I talked about this a few weeks ago in Star's last survey post. I was wondering what anyone might think or do if they were in my spot. There's this Filipino guy who works at this store I go to and he's beautiful. I'm certain he must be a girl when he's not working. He has shoulder-length hair that he keeps tied up with these pink and light-blue hair clamp comb things. He walks feminine and talks feminine and works right along with all the guys hauling products around no problem, but has his most animated conversations with the women employees. He's kind of serious-faced and I go in there for a loaf of bread and a quart of orange juice and I can't leave. So how do I let him know I like him. I've smiled and said how're you doin many times. That could go on 'til 2009. I figure the next time I see him in an aisle I'll tell him I love seeing you when I come in here. Okay, that's my plan. If it makes him uneasy I'll apologize and go somewhere else for my instant coffee.
This isn't exactly the same situation as yours, but here is an experience that I had.
I ran into a girl once who appeared to possibly be a TS, but I wasn't sure. I was interested in getting to know her either way, but she was not very talkative. Maybe she was simply not interested, but if she was a TS, she may have been afraid to be too friendly thinking I would not be interested in her. I wanted to find out if she was or not, but didn't want to be too direct and offend her if she wasn't. I tried starting a conversation with her and told her she reminded me of a girl I saw at a club called Peanuts in Hollywood. My thinking was that if she were a T-Girl, this might let her know that I was into special girls like her, yet would not offend her or reveal too much if she were a genuine girl because she probably would never have heard of it. She said no, she's never heard of it and had never been to LA. This was not unrealistic since we were a couple hundred miles from LA at the time.
I think you did the best you could. You gave her a good clue (and saying that you saw her there, means that YOU were there and were cool with it). I'm glad you didn't go up to her and ask if she was a T. Even if she was, I know I'd feel insulted if someone would ask such a personal thing. So.... you gave it your best shot and it didn't work out for one reason or another. That's all you can do.
Salli,
Instead of just saying something so general, like "Hi, how are you?". Why not try saying something a bit more specific like "Wow, I like your hair. How long have you been growing it out, or has it always been that long?" Or something of that nature. Find something you can give a compliment on and ask a question so that person can respond.
Smile, be friendly and easy going. Don't look like a creepy stalker guy. (Not saying you would, I'm just giving an example.) Don't put too much preasure on it.
If the person responds, great. If they don't, still act like it's great. No big deal, you are just a nice guy trying to make conversation. Don't confess your love in the first 3 minutes!!! LOL
Keep it light and easygoing. And let us know what happens.
Just ask the kid if he wants to go out for a drink sometime. By asking a question you start a dialogue. If you get a "Yes." give him your phone number and tell him to call you when he's free. If you start your interaction with a statement of fact like, "I love seeing you when I come in here.", it wont go anywhere. The best response you can hope for is a bewildered, "Thanks."
She's around. Just 2,000 miles away. She knows I love her. We talk all the time. Probably the best I'll do with her. Good enough for me. So to answer your question about the estrogen eschewing ts last week, nothing happened to her. Nothing for you to fret over or be annoyed about. Glad to see you're keeping track of things. As far as what I wrote about the grocery store, it was sincere.
I'm sure you are sincere. That's why I gave you my best advice in the body of the message. Just ask the kid out for a drink. Don't bother striking up a long conversation with him in the aisle of the grocery store in which he works. You may cause problems for him at work if he is on any kind of production schedule. Drop him a line and be done with him.
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