Here's a few general suggestions for getting ready.  Others will chime in for some suggestions, I'm sure.

Re: first time--the first of a few suggestions

    Posted by tsCAT99, 10/11/2009 7:05:04 PM

Getting Ready......

Yay!  Now that you've decided to take the plunge, there are a few things to prep.

For Versatiles and Bottoms:

  (1) Namely, your ass!  As a bottom, you definitely need to do an enema to be clean.  You won't get everything, but it'll be clean, AND have a clean scent.

  (2) Shave.  I don't know if other girls like this, mind this, or find it repulsive (I would).  Shave your ass down there for a few days before--use baby powder to reduce inflammation.  However, it may not be any big deal to most girls.  But, shaving is way cleaner.

For Versatiles, Tops, and Bottoms:

  (3) If you don't already, start flossing your teeth on a daily basis.  On the day of your visit, don't floss unless your gums are healthy (i.e., no bleeding).

  (4) Of course, bathe!  Wear comfortable clothes that make you feel sexy.

  (5) Go very light on any cologne you might wear.  If it's a scent she doesn't like, it'll be too light to be a turn-off.  If it's a scent she likes, well, she'll have to get closer to enjoy it!  Some girls might prefer no cologne at all.  Why not ask her when you call?

  (6) A white, unmarked envelope for tribute/donation.

  (7) Be ON TIME.  If you're seeing a top-quality girl, then BE ON TIME.  It's o.k. to arrive early, but wait until 3-5 minutes before to make the 2nd phone call.  She is probably still getting ready.  If traffic is unexpectedly bad and will make you late, give her a call and tell her what is happening.

  (8) Remember: you're on a date!  Treat her with respect, honesty, and lots and lots of passion!

  (9) *** If she's not the girl in the pictures, run like hell!  Just turn around and get out the door before she can throw anything at you.  Just ask Dog about the pan on the head.  Seriously, fake providers are stealing from honest providers: please do you part to help keep the integrity of our hobby, and don't put up with fake pictures.

There ya go, boys--now go have a good time and report back!

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Taking the Big One

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1. It's hard to find a TS provider that offers everything. Some have no issue doing the "transforming" but need you to supply the outfits, makeup wig etc....( I fall into this category, but I'm in DC)
2. Miss Vera's Finishing School For Boys who Who Want to Be Girls is a good option. MissVera.com. However they are very $$$$. She's written 2 books as well ( Veronica Vera) and they are worth ordering. They usually can set you up with a 3rd party escort
3. You might want to try a Domme House as well. They tend to keep supplied in transformation needs. There are several in NYC.
4. Also be persistent if you do start having contact with an escort. Many times "transformation" emails are dismissed as the "Penthouse Letter" variety and go unread or into the SPAM bin. If you show you are serious someone might help you. The cost of a transformation way exceed an escorts normal rates.

As a crossdresser myself, I know first-hand how long transformations really take.  It's quite the journey of life.  I always feel my most relaxed and my real self when I'm enfemme.

Now, having said that, for some, it's probably not a lifetime commitment--more like a fantasy, which is great, too.

As such, I agree with Melissa and Allison in that the costs far outweigh the visit to a provider.  Plus, most TS providers are really not equipped with the extra sets of clothing (in so many sizes), and, well, keeping a fully stocked make-up cabinet requires suitcases of stuff.  And then, there are the runs in stockings, the torn clothing, etc.  Seriously, I think you would be better served by a domina.

I have been known to haunt a few dungeons, and I can tell you that forced feminization is a favorite of the mistresses (that, by the way, is a term of great respect in the BDSM world).

Alas, not all dungeons will cater to sexual gratification.  However, there are some who do!

TS Amilia of Chicago comes to mind (she's quite the domina!): http://www.erostranssexuals.com/chicago-files/78513.htm

I recommend checking the EROS ads for BDSM.  Read through them for someone who enjoys forced femme play.

Wow!  Just checked NYC's BDSM link on EROS.  Dang!  There's 130 listed.  Oh boy, you'll find someone.

http://www.eros-ny.com/classifieds/erosbdsm.htm