We’ve been beating around this bush quite a bit lately so I thought I’d start a new thread to try and shift the discussion (maybe). Interestingly there is much more discussion on the topic of enhanced male sexual experiences and techniques over on the GG side of the discussion boards, particularly around the subject of “tantra”. I have been sadly disappointed to find that on this board there is virtually no discussion of this subject at all, other than in the context of multiple pops. It seemed reasonable to assume that if anyone should have an in-depth appreciation of male orgasmic abilities I would have thought to have found it here, where most everyone has a male set of equipment (no offense intended to the ladies here).
I think three things are important to consider about male sexual satisfaction. First and foremost is to dispense with the cliché about male sexuality - there is no physiological reason that men cannot be just as multi-orgasmic as women. In either case, male or female, it takes some training and experience to fully appreciate this ability. The popular emphasis for male multi-orgasmic experiences, certainly as evidenced by the extensive discussion in this forum, remains on “pops” for men. Certainly there are men with physiological issues that may have difficulty with more than one pop in a certain time frame but I submit that a lot of the perception of men being one-pop animals is societal (or maybe biological) – the pop being the “end game” or defining the success of a sexual encounter. I am not trying to deny that ejaculation may have certain knock-on physiological effects such as the release of hormones that may make you lose your wood or fall asleep. My point is that this is merely a physiological response that may be retrained by patience, experience and a willing partner.
Given the frequency of the discussions here, there are certainly many men that claim the capability of more than one pop in a one hour session and judge a session’s success by whether or not they were allowed or encouraged to have a second (or third, etc.) pop. I have heard that there are even a few men who can train themselves to have an ejaculation, not lose their erection and proceed on to another (and another) ejaculation. This technique does not have much place in the context of an escort board because it would become rather problematic while trying to wear a condom. Truth be told, in either case, the number of times someone can pump their prostrate becomes a serious practical physiological limitation in any given sexual encounter, even one encompassing multiple hours.
Therefore, my second point is that ejaculation is simply a physiological event and is not necessarily an ‘orgasm’ much less ‘satisfaction’. C’mon how many times have you had an ejaculation and gone: “Is that it?” All this emphasis on multiple “pops” is very narrow-minded and overshadows what can be realized in sexual experiences regardless of the genetics of the respective partners. It is my understanding that one of the tenets of tantra is the complete withholding of ejaculation to enhance and prolong sexual experiences. I think this goes way too far but, taking a page from the book of tantra, isn’t it far easier and much more rewarding to learn the technique keeping a partner “on-the-edge” during a sexual encounter to heighten the experience? As I have already discussed in a previous post I see this technique often being represented by a number of GG ladies but few, if any, TS.
Unfortunately I think each of these propositions, multiple pops, prolonging and/or withholding ejaculation, miss the mark rather widely. It has been my conclusion that none of these is what “multi-orgasmic” properly means for males. So, my third and final point of this discussion is that of the possibility of having an orgasm without ejaculation, which I believe may be the real goal of tantra training for men. The good thing about this is that there is no apparent limit on how many non-ejaculatory orgasms a man can have without losing their erection (that is at least until his heart or his partner gives out anyway). Having an ejaculation may then just be another form of orgasm, “different” but not “more” or “less” enjoyable. I would submit that there are four ‘events” in male sexual experience. Ejaculation with or without orgasm and orgasm with or without ejaculation. Each has their usefulness, place and desirability in sexual encounters and relationships. Whether or not a sexual session ends in ejaculation or includes “multiple pops” becomes largely irrelevant and a matter of choice but not necessity. The real deal is finding partners that are focused on each other’s “satisfaction”, whatever that may be. Wouldn’t you really rather have five “orgasms” than even one “pop”? Particularly since you could just keep right on going without having to change that nasty condom?
What I find interesting with regard to TS experiences as they are related here is there is virtually no discussion of these “tantric-like” experiences or techniques. I have my suspicions that many TS appreciate this issue intuitively, if not consciously, maybe even much more so than genetic women since they can appreciate the condition first-hand (sorry for the pun). Sadly it seems that our emphasis in this forum remains on things like quantity, i.e. number of pops, rather than the adventure or journey into a diversity of learning and experiences toward a goal of heightened sexual pleasure and satisfaction. [Now there’s a mouthful.]
That having been said, happy hunting,
TS Tempted
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