I'm not trying to start any gossip here, so I apologize if this causes any more harm than good.

I saw a provider last year. It was my first time and every thing went very well, so much so that I stayed in contact with said provider over IM and e-mail.

When she revisited my area, some complications arose and due to not wanting to reveal my financial situation, I had to cancel very last minute on her. It was wrong of me to back out on an obligation, so she had every right to be angry. I assumed every thing was patched up after a few conversations, and we went on with the way things were.

After she left town, I was in good financial standing again I.E. it was my birthday and I got some cash from my folks. I decided that my first experience was great so why not try it again? A different provider peaked my interest and gave her a visit. Her pictures were not quite her, and me being way to afraid of saying no or turning my tail and run, I gave in and had a rather lousy experience.

Some how, my first encounter caught wind of this and is now taking great offense that I have seen a different provider after they were clearly in another area.

I guess my question is: what should I do about this? I feel that I've wrong her but.. I didn't know it was against etiquette to see different providers. Or.. is that NOT a part of etiquette? All I know is that I'm very sorry and wish I could patch things up. You guys are the experts here. Help a helpless fool out, please?

If possible, I'd like to keep identities anonymous, as I'm sure it would effect ratings and so forth.

-MD

Well MD, I have a mixed opinion here.......

Two Questions:

1.  How long was it from when you backed out of your appt with the first provider and then getting birthday money and scheduling a session with the second?  

2.  How would the first provider catch "wind" that you had an appt set up with another girl?  That to me seems pretty hard to make happen unless you tell them, post it here on the board in a discussion, write a review and they read it, or the providers know eachother?

There is no reason why you can not go see another provider. Its your money, your life, and what you want to experience is up to you.  BUT, if you cancelled with the first and then set up an appt with the second a few days later and somehow let her know, I'd be pissed also and probably be laughing that you pretty much got scammed with fake pics and a bad session.  

Karma..........  

If the above is not the case, what  you do with your money and your spare time is your decision, not anyone else's.

Dog

lats

I have a question I signed up fo a month of VIP and got nothing extra. I contacted ER and got no response from them either. Any suggestions?

I don't think she was mad that you saw another provider hon...not realistic if she was, but I think she was mad that you were disrespectful and did not cancel in enough time(which hopefully gives her enough time to make another BUSINESS appointment)and then to add insult to injury you saw another provider shortly after...someone she knew...someone she too probably felt was a less quality provider(and beauty?)...thus meaning you had money for another provider, but not for her...seems Karma had a hand in this and you failed the test again...when the other provider opened the door and you felt disappointed by her misrepresentation, you stayed and allowed yourself to engage in a less than satisfactory session...I say you put some money away...enough for an extended rendezvous and spend that time with her when she comes to your city again...that is if she'll trust you and accept a booking from you again...though I don't do this(and never will), I sometimes understand why providers double book...dfk, Rachel

I think that a provider would be rightfully upset if they felt you had backed out of a financial obligation. If it is just the money, that's pretty easily fixed, (as long as you've got it that is). Just bear that in mind with either the tip, or the duration of your next date with her.

As far as beating yourself up over it, and "giving in" to not high tailing it out of a bad date, that's way different, and is not a part of the etiquette of this, imo.

I understand why she is mad. It was at least a week or two after she had passed through town.

I just don't know what to tell her. She keeps IMing me to remind me of the fact that I messed up, when I keep agreeing with her and asking her what I can do to fix it, yet all she does is rub it in my face that I met up with a less than moderate provider.

*shrugs* I know I made a mistake. I just don't know how to rectify it.

She'll rectify it alright,  directly into your rectum

Still not clear how 1st gurl knew about 2nd encounter.
Did u tell her?

Also, I think u should post review & identify 2nd provider --
cannot link to your reviews from alias--
scams are really ruining this hobby for all of us!

come from learning from our experiences both good and bad. It sounds like you are stewing over this and you should not be.  I understand what happened to you but you also need to understand how it "looked" from the outside.  

Now all you can do is decide if seeing the first provider again when she comes back into town is a good idea.  That is, is it water under the bridge for both of you enough so that everyone's mind will be in the right place for a session.  

If so, save your pennies and maybe the stars will align and you will have cash at the same time she is in your area again.  But remember what you have learned from all of this, the hobby is just that, a hobby.  It is a fun time for everyone when done correctly.

But it is like any other hobby, you should pay for and get what you are seeking.  There is a responsibility here on your part to do your research to find a good match for your wants and needs.  Imagine you booked a fishing excursion on a fancy boat, great pics of the boat and write of of the experienced crew.  On arrival you find a boat that is not the one pictured and the captain is not the same as the one in the write up....would you look for another vessel or go out on the water anyway?

Good luck, take your time, choose wisely and behave as if this is a first date with a woman you are completely intrigued with and everything should be fine.  Just be sure to walk away if the woman that answers the door is not the woman you expected.

...she should move on and if you decide to make things right, she can decide then if she wants to see you again or keep moving forward...her behavior is a bit left of mature in calling you and keeping things stirred up...even if I saw a client after he wronged me(which I don't do) I wouldn't go through the motions just for the money...you have to put things behind you...even if you can forgive and not forget...takes a bigger person to keeps the peace...if not...is it worth seeing someone with the chance of her throwing this repeatedly in your face? My gents come to see me to get away from his wife/girlfriend who does that enough already...lol...I say move on...research another provider who is what you seek and see if you can make new fond memories...just don't screw her over as well...rare to find a good provider that you have chemistry with as well as can feel something for...dfk, Rachel

Send me a PM and forward me what you sent to them and include your log on info. I'll find out.

i second the motion @ts rachels comment deff life too short to just waist your time on spilled milk

Don't just rely on Eros.  In LA about 25 % of the ads are FAKE and the majority are scammers.

I actually had a girl refuse to see me again after I posted a postive review of another girl she apparently regarded as a rival.

I am secure in the TS woman, the quality provider and decent human being that I am and I know what we have is special and strong enough not to be weakened by your dalliances with another provider...like I said in an earlier post only a person lacking a bit of sanity and emotional maturity would demostrate such negative energy toward the hobbyist or the other provider and to contact a client about his private affairs...just imagine how that provider is most likely in sessions revealing her insecurities to other clients and most likely bashing other providers, TRYING to make herself look good and only proving the negative...oh well baby, if she is no longer seeing you, more for me...haha...her loss...loss of a good friend and a good client...dfk, Rachel

Hello MrWineSnob,

I have to say what you just posted is very unfortunate.  Something is off, or off balance for sure.... lets analyze this and review the possible causes for this unnecessary jealousy and agression.....  Did you ask the first provider to move in with you and travel to Vegas to be married by Elvis?  Did the provider in question tell you she wanted to be with you and would give up her profession and never see anyone else except you until you decided you had to marry her?  Was your session so erotic based on your skill that she was amazed and can't seem to accept you want variety?  

So, without more details, I can't comment fully but in summary, thats crazy.  No provider who makes their living as an escort should develop an attidude based on your encounters.  Most of the good providers I know do not get into these petty details and let their reputation speak for itself.  They continue to have positive reviews, positive comments on this board and others, and have their clients leave ever time with a smile on their face.

Lastly, its similar but not exact.  I once had a provder who hung out at the Yukon in
WEHO refuse to see me and basically  tried to spit on me because I talked to a black TS and she happened to see me.

Say hi to Nicole:

http://losangeles.backpage.com/TranssexualEscorts/satisfaction-24/13791918

Ok, night night and hope everything works out in the end.

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I had a bad experience with A provider. She threatened to post my name to a  provider black list after I posted a review that I was not happy withthe service provided and she knew this when I left the session.I left a " would not reccomend" on two other sites. She changed her name right after the session and threats. I did not wish to get into a pi**ing battle with a provider so I wrote it off and asked my reviews be removed on those sites and decieded not to post here. Bottom line if she does not advetize on eros beware. I have yet to have a bad experience with an eros provider.