So I have always had these fantasy about being with a TS and I think I am ready, but I am as straight as they come (I am very naive when it comes to this). If I do connect with a TS (and Daisy looks like the one!), is it inappropriate to not 'finish off' the provider? I am really looking for a good BJ and to top (I think this is the right way to say it), but have no interest in being a bottom or providing oral to the provider. Some of you may ask why a TS? Don't know, just need to get it out of my system?
While this piss a provider off? What is the best way to approach this?
I appreciate everyone's feedback and my apologize for being very naive and inexperienced in this area.
hey you are what you are! just tell the girl up front what you are into and there should be no problem! good luck!
My best advice is to read the ads and reviews.
If the info there indicates she is a Top only, you will almost definitely not "click" with her.
Versatile would suggest she might enjoy some attention be paid to her, but it may not be needed.
Bottom only girls are probably not functional anyway, so this may be the way to go for you. This is a very broad generalization, but many bottom only girls are taking female hormones regularly so they may even appear to be more feminine.
Read the reviews to see what others have experienced with the girls that interest you and be up front with her when you meet her as Steve suggested.
Unlike BostonRookie, I haven't 'always' had the fantasy, but just recently, I've been thinking about it a lot. I get very turned on reading the reviews, viewing the pix on the TS sites and I found one really hot video on Youporn. It's a threesome with PS Belladonna, a guy and a TS. Super hot.
And also, unlike BostonRookie, I'm thinking of doing everything, give and recieve oral, top and bottom, DFK, I've even thought about a threesome, with either 2 hot TS's or 1 TS and 1 GG.
I've searched reviews, and found a couple very hot looking and well reviewed ladies. I've even gone as far as e-mailing a lady who is visiting(been 2 days and she hasn't replied)my area.
What I wonder is, once fantasy turns into reality, will I freak out? I've never touched another penis. I'm thinking I'll either just call it quits and apologize and split or it will be so damn hot because it's the first time.
Interested in hearing other first time experiences
It's sex. Sexual fantasies are a thrill to imagine and can be either a thrill or a shrug if you can manage to live them?
Touching a penis won't turn you gay, make you lisp your speech, or suddenly find you appreciate fall fashions. Touching a penis is no different than touching any other sex organ.
Life is about experiences and taking chances. Some good, some bad, some we yearn, some we regret. If you desire to experiment with a TS - go for it, be safe and fulfill your fantasy.
Don't get caught up in categorizing sex. Sex is just Sex...find what makes it most enjoyable for you and don't fear experimentation.
thanks. Good way of looking at it.
Eli...can you send me a link to that youporn vid? I tried searching for it with no luck...perhaps that will make me get my masculinity up to pick up the telephone!
I found it by accident and now I can't find it again. DAMN IT. I looked for over an hour last night.
Your prayers have been answered. Daisy is in your town (Boston)this week and she will give you exactly what you desire. She will be happy to accomodate you as a bottom (and her "bottom" is beautiful) and she provides a wonderful BJ. She is also fabulous looking and a really nice person. Get off the couch and get her on the phone!
they only have so many they can manage in a day, and every guy that doesn't "use it up" leaves room for another client...
Thnaks to all for your feeback. Makes me feel much better. Now I just need to grow a set to pick up the telephone and call!
Genuine questions respectfully asked are not offensive.
TS's generally come in three flavors. Top, bottom or switch. It usually has nothing to do with appearance, but does often have to do with the individuals personal sexual interests.
Some TS's like sex strictly as a top. They often are not on hormones as therefore tend to ejaculate and experience orgasam as a male does. That doesn't mean they don't appear feminine, so don't get me wrong. Usually their clients are men who want to be topped or who want to engage in oral "service" to completion - but NOT with another MAN. Often they have no interest in "being" topped and won't allow it.
Others are "bottoms," for all intents and purposes they are girls, with a genital deformaty. (A penis instead of a vagina.) They generally act and react like any other girl and will have sex reassignment surgery at some point. They are almost universally on hormones, which results in loss of sperm and ejaculatory ability. But "bottoms" often have wonderful orgasams. They are the girls you want to see if you are looking to receive oral and enjoy them as a woman.
Then you have the "switch." A switch will usually tend toward one side or the other, but crosses over for their own or their partners pleasuer or because it's their "job." The "best of both worlds" and everybody does everybody every which way.
That's where reviews come in. If in doubt ASK. It will avoid miscommunication and disappointment.
And a great story: I have a TS "top" friend, a quality provider from another city who was visiting once. We were standing outside a diner after having lunch one day. This hot looking girl walked by. I was thinking, "damm I wish my jeans looked that good..." And my friend blurts out - "Man I'd like to fuck her!"
OK - that's the difference between top and bottom. Let the fun begin!
Giggle,
TS Jamie
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read 'em all rookie, especially those from achagall and jamie. this is TER at its best - help, advice, and intelligent conversation.
may i just expand on achagall's post: try not to approach your first experience with fear. i understand, you say you have no interest in playing the bottom role, and that is perfectly fine. but don't be afraid to touch this or taste that; why not experience everything? the worst thing that will happen is that you won't like it, and you won't repeat.
sex is nothing more than friction. everything else happens inside the mind. the more you allow yourself to experience, the more pleasure is available to you.
great comments all. The one thing I have found about this hobby is it is like a fever. when you get it you need to respond and get it out of your system. I see my preferred provider about every three months. she is a phenomenal switch. i have tried pure tops and pure bottoms, but i like the girls that play both sides. Just my fantasy.
Jump on in, the water is fine.
Just do your homewoek. the reviews are everything
I am in the same boat. I am totally athletic, love women, but for some reason this TS idea will not shake. If you take the plunge you have to give us the details. What is it about TS's that get a grip on you and just wont go away....
