i am finding myself more and more attracted to transsexual girls, and i was wondering, if i ever did start dating them,do your FRIENDS consider it a gay act? me, i could care less!  but i have seen groups of men going to into shemale clubs, which means, they all must be into it. but none of my friends like shemales.  i could care less if people think i am gay, but i am worried some of them might not like me.  also, it would be a lot of fun to hit some tranny clubs, and i would like to ask some of my friends, but i am worried they would freak out.

any advice?

Do you live your life for you?  Or do you live your life for your friends?

It also has to do with how you act about it.  If you act all shamefull that you like trannys then they will cue that off of you.  If you act like it's no big deal, then they will prob act that way too.  

They might tease you a bit, but if they are friends, they will accept it as just one of your querks.  

And you have to be honest with yourself... you DO care if people think you are gay, otherwise you wouldn't have asked this question.

A friend is money in your pocket, live your life for yourself not for others.

by definition participating in homosexual acts. The she-male thing is not generally tolerated by most of society. It is taboo at best. I would stay in the closet. Your friends will never view you the same again.

Are you suggesting that if you only TOP a TS you are not participating in a homosexual act?

... the rest are catching.

.. a friend of mine since school days commented on a few ladies on my MySpace friends list.  Each was transgendered, but stated such in cryptic fasion on their profiles.

Thinking it a bit peculiar that he would mention only the transgendered ladies on my profile, I decided to reveal to him the certain areas of their profiles that mentioned their transgendered sex.

He appeared surprised (as much as emotions can be accurately deciphered from an Instant Message chat), but he remained steadfast in his proclamations of their hotness in the face of my revelations.  

A lengthy conversation ensued, he asked many questions. I presented several pictures of other transgendered ladies. I didn't question him or ask if he accepted or was comfortable his desires for the third sex -- I left that part for him to figure out.

... But I already know the answer ....

If you are waiting for society to catch up and be OK with TS girls, then you will be dead and buried a long time before that happens.

On the other hand, the more people that are willing to come out about it, the more others will join them.  Somebody has to take the lead.

Gay people didn't get acceptance by hiding in the closet forever.  There came a point where - as a community - they decided they wanted to be fullfiled human beings and not be relegated to the back of the bus.  Yes, sometimes they still face discrimination, but then so do blacks, jews, women, and many other groups.

If your friends leave you because you like a certain type of girl, then they would leave you beacuse you were gay, or broke, or not cool enough, or any number of other reasons.  Do you really cherish that type of friend?  If they leave you, you can get new friends.

I've met two kinds of people.  Some live life with courage and live how they want to live. For the most part, they are happy in their lives.  They never regret it.

The other is the kind that always worries about "what the neighbors will say", "what will my friends think", "what if somebody finds out?". Those people are usually nervous wrecks, have bad self esteem, and are never truly happy because they live life in fear.

Pick which way you want to live.

Your friends are gonna freak out. If you do anything regarding ts......keep it to yourself. If you need to go to a ts club, do it yourself.

Your friends might even think some of the ts are hot. I know a couple of my friends at one time insisted that there was no way all the "girls" on Santa Monica Bl. were "he-shes". So they got out of the car one night with the intention of getting some phone numbers. They came back pretty dejected. Despite this, there is no way they would understand anything beyond receiving a BJ from even the hottest ts.

Don't tell them....engage in any activities on your own.

"Your friends are gonna freak out. If you do anything regarding ts......keep it to yourself. If you need to go to a ts club, do it yourself.
Your friends might even think some of the ts are hot. I know a couple of my friends at one time insisted that there was no way all the "girls" on Santa Monica Bl. were "he-shes". So they got out of the car one night with the intention of getting some phone numbers. They came back pretty dejected. Despite this, there is no way they would understand anything beyond receiving a BJ from even the hottest ts. Don't tell them....engage in any activities on your own"

I have to say, when I hear guys talk like that, it's really, really hard to have any respect for them.  That's what gives tranny chasers such a bad reputation.  Scared cowards, always on the down low,  that are ashamed of their own sexuality and their own feelings.

It's such a turn on for girls.

I think that keeping yourself under the radar is essential until you make sense of the situation for yourself.  If the "friends" are giving you shit along the way, it could cloud your own feelings about yourself and lead to more confusion than is necessary.  Figure your shit out, then when you are solid with it, who cares who finds out.
That's not to say hide it, and creep in and out of t/s apartments in the dead of night with a hood on in 90 degree heat, just don't bring it up on the lunch break until you understand youself enough to vocalize your position.
Peace.
J.J.

p.s. Star, coming back to Boston ever?

JJ,

That's a prety fair response.  And to be clear, I don't go around telling everyone I meet about who I date, but I don't hide anything either.  I'm not ashamed of introducing people to my family and friends.  That's all I would expect from any decent man.

As for Boston.... I've never been there.  Different TS Star.

Sorry about the mistaken identity Star, and if you ever DO get to Boston, I'd love to meet you
As far as hiding your actions, fighting a two front war is tough..especially when one front is yourself.  Handle your own shit, then handle everyone elses.
That's my motto, I'm a proctologist.
JJ

Its nothing to do with what you talk about. Much as I don't really go about talking about seeing gg escorts, I also don't go about talking about ts escorts as well. Nothing to do with being cowardly or scared. And why in the world would I talk about any of this with any escort? So how would any ts know I feel this way?

If you live in those all-too-tiny specs of blue on the map, then you're in luck.

The remainder of us have to face accusations of hellfire and damnation for our relationship choices.  

In the Bible Belt lands of NASCAR and trophy wives, silence and denial is king.

... is that, as opposed to GG Straight clubs, a lone man by himself (without his "posse") isn't looked down upon. By all means, visit the clubs!  And savor the fact that your less-evolved friends are missing out on the wonderful experience!

Aren't the trannie's fear of being clocked and the trannie chaser's fear of being id-ed as quasi gay the mirror images of the same angst?  As long as they world abhors the duality of human sexuality, and rejects the obvious truth, that that everyone has has a bit of yang mixed with his yin, or vise versa, we will all live in fear.