The few ladies I have been with have been great. Top notch and very clean in their ways. I am freaking out however about the oral bj sex without a condom (on her). Everything else has involved a condom and I'm not worried about that aspect.    

Any feedback of likelihood of contacting something and where should I go to get testing and how to go about it. Thanks.

You can contact STDs, yes even the worst ones, through oral sex, but it is very rare.  And it is even rarer for someone who is receiving the bj (ie she was more at risk giving the bj).  You are most likely ok, but absolutely go get tested for you own peace of mind.  Just make sure the tests are completely anonymous.

I think he meant he gave her a bj uncovered.

Unless you are dealing with an IV drug user or some real skank or fooling around in gay bathhouses your chances of catching something are pretty slim.  Which doesn't mean non-existant.

It is higher risk of course with CIM but still there is a low transmission rate even with someone infected with an std.

You can get tested for free at most county health offices, many free clinics, and thru most GLBT Centers.

And most quality providers have no problem covering up if you request. I'll do bbbj, because that's what most guys want, but I appreciate when a gent shows concern for his health and mine by requesting a cover.  And I have some tasty flavored condoms for just such a purpose!  

And I never have a problem showing my test results, which I have done in MY name not anonymously.

Have fun, play safe,
TS Jamie  

And food for thought.  I personally know a gay guy who contracted hiv through oral sex - he had uncovered oral with some guy he knew was positive and swallowed.  Why, I could not tell you.  So while the risk is low it is there.

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Shouldn't he be asking this question "BEFORE participating in risky" behavior?

"When with an uncertain lover, always use a cover." I crack myself up.

Please, do us all a favor and get yourself educated in risk levels as well as the  preventative measures....

Risks:
Receiver - Virtually zero risk
Giver - Depends, does he/she have a cut in her mouth?

And by the way, do yourself and everyone else a favor and take a few precautions such as gargling with something like Advanced Listerine or Dr Kens Antibacterial mouthwash, "BEFORE AND AFTER" being with a provider/hobbyist. Jaz

Thank you that was helpful.