

It has also been my impression that most participants here would consider themselves “straight”, not even bisexual, since very few would find men attractive or want to be with a man sexually in any way and may, in fact, be quite repulsed by the thought.  This may seem odd for someone attracted to TS but my guess is that most of us find TS attractive precisely because they are special, unique and different from other women, yet most of us also maintain our fundamental attraction to, and interest in, genetic women.  Yes we may find the extra equipment stimulating from time to time, or even seek it out exclusively, but more often than not I would guess that most of us would have to admit that it is not really the equipment that matters but how you use it and what you may be in the mood for at any specific time.

I do think most of us are well aware that there are FtM transsexuals out there but for the reasons cited above wouldn’t give it much more thought.   No offense intended but you know all too well that you are an “odd duck” even here.  At least in this forum you will find yourself in the company of many other odd ducks.  Even if we don’t share quite the same interests we can most definitely empathize with your situation.  As a final thought, many heterosexual males are apparently quite turned off by TS because they see and over-emphasize any remaining masculine traits while those of us interested in TS give greater emphasis to the feminine and can discount any remaining masculinity.  To the extent that you retain some hints of feminity, i.e. keeping your hair long as you have in your pictures, you may generate some interest here but it may be more out of curiosities sake (as with post-op TS) than a more consistent attraction.

In any event, best of luck to you, and know that as far as I am concerned you are always welcome as a participant.  Vive la difference!

Take care,


TS Tempted

I'll take the tranny cause I like their fanny

To the hobbyists: Why transsexuals?
Why do you seek out transwomen(MtFs) as providers? answer--If an MtF is a male who thinks and acts like a woman, i.e. a transsexual,  I find them attractive because they provide a unique mix of the erotic and the unattainable often coupled with a strong sex drive and the ability to satisfy mine.

How does this interact with your own sexual orientation? answer--It does not interact or interfere with my own classical male sexual orientation, although it has made me more sensitive and understanding. I do not consider myself gay and most homosexual encounters have been unsatisfactory, unless the male was extremely feminine. In almost all interactions with transsexuals, I considered them female or a variation of female; however a transsexual with a large beard would destroy that illusion. For the illusion of female a semblance of femininity is required.

Are you aware that it is possible to be transsexual - born and raised as female then becoming male (FtM)? Might you be attracted to that gender variation? answer--That sounds like a lesbian bull dyke, no offense intended. Perhaps if I was sexually attracted to “Bear” gays I would find bull dykes sexually attractive as well, but I do not.. Although some bears are very nice people on a social level.  Likewise, lesbians who are masculine make great conversationalists, are sports fans and good mechanics in my experience. I don’t find them sexual attractive but I am sure if they grabbed my cock I would end up fucking them or visa versa provided they first put down any tire wrench they were carrying.

Hmmm...

I like T-Girls because I like anal sex but I don't like men.  Sounds weird huh?

My GGfriend turned me on to anal after we dated for about a year.  I wondered how it felt and she was willing to oblige.  She's bi and had the hardware, so after quite a bit of wine and an MFF date with a hot friend, I agreed to try it.  

I discovered (after consulting my doc to be sure it's safe) that due to some prostate cancer surgery, it was possible for me to orgasm quite easily from anal play.  

After my GF hooked us up with a TS friend, I discovered that the real thing is far better than a plastic substitute.  Many of the TS ladies I've seen are as hot or hotter than the GGs so I don't feel I'm dating men in any way.

So does it change my orientation?  Not at all.  I'm not at all attracted to the male form, so to answer your other question; no.  I personally would not consider dating a F-M provider as it would hold no interest for me.

Hope that helps.