I am thinking about trying a TS for the first time, maybe top maybe bottom.  I am a straight guy what does this mean if I want to try this and I like it?

and you no longer will be able to honestly profess that you are a straight guy.

Seems obvious enough . . . . . .

while I find myself stuck in a world where nothing is absolute. Did Iraq really have WMD? is a bbbj from a female provider safer than covered sex with a tranny? if i have lust in my heart am i a sinner? if i live righteously but don't believe jesus is the son of God will i go to hell anyway while the murderer who finds Christ on death row will sit at the foot of the Divine? is "the matrix" a true story? does beer really lower cholesterol? if you get buttfucked in prison are you gay? if you nail 400 women then one drunken night you realize too late that the hot chick you picked up at the bar is a tranny, are you gay? are all bisexuals 'gay'?  not that there's anything wrong with that. i'm just curious.

we live in a world that loves to label. why act surprised?

oldname: what matters more to you - your desire to try a ts, or your concern over what people will think or what it "means"?

what it means to ME, if it matters, is this: i love sex, i had it as often as possible in my teens and twenties, always with women. in my early thirties, i had a "homosexual experience". it was awful. i laid awake nights wondering what was wrong with me. when i got over that, i realized that i was still fascinated with the fantasy. i also realized that i had no attraction whatsoever to masculine men. then i discovered the ts world - beautiful, soft, curvy, sweet-smelling women - with dicks. i've only been with a couple of ts girls so far, but i have enjoyed it thoroughly. i still spend as much time as possible in the intimate company of women, but i also will enjoy a ts experience whenever possible.

if you try it and you like it, it means you tried it and you liked it. that's all.

try it, you'll like it just make sure to pick a girl who is well reviewed, and don't set your hopes so high that they can't possibly be realized. a bad first experience is a good way to fuck it up for good. good luck.

I can't speak for all guys but as one who has been with scores of dames, and a few TS'es over the years, I honestly believe two things about myself:

1. I'm not gay. Not that I think there is anything wrong with others who are gay. I'm just not into that. For me, the thought of making it with a macho man is turn-off. But place me near a sexy, feminine, passable TS and watch me get hot and hard! Since my childhood (when I thought girls had a penis like me) I was turned on by the thought of making it with a girl with a dic.

2. Some will consider me bi-sexual. Others will call me gay. I feel completely straight because my heart will always be a slave to the ladies. A TS is just a nice diversion from the norm.

This is only my way of looking at it... As we hobbyists like to say, YMMV!

max's comment made me think: i was almost thirteen before i knew women didn't have dicks, i kid you not! by then my fantasy of a naked woman -- which i had sketched for masturbatory purposes from vargas drawings of woman who hid ONLY their genital area. -- was set. i even used the word 'cock'  sometimes instead of 'pussy' right up into college. that infantile imprinting is tough to break. so...bottom line, the genitals may be the LEAST determinate of gender for me sexually: the breasts, the ass, the eyes, the mouth, the hair, the cheekbones, the smell, the voice, the legs, the hands, the gentle touch...on and on. so, like you say, everybody defines themselves how they see fit. but my adoration of TS's is not a transitional thing from loving women. it's the same thing. only kinkier. like anal sex. forbidden love. all of them lust-builders! cheers.

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Clarence, I agree with you! It doesn't really matter what people think, if you like it you like it.

But people DO get hung up on labels, and for myself, I finally agreed to think of myself as bisexual due to my love of transexuals.

I am not attracted to manly men at all, but I do love ts's, and I also am sometimes attracted to very "boyish" ts's, ones with no tits and young and boyish. It is this that makes me think I am somewhat "gay" or "bi". But it doesn't matter to me what label I am, I just have decided this about myself.

I LOVE women, and get very hot looking at female porn, and some of my hetero friends get turned off by the super-close-up wet pussy shots, whereas I LOVE those wet pussy shots! So in a way, I'm super-hetero, too! And I LOVE eating pussy, whereas NO gay guy I ever heard of can even stand the thought of doing that!

So I consider myself 75% hetero and 25% bisexual.

For the record, I had mutual j.o. with my teen male friends when I was around 13 and that culminated in mutual oral with one male friend when I was 17-18. We did it several times, and although I wasn't attracted to HIM, I was attracted to his COCK, and the fun I had playing with his and vice-versa.

My first exposure to transexuals was a porno mag he gave me when I was about 16, and I used to masturbate to those girls, though not exclusively. When I moved in with a girlfriend, and was having TONS of great sex with her, I began to sometimes fantasize about those ts's and eventually went out and bought more ts mags. That went on for years, just masturbating to ts's sometimes - other times to women - until finally when I was around 30 I began to see ts prostitutes. Ever since then I've been hooked, and spend a lot of my sexual fantasy time with ts photos and movies, although I still also like hetero movies and photos, especially lesbian ones.

So I guess in the end, I'm "omni-sexual", but if someone wants to call me gay, I would disagree, but so what? Ask my wife if I'm gay!

10-4 misconstrued Max's message, thinking that Max had called him a homophobe.  In fact, Max was accusing ME, not 10-4, of being phobic.  

Sigh.  You boys can get so . . . . . emotional.

Seriously.



-- Modified on 6/17/2003 12:10:21 PM

No, you really don't get it. Beyond that,it really doesn't matter!