"Dear All
Although I understand that a recent client has reported that he has an unpleasant time, I would like to remind everyone that I have had excellent reviews for a very long time on TER, and that I am really not of the mind to apologize for this person. He was not only late for his appointment, but also did not follow the guidelines clearly outlined in the advertisement. I cannot and will not be held responsible when someone does not pay attention to the simplest of suggestions regarding hygiene. As I've said before and others for me, if someone has a problem with their experience, chances are, it's not because of my behavior. Thank you for reading. Lavinia Brazil

Lavinia,

You're the best in Boston. I for one can't wait to see you again.

... your performance, then you are still at fault.  You could have just as easily informed him tardiness and poor hygiene are not tolerated by you, not taken his money, and asked him to leave.  Perhaps the reviewer is unable to read, perhaps the reviewer was late, perhaps the reviewer smelled like a fece stained ashtray.  It's not relevant.  You took his money knowing you would not be able to perform.  You cannot be accountable for the actions and state of the reviewer, but you can be accountable for your own actions in response to his actions and state.  So yes, you got the bad review because of your behavior and yes it is your fault.

I wish there was a field on the review form where girls could tell their side of the story on reviews, good or bad ones.

Sometimes bad reviews are subjective.  The girl might be having a bad day or the two just don't click and the gent writes a poor review.  In the apparent case at hand - hygine and other isses may have reduced the passion - and even good actresses are only so good at it when we are gagging from BO and dead teeth.

And certainly some girls deserve every bad review they get.  But there are also a few gents who's expectations are so high nobody can please them.

My real concern is that a girls reputation can be runied or seriously damaged by even one undeserved bad review and she has no way to rebut it.

Hugs,
TS Jamie

This issue gets discussed a lot on my local board, because every few weeks a local provider will get upset over a review.  One important point to keep in mind is that intelligent TER hobbyists usually do NOT put a lot of stock in a negative review which is not consistent with others.  YMMV goes both ways, and some guys are just assholes.

I dont see how a single review could ruin a girl's career, unless we are talking about disclosure of unsafe or otherwise bad behavior.  That kind of review or post I do see on the TS board more than on the other boards.  Typically followed by more reviews and/or posts from which the hobbyist can try to figure out whether there is anything to worry about.  I'll be honest, sometimes I come away convinced that the girl really is a flake if not dangerous.  But those cases are rare.

Jamie, to use you as an example, a fair reading of most of your reviews informs the reader that you and your partner offer a highly sensual, fairly unique experience.  That plus your website give anyone who is paying attention a very good idea of what they would be getting.  If tomorrow I saw you got a bad review, I would  ignore because of your other reviews unless it were followed by a string of reviews which suggested that there really was something negative to worry about.

There's an expression that the truth will out and I think that's generally true of the TER process.    

TSAE

Great responses here.  I have been a frequent visitor of Lavinia, and have found her nothing short of phenomenal.  I agree that we should all make our decisions based on the median history of a provider and not one or two aberrations.  Treat your providers as you wish to be treated.  I always show up showered, shaved, etc.  Be polite and non threatening.  Remember the providers are dealing with all types every day.  I know that not every person walking through the door is their type, so a little respect will get more mileage.

We in Boston are currently dealing with an idiot who is bashing Stasha, Lavinia and a few others on CL.  Hmmmm I wonder if there is a trend here.  Idiot client shows up, provider is put off, gives subpar performance, gets bashed for dubious reasons.

Some people don't have a life and get some perverse pleasure from bashing providers.  We )the clients)need to be aware of our shortcomings and overcome them with respect.  

Lavinia, et al, keep your chin up, the loser who is badmouthing you will eventually tire of it and move on.  

I also look at the history of the reviewer...if a reviewer writes a lot of negative reviews it is a good pointer

You are way off base here.  Here are a couple of scenarios.

#1 Client does some due diligence on reviews.  Picks a provider, sets up appointment shows up on time.  Goes up to hotel/apt etc.  Door opens.  Provider is 50 lbs heavier and not the girl in picture.  Client says no thanks you walks politely leaves.

#2 Same scenario.  Provider opens door sees a dirty unshaven client with green teeth, bad breath and bo.  Provider politely asks client to leave.  Offended client rants and raves, makes a scene neighbors look out doors, provider is now forced to explain what is going on and or move etc.  or worse yet client informs LE of what is going on Etc Etc.

As you can see the provider is in a no win situation other than to do their best to get through the session..  I think lavinia understands the bad review, but the bashing she was taking on CL was uncalled for.

I'm sure the providers will chime in on the pitfalls from their side

Not to pile on to TSAE's comment, but I strongly believe that most of us take into account all of the information that is available rather than just blindly believing the latest gossip or rumor.  Is the TER process, perfect?  Of course not.  

We also observe patterns of YMMV, bashers, first time reviewers posting fake (good and bad) reviews and hard to please reviewers.  There is always a possibility that someone will read a single review at face value and see red flags all over the place.  But I think you should give most of us more credit than that.

If you look long and hard enough on the web, you will find a report of a negative experience for virtually every product and service ever made available to the public.  These may be legitimate complaints or just an attempt to dirty the reputation of a competitor or a comment from someone who had clearly different expectations than were realistic.  It is up to each of us to separate the chaff from the wheat.

This is outladnish egotism.  I read the review on CL and emailed the client:  you gave him incomplete directions and made him wait while you walked your dogs.  You had no problem with his hygiene, you just didn't feel like doing your $300 worth that day and you wouldn't give him his money back or perform the job you advertise.  Yeesh!