Now hear me out before you guys start throwing bombs....lolz

i say this because yea reviews come in handy when it comes down to girls that are using fake pics and robbing people or not embelishing on there asset's but i'n my opinion performance is a catergory that should better be left alone  because one guys experience with a provider may pale in comparison to another's due to things like the hobbyist physical appearance or the chemistry that he and the provider share get what i mean sometimes that vibe isnt caught with everyone....am i making since?

Hi Kara - welcome, and great post!

Here's my take on it. While it's true that everyone is going to connect at a different level, and some dates are going to be great while others, even with the same person may be so-so.  There are so many variables that you are correct it is difficult to really get an accurate review.

The thing is over time - what the reviews show is consistancy and overall "performance."  With a girl who has a number of consistantly great reviews a gentleman has the law of averages on his side that he will also have a good time with her.

Same thing with rip off girls - consistantly bad reviews is what guys are looking at.  If a girl has 10 good reviews and 1 bad one, it doesn't mean anything - just that obviously they didn't click.    

If you look back at my reviews as an example you see consistancy.  I really liked providing, and it  came though in the reviews.  Was every date like those posted?  Of course not.

I had one guy who when I opened the door looked shocked and said "no thanks" and left.  And one guy demand his money back - because after drinking our beer and soaking in our jacuzzi and playing video games, he "fell in love" couldn't consumate the date.  Maybe I should have just ram rodded him and sent him on his way in 30 minutes, but that wasn't how we did things.  Our dates were our friends, even if only for an hour.

Regarding a gentleman's appearance -

With all due respect to providers who have differing opinons - I personally believe that if you are going to be in this business as a professional, then you are here to provide to everyone regardless of appearance (safety, cleanliness, and respect issues aside of course).  Oftentimes men hire escorts specifically because they have issues of weight, apperance, etc that makes it difficult for them to attract "civies."  As a professional it's your job to make all the men who date you feel they are not only the best lover you ever had, but to make them feel they are the greatest guy in the world!

Are you going to succeed every time.  No, of course not, but a true professional courtesan will give her best every time.  And if a high end provider can't offer that kind of service, then they should be ready for lousy reviews.

Anyway, just one girls opinion.

LOL,
TS Jamie

At times, I have just not clicked with a provider and decided that I was done, ready to pack it up and head to the house.  I was not angry but realized we just did not connect.    On the flip side, I do agree that the ratings for performance over time create the reputation of a provider.  I also know some providers who may not be so attracted to someone but they also feel that part of their service is to make the client feel good when he is finished and unfortunately, reality is that some of that may have to be acting.  After all, his wife at home probably does the same thing

....lolz i luv it "his wife probably does the same" but no what i was trying to get at is how can a provider be blamed if say the client asked to be topped and he's 5'10 230#'s hell under those circumstances i can't imagine many people that can remain functional....thats a whole lotta man, but then again thats just my take

Hi Kara!  I am remiss in providing reviews so let the floggings begin!!  That being said, I am pretty sure that like most hobbyist here I look at the reviews and normally throw out the top and bottom (no pun intended) 10 percent of the reviews.  Some guys are overly gracious and some are way too critical.  I look for the middle ground where the guys tell us what transpired without bragging about their own prowess or without deriding the lady. Is the lady the way she represents herself in the ad is key.  I totally understand the chemistry part too and the need for acting at times because I have asked providers about that and that HAS to be one of the hardest parts of what you have to do.  As for the hobbyist - we have a responsibility to be clean, respectful, safe and fair when it comes to the treatment of you wonderful ladies.

I have been lucky enough to have had wonderful encounters with some providers. I have also had the misfortune of having bad times also, once with a very well reviewed provider. I did post about the date and how poorly it progressed and offered my perspective of the providers lack of professionalism. Her explaination was that i wasnt her type, and that it sometimes happens. As much as you can consider that a fair reaction, I felt the provider needed to be clear about that at the beginning and end the date. As the fee was accepted, she was agreeing to provide. It is business after all,not personal.
I would rather have the honesty upfront.

If you are in the business of fucking and sucking, then like any business you have to cater to your customers and do your best for just about every Tom. Dick and Hairy. If you are being paid to have sex then you are obliged to be an equal opportunity supporter. If you are picky about who you want to have sex with, then you should fuck for free and pick and chose your trysts just like you pick your .... Anyway you get the idea. The girls who do a good job make moola and are suckcessfull, those who are screw ups end up whodafuckknows where down and out. It may sometimes be tuff job and God knows you cannot satisfy everyone, butt you have to try. Otherwise join the LAPD where service is not always an issue and the payoff is good enough to earn the loot to get a good escort date, how mny times have I had to wait while a cop takes forever getting his gear back on, phew!

Unfortunately this business is chock full of bad people on both sides of the coin. Reviews allow us hobbyists to separate honest providers from rip-off artists, scams, phonies, and le. Whitelists and careful screening allow you providers to protect yourself (at least to some extent).

But I know what you mean when you talk about the subjective parts of the review. Some providers have been successful at hardening themselves in this business, but if you are a sensitive person, how can you be intimate with someone and then read mediocre scores and comments that range from picky to downright insulting? And to address very specifically an issue that is unique to the top TS, how can you possibly handle providing superior "top" service to a physically unattractive man?

Personally, I don't pay much attention at all to the "juicy details" of a review. All I want to know is the rate, the services that are available, and an overall sense of how guys feel about the provider. I take responsibility for my own karma on a date.

having said that I think the reason why the profiles or reviews are some what useless is because they are NEVER updated.  Even problem reports when I can clearly show that there are 3 different profiles of the same exact provider is not good enough for whoever runs the show here.  Prices, stats, etc are never updated.

I personally will try my best for all, tho' I always screen for decent shape guys.  It doesn't need to be well built or hunk, heavy but still acceptable I don't mind .Just not 3 times bigger than me LOL ( Im 135lbs), cos I won't be able to do anything yet some lied about it tho'.
  That's why I always ask height & weight. ( well if he's not bad looking a plus  .
And some guys are just bad. It doesn't matter what they look like and they also lied about performance and look.
Sooooo. I don't give a schhh***tt, as long as my regulars that I like mmmm  keep cumming back , I'm good.
I just banged their brains out. They are all big babies anyway.
One thing for sure, if you keep listening to all these babies' talk , you'll go crazy.  
XOXOX
     

Jamie really captured, for me at least, the core definition of what the professional provider should aspire to. She also quite eloquently illustrated the essence of what I personally try to glean from a review: a sense of the provider's consistency.

Why is it I have no apprehension to order a Double Double from any In and Out location I frequent? Or order a Sierra Nevada at various watering holes? Or buy a box of Titlest Pro V1's at a local pro shop or WalMart? I do so because of the confidence I have in each of the product's consistency. Well, the same usually rings true with a provider's reviews on this website; they provide us with a barometer of sorts.

One other aspect which has yet to be mentioned in this tread is money. I don't think I speak only for myself when I say that the reviews here on TER help me decide with whom I will spend my well earned dollars. To neglect this portion of the discussion would be disingenuos, seeing that when all is said and done we are referring to a business transaction/relationship between hobbyest and provider.

I believe we all understand YMMV, but with a hobbyest's personal experience to draw from it allows us to make informed choices instead of just rolling the dice. Thanks Jamie, I always appreciate your input.

Kara baby,
As Jeanie said it and very well said: Are you going to succeed every time.  No, of course not, but a true professional courtesan will give her best every time.  And if a high end provider can't offer that kind of service, then they should be ready for lousy reviews.

and as Dog said it and he is right about it: the ratings for performance over time create the reputation of a provider.

Just look at me honey..they really BOMBED me at another review site yrs ago., and last week when I reply to them all I don't even notes it has been long a go, but I was so upset that I don't even pay attention to the dates, one of the guys have even pass away since then.
So, the most famous or popular you become the most people throw bombs at you, so be ready for everything and learn  to take it easy...that is what I am going to do now and then
I greet everyone regardless of age and weight or skin color, they are all welcome.
A good courtesan wont be asking for age and weight because that is why we are here, to provide with our services, so just do your best, to attend everyone with out paying attention to looks or age..That is so lame.
You only ask for their age is the voice sounds a lil to young because you do not want to get in troubles.
Besides that greet them all and please as many as you can girl.

You seems to be a very nice girl, so do not change baby, do not get the Goddess diva attitude many girls get because they think they are the best. Bullshit there is always better ones.
So keep they way you are
India Fox.

@Kara: I don't see how topping a 5' 10" dude weighing 230# should pose a problem.  Now if he wants to top YOU THAT's a problem. :>)

Physical appearance and chemistry of a reviewer when considering reviews might be a topic for debate if those areas where part of the review form we fill out here on TER when we do a review, but they aren't. We are the ones being asked, not the ones asking, for hundreds of dollars to meet. I've had some dates that tuned me out pretty quick, and also some really great ones, but I didn't add inches in height or length or lose a lot of weight in between. Some girls think I am good looking, and some don't. I've had some great dates, and some not so great dates. How I am I supposed to know if the reason we have a bad date is me, or something going on with her? It's not that hard really, great providers have great reviews.

I think the performance is an important part of the review. I look at it anyway, and recently found out the gate keepers at TER do too. Even if you actually end up having a date with a lady that gives you a 10 performance, TER will change it to a 9 unless she can turn into a 6 pack and a pizza right after cleaning you up with a warm towel.

Reviews do not to always need to be detailed descriptions of everything that went on during the time together to be of value.  Was the individual honest, did she live up to how she promotes herself and did the client leave believing that he received value for his donation. With that basic information, decisions can usually be made.

I think Antonella Holmes thoughts on Escorting Professionally posted here on TER sometime ago generally hits the nail on the head  when it comes to be a professional:

Be willing to honor your agreements with clients and if for any reason, you doubt wheter you can honor an agreement , don`t make it in the first place, if a client is looking for a 9 inch top and you are a 6 inch bottom don`t agree to do the gig, pretending over the phone you are going to be able to fit the bill. Most clients recent duplicity and cherish honesty in an escort. Stick to your agreements about the duration of appointments, if you agreed to get together for an hour you should be ready to spend 60 minutes with your client, it is fine if he doesn't want the whole time but do not expect to hear from him if you"get him off" quickly and rush him out the door in 30 minutes.
I would advise that one should examine the reasons for getting in the escort business. There are countless valid reasons, but if one enters the business out of financial desperation or as an attempt to scape something in life ,it probably not a good idea. Examine motives and establish some goals for what you wish to accomplish via this business. Make a list of what you will and will not do, keep the list by the phone and be honest in your communications. Determine your compatibility with a client by matching his activities with yours, if he wants X , and X is in your "I would rather die than do that"list,tell him you don't do that,if he has to have that, it is best for him to find someone else than you to go trough with a call and have an awkward time explaining why you won`t do X after the client felt you would.

Check your comfort level. not every client will look like your ideal guy. don`t be swayed by the beauty of the good looking ones,and always look for something good in those clients to whom you are not so attracted,the average-looking guys usually have a lot going for them in other areas

Develop a tough skin. As with any business, there will be customer satisfaction situations that can not be resolved, on occasion some mean things will be said to you, stay professional and honest , don`t strike back with the same verbal abuse and don`t take a bad situation personally.  Be able to put work in a box at the end of the day and walk away from it, on the other hand don`t let a great call go to your head, you are there to offer a service , not to fall in love, stay professional at all times. Know when to quit, look when to quit look beyond this business and towards goals and growth needs.
As this is a business about taking care of the needs of others,be aware of your own needs for security and personal growth, and move into other areas when the time is right for you.

Most important take vacation from this business.  Go on a real date, take a trip,read a book ,help some one in deep need.
when you get back you will enjoy and do a better job(they will notice it and enjoy it too) and always remember that what you are offering it`s a very comfortable convenience for people who appreciate time...( the nice ones)
let the others go...some where else....(the nut cases)....they know where to go......

Thank you all, Ladies and Gentleman. Antonella Holmes


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Here's a reality check.  I don't care how beautiful a girl is; I simply won't date a girl who hasn't been reviewed.  My days of TOFTT are over.