Anyone get pushback when having to cancel a meetup during the set up process when the location in the listing isn’t accurate? Basically what has happened to me lately is that instead of being in the city listed, they are in a suburb to which I politely and apologetically explain that it’s too far for me. Usually I’m met with it’s “only [insert distance/time]” or “time waster” which I don’t get because I wouldn’t have reached out in the first place if it was just in the ad.
Plenty of providers that list in my city indicate when they are actually outside of it and I just keep it moving because I know that won’t work for me. I’m not expecting a full address, but being in a different state even if it’s a suburb should be in the listing imo to save all parties involved time and headache. Do other people have this problem or are you just more flexible on travel time and I’m being too particular?I've had issues with ads having inaccurate location info. I usually just ask up front where they are located. If its too far I tell them that and they usually just say "ok." The only thing I can think of is you're getting further along the booking process before figuring out where they are, causing disappointment.
It’s among the first things I ask, like in the second message so my opening one doesn’t come off as “where are you”. I’m also always very apologetic and non accusatory when explaining that I can’t travel that far. Not all instances of this have resulted in them being standoff-ish, but I have had some traveling ones try and convince that it’s not that much farther like I don’t live here and know the area. Maybe I’ve just had a bad luck streak or something.
That's one of the things this board is for! The FIRST time you encounter a provider advertising in a different area they're in and then they make a big deal that you've wasted their time, post it on this discussion board and correct them. That's information that used to be here often with topic titles like "Time Wasters" "False Advertisers" and so on. Each heading would have mutliple providers listed who pulled that kind of crap.
Honestly these days my feelings are there are ZERO victims among us, if you had a bad experience, you got ripped off etc., it's primarily your own fault for not doing enough research and learning about the hobby and how to navigate it. One of the first questions when setting things up; "are you in the city or burb or area that you're advertised in"? If they want to waste more of your time after that after they're been misleading, tell them the truth, they should advertise in or very near where they're advertised at.
I'm downtown Chicago, most travelers that visit stay out by the airport, a 45-60 minute drive for me. Before I even begin asking about an appointment I often text them; regardless if they have a no text notice or not saying something like this; I see you're visiting Chicago in your add, are you in the city or burbs? Great pics by the way! If they have the slightest attitude when answering I may not don't respond or may say sorry that's too far, your ad says you're closer.
I’m not claiming to be a victim here. I always research heavily before booking and even posting here. I just happened to encounter this particular thing in a short period of time when I hadn’t before, so I was seeing if others had as well or if I need to alter my travel expectations. Seeing if the landscape had shifted so to speak.
I’m not going to write a negative review or dox providers for non trivial things like this. They read these boards too and communicate with each other, and it probably isn’t hard to figure out who is who. Everyone’s expectations for these things are so wildly different and I will only post something negative (on boards or in a review) if my personal safety, health or discretion is threatened.
I had this happen to me once. After texting she asked me to call. I'm in LA. She shared that she's actually in the San Fernando Valley. With all the LA traffic, I was looking at 1 hour to 1 hour and 30 minutes to get there. I told her that's not really LA and it's too far. She got pissed, said "I'm sick of you time wasters" and hung up on me. I was like, lady get a clue. You are sick of us? Think about why this has happened so many times that you are now sick of us.
inferring she's lying about her location. ("That's not really LA") Just say something like you thought she is much closer and that maybe next time when we are closer. Then shut up and pay attention to her reaction. If she goes into bitch mode, you know never to bother her again and that you saved your money for a better babe.
Often, or you’re a block away and they start asking for more money.
If you're a block away and they're asking for more money, I would immediately bail! No well reviewed provider is going to pull BS like that only the new girls, scammers and ones who waster everyone's time! They may complain but politely put them in their place. Then you post who pulled that crap with you on here so others can be cautious too. That is of course after you proceed with plan B to satisfy the urge lol. The back up girl you also did some research on before going for the plan A girl who blew it so you don't get your day or night ruined by some BS like that...
Well, at least they tip their hand that the session is going to be mechanical before you part with the yayo$.