This is something we all can ask ourselves and it is very healthy and interesting to explore.
I personally think that T-girls should be totally accepted as a normal third and indeed fourth gender in our world.
If all of the Sports Illustrated Swimsuit vixens had schlongs, most guys would still crave them and only be temporarily puzzled as to what to do with the schlongs, or what kinds of sauces and dressings to use while lunching on them.
However, our world is still on the dumb side of thinking. We elect barbecue eaters as Prez. We in the US have a culture that is so shallow we can barely trip on it.
So there is much bigotry about T-girls.
How did you overcome it? Why? Or did you?

Rather a surprising question from one as experienced as you.  Technically from the medical profession you are characterized as a gynemimetophile, (one who is aroused by female impersonators who are male).

Your basic sexual orientation brain wise is probably clearly hetrosexual, meaning your are attracted to to feminine persona, but your basic own sexual gender identity is somewhat undefined.

Most, not all, gynemimetophilics are either cross dressers them sleves or have undefined sexual orientation and fantasies, but just are not turned on by the masculine persona, so thet do not go for male to male homosexual engagement.

Nonetheless, doing it with a so called TS Escort, either autogynephilic or androphylic, (go look them big words up in the DSM IV which is on line) relieves this anxiety unclarity and allows you a homosexual experience while experiencing hetrosexual identity orientation.

In the final analysis, who cares, do what ya' gotta' do to get pleasure. fact mains, it is all brain/psychic stuff that you can control or not control.

Just remember, you dare not fall in love with a androphylic transgender person, because none of them know who the hell they are or they wouldn't be prostitutes to make their living.

This all has to do with naricissim and personality disorder as well as medical differention in brain dysphoria as well as social dichomoism that there is only male/masculine and female/feminine.

Go fight a war like i did in the Gulf with Islamists and wonder about more important things than how you get off sexually.  If you are identified as homosexual, transgendered, transexual etc. in that f__ked up religion you are as good as dead.

Reality is different than idealism or moral philosophy, prostitution is big business, it's all about money not sex.

Seems like you wanted to think rather than fantasize.   Not a bad activity at all, Brother.

By the way there is no such thing as normal.   Did you hear that the "big bang" theory of the universe is now on the dias as never happened.   No it is "branes" justs cycles, time is forever, dimensions only four since our brains can't see the others.

Personally T-girls will never be accepted as "normal" until they accept themselves, and whether brain or social, not likely to happen.   Lack of self esteem unless you say here's $250 can I fuck you or you me.

You're right that our world is on the dumb side of thinking, but there is much more dumb thinking about more important things than T-girl admiration, if ya' really want to think rather than drop $250 to fuck.

It's a sort of guilt free homosexual sex. Perhaps most men are coded that way to some extent. Whilst openly admitting to yourself that you like other men may be unacceptable, TS's are a reasonable halfway house and easy on the conscience.

As with any part of the hobby seeing TS's could be part of an unadmitted rebellion for most heteros. Who knows?

At the end of the day as long as it is doing no harm and not becoming obsessive then vive la difference. A bit of spice can liven up a jaded hetero palate as can seeing biological female providers.

One point I disagree with is your point about homosexuality within Arabic peoples. It is widespread and in some arabic cultures accepted as a way of life for some, particularly the young who may have limited other outlets for their sexuality. Although granted they do not dress up in frilly frocks and makeup like the campest of Western homosexuals. It is still there.

I have no idea why you "Perfectly Normal Guys" like T-Girls. I can only write for myself. I have never really thought about it to much. Like the others have stated there are associated issues that will make my head hurt.

However, I do have two points that I feel are more important to getting at the crux of this issue.

1) Tell us about your First Time! How did it happen? Why did it happen? Who intitated contact? Did you fantazie for months before getting up the nerve.   The newbies out there are always seeking advice, help to select the provider, curious? What is going on in your heads?

2) The T-Girls are obviously Homosexual. They love men. Not a single man, but as many as there are stars. How to achieve this? Simple, women use men like shake and bake bags. Men love Women! They look at magazines, they jackoff to magazines, they stare at women, stare at their brests, asses, etc. As the medical community made it easier to obtain female hormones and under go surgerys for new breasts, etc. they jumped at the chance. First they love the rush they get of femininity when taking the hormones and second (Here is the Biggy), they love how men look at them, lust at them, etc.

In most instances they keep their genitally intact. Why? because this is their way to be/stay unique. Face it, the ones who have cut off their Royal B-Penis are "Ugly Chics?"

I will answer question number one next time. Just for the record. Never been with a guy, don't want to. I like the endorphins flying off of a TS like Jennifer, etc.

Happy Soul Searching

I feel that the topic has been covered well by my learned fellow board members but I do like to put in my two cents. By the way I don't think you guys are normal either. It takes a great deal of courage to face our social dark sides and say, "What the heck! I like what I like!" It takes even more courage to try to analyze and accept why we like what we like. Then it's easy to go back to saying, "What the heck! I like what I like!"
My dark side journey started with a girl who was into B&D. She like to be humilitated and dominated. I found that this was a big turn on. When I took her anally, I came harder than I ever came before. The more times I spent with her the more I thought about the submissive side of the equation. I tried to figure out what she was getting out of it.
This led me to my first experience with a dominatrix. One prostrate massage and a dildo later I discovered that I liked the submissive side more.
This led to an encounter with another guy. I found I was not attracted to the male persona.
My first experience with a ts was like coming home. This was my first experience an escort. It took me months to finally make the call. I was so nervous the first time about LE that it was quick. I only got into mutual oral on my first visit. The second visit was more comfortable and we got into mutual oral and anal.
I was getting the visual and physical stimulation I needed.
What the heck! I like what I like!

I myself am a normal heterosexual male.  I date women and love women.  I also love adult movies.  Lesbian movies especially.  I remember a star named Felicia.  A thin latina star who never does men.  I once saw her get fucked by another girl with a strap on.  That is when I first was intrigued by a beautiful women with a penis.  I also see women on film enjoying blow jobs and the thought was there about the penis, but I am not attracted to males.....not even a little.  No desire...but the penis I am intigued with.  Come on, every man wishes he were bigger and can shoot loads.  Anyways, I remember at the same time I thought about a fine woman with a penis is the same time I was cruising hollywood blvd. with friends meeting girls.  After they shut down the street (back in the early 90's) we used to see transexuals prostitutes.  I couldn't believe they were really men.  So one night by myself I picked one up and never stopped since.  Imagine Pamela Anderson Lee with a 9 inch penis!  I don't know if I am making sense, but I had a similar discussion with a TS named Kim Devine.  She really made sense of the whole thing to me.  She is great to talk with about this.  So what it comes down to is that I love women, I love pussy, I love ass, and I love the penis.......on a feminine human being.

Jeez, all I need now is the  Pam Anderson you described! LOL

Well, for me two reasons. The first, and most important, is you get the sexuality of a man in the body of a woman. Well, almost the body of a woman anyway. For instance, when I call a TS they usually want to know what I look like, but female providers rarely ask that question. Point being TS are genuinely interested in the sex, while the female providers are probably more interested in the money and a "safe" experience. The second point is you simply get more bang for your buck.