i'm not looking to fall in love or anything, i just want to talk with the ladies and learn a little about them.  i always wonder if they're just telling me what they think i want to hear.  i tell them about myself and my life, of course they know i'm not hamming it up!  2 boring 2 be BS!

You are a participant in an interesting form of one on one theater, paritally scripted and partially adlibed.

She wants you to be happy, that way you will come back.  If you are happy, she is happy.

Here's my advice:

If you want an honest reflection on your personal situation, see a good therapist.

If you want to be happy:  See a good provider.

I used to see a therapist, now I see providers; and yes, I am happy.

Enjoy the show.

Dear maxpower308,
I have to hand it to mrfisher on this one. Yes, providers are professional salespeople. They sell sex, packaged [or shall we say couched, LOL] in exactly the kind of erotic wrapping that they feel you may want. This includes hair, makeup, clothing [whatever little of it may turn you on,] and yes, saying things that probably will get a positive reaction from you, including offering up life stories, anecdotes, putative self-disclosures, etc.

As to how much of this verbal performance is true and how much of it is purely mood-enhancing, you will never know. Nor should you worry about it too much [see mrfisher's advice.] You are there to be entertained and stimulated - visually, sexually, emotionally [if that is your wish] and intellectually, if you really feel the need for it. But if you really, really need to know about their private lives, or what they really think - good luck. I'd suggest you just enjoy the phantasy and..

Have a good time!
the Love Goddess

of the same landscape.  Everything MrFisher and LG say is true, and LG's parting words are the best advice, BUT...there are providers who will share their lives to one degree or another, sometimes in great detail...in this event, you need to exercise the utmost respect for the provider and disciplined self restraint for yourself == a real tightrope.  When the boundaries begin to shift like this, you are moving into tricky territory....best to get your jollies and be happy.

I've been very fortunate. For some reason, the providers that I've seen, generally like to talk to me. I've been IMed by them, asked to call them, and have spent time off the clock eating lunch and dinner with them. Just the other day, one told me that the next time she comes to town, she wants me to meet her for lunch and she'll pay!I am a people person and I do enjoy learning about these ladies, so I find this to be a thrill.

events in their lives!   I too seem to be an easy person to relate too and tell their stories.

Examples?  OK

Provider 1:  Told me about her UFO sighting and then how the aliens visited her in her sleep and carried her away!  Yikes!

Provider 2:  She saw Sasquatch in the Oregon woods and he whipped out his 2 foot pecker and waved it at her!  Yikes!

Provider 3:  She was sailing in the Bermuda Triangle and all time stopped, the sea went dark and a pirate ship almost rammed her boat!  Yikes!

See!  You have to know how to just listen

Uh...be careful in trying to get too close.  It isn't a good thing.

I knew a provider who told me that she saw me being the father of her child.

(New world sprinting record set the very same day!)

Awww.. Im sure its not like that! I cant speak for everyone, but I try to be as honest as I can. Its hard for me to open up to a complete stranger but overtime when you build a relationship (not that your looking 2 fall in love, but I have many good relationships with my regs) with someone where you have a level of comfort and trust. It is much easier to tell it all!