Isn't this the pot calling the kettle black? Not specifically you, but the client viewpoint toward providers. How many reviews are miss leading, vague, unfair and simply overly critical with regards to something the client doesn't understand about their own poor behavior towards others. Why would any of us expect them NOT to review us in the same unfair way? This is NOT a professional environment, it's fantasy fulfillment of a personal nature. But far too often we, the clientele, somehow expect trans providers, who are usually independent, to be uniformly professional, seriously?
Reading the back and fourth text, I would consider it a waste of my time and so would many providers and many professionals as well, and you yourself would probably too. Let's be honest here, if you were looking for a salesperson to be at the showroom earlier than their normal, with only the promise to "look" at things and not buy anything, what would you expect? If she's normally awake until 1-2-3am and you expect her to be bright eyed and bushy tailed at 8am or 9am for a 1/2 hour session, what do you expect? Maybe she had a client the night before that she was trying to accommodate, maybe it was a full hour or multiple, was that even considered?
After the challenging position she was put in, she thought to check up on you and decided it wasn't worth her time. Is that solely on her? It wouldn't be in a professional setting based on your story. While the hobby has changed and reviews are down, does anyone realize from the providers point of view the clientele may have gotten worse too? Each time I've written anything like this those who must be snowflakes, get offended! They don't want to hear another monger tell them to wake up and smell the coffee, especially when that's part of the problem here.
This isn't solely directed at you, it's to anyone newer or a novice in the hobby thinking they were scammed somehow or it's mainly the providers fault when in this case it's not solely on them. Think about this, a comment left by timoti who has over 200 reviews, it was from another thread; he's taken some for the team, had good and not so good, even some bad experiences. But the KEY is he never comes off as jaded or bitter in his reviews. Move on and adjust your approach, if you expect different results. That's the part of the hobby that's changed about us, the clientele, when did we get so bitter and jaded? While 1/2 hour sessions aren't new, they've certainly increased in the last 10-15 years, anyone care to expand on as to why?
Like with many things in life, you can get more with sugar than salt. Better prior planning usually provides a better outcome. Trying to assert your dominance or subtlety control things that push providers out of their comfort zone is usually NOT going to help. I've had some bad sessions, usually when I didn't do the research, consider if the provider is a good fit for me based on others input or reviews or I took one for the team and got burned. After 20+ years in the hobby, I've had constantly more good sessions in the last 5 years. I finally got over myself realizing, although I'm the client, I'm paying etc., the more I can communicate on their terms, allow them the comfort to lead or for the session to unfold in a way comfortable to them, the better. We need to be better sales people not them!
We all need be "escort" whisperers, not whiny bitter jaded snowflakes... Maybe that would be a good movie... The Escort Whisperer staring Leonardo DiCaprio...
rant over...
