Just wondering about practicalities. If you are unattached, then having a SD/SB relationship might be straightforward. But what about those that are not unattached, how do you make things work?
- Many SBs do not have available places of their own to meet. Arranging a hotel to meet every time would get expensive and could be difficult to arrange, for example morning only availability
- Just finding time to meet - skipping work?
- How to avoid tell-take signs (perfumes, hairs, aromas)..

First of all my wife is fully aware of my activities and gives me her loving permission to indulge my desires as I please.  And I give her my permission and encouragement to have affairs as well. We have rules about playing safe and spending limits. This took a lot of communication to establish, but it's the very best way to go about it.  Don't assume honesty is impossible.  Secondly, I bought a really nice RV.  No more hotels for me, if possible.  The SBs I've dated (and a few of the escorts) seem to really like meeting me for a date in the RV.  It typically goes like this:  I pick up my college SB at her house or some other convenient spot.  She hops in the RV and we drive to one of our favorite restaurants.  We have a nice dinner and conversation, then we retire to the RV out in the parking lot and have a great time in bed, no one else the wiser!  I drive her home, drop her off, and drive back home myself.

1. Hotel: It does add to the cost but it still works out cheaper than an escort. I have two great SBs in the minimal range of Seeking Arrangement website. I am hanging on to them. The overall cost  per session including lunch/dinner, hotel and her comp rarely goes above 350 to 400. This is for many hours spent together. On a side note. I ask her to book the hotel and then reimburse her. That way nothing is in my name and if she runs up room service (some do) it will not appear on your card and I don't pay for it.  
2. For morning availability book the hotel the previous day. Many hotels are willing to accommodate a late checkout
3. Skipping work--- no idea how to advice on that as I don't know your work situation.  
4. Avoid tell tale signs. I keep my regular shower gel, shampoo and lotion with the SB. They bring it with them when we meet. I shower after our session.  
Hope this helps.

Sorry to say,it doesn't work for me in my home (LA) town. It had nothing to do with the girls I've met, they are all great and very understanding. But I'm a daytime (11am-3pm) guy and getting a hotel room based on availability was too stressful for me to plan. You'd say to the girl "let's meet at XX". then when you tried to get checked in, there weren't rooms available or instead of the "Day rate" you got hit with the overnight rate, which became pricey. And if no rooms were available I would drive along Ventura Blvd stopping here and there looking for a room that I lost my mojo. Hence I went back to my regular hookers who can accomodate me in LA.
But when I travel, this works great for me, I have time constraints and I have the hotel ready to go.

If this van's a rockin', don't come a knockin. ?

I run into this problem when making daytrips to Dallas and girls want to meet right in that "no man's land" between 11 AM check out and 3 PM check in. I have status with a few hotel chains and I have found that Marriott seems to be the most flexible where it comes to early check in or late check out. I don't really have much experience with "day rates" at any of these places though

Hilton,Doubletree come to mind as the hotels that would actually let me make a reservation at 9am for an 11am check in but you had to be out before 6pm. That was no problem as I was out by 3pm or sooner. But now, something happened and now each hotel, regardless of chain has left the decision on day use, rates and availability to the desk manager during the time you call. So now it becomes a crapshoot. Some are cool, some are assholes. I had a great thing going on with the AM manager at the Universal Sheraton, a perfect setup till I almost burned the room down, then I became a "Persona Non Grata" there. This probably explains why he doesn't work there anymore...lol.
So I gave up the LA scene and took my talents to Vegas....lol....What a shame as I'm still getting messages from girls in LA and damn they're hot. But why waste my/thier time and the aggravation.

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I tried SA once over a year ago and I didn't like it. I hadn't found this borad yet and I couldn't host so it was a bust. If you can't host, $300 for a good hooker with incall is a good deal.

Unfortunately, the no mans land times of 10a-2p are my best times to meet hookers or SBs (while I'm "at work"). If ur near a major airport, between9and5.com. There's a Hilton and Marriott right near Dulles Airport in DC that I can get a day room for 110. It's about a 35 minute drive for me with no traffic, but sadly it's more cost effective than renting a room closer by that doesn't t offer day rates for 2 nights.  

If you work till say 5, you need a post work activity. Like play ball with the guys, go to gym, knitting class, etc. It just has to fit with your lifestyle and interests. Also, it needs to be a routine every week. Unless the SO is very compulsive about knowing your schedule and whereabouts, most guys can pull it off. If that's the case, you're screwed. Lol

no, but I could get one. And honestly, it is a sweet deal.

Thanks for the tips, much appreciated. In my own limited venture into the SB/SD world a few years ago, I could not find SBs in the "minimal" range on the SD4M site, so date + hotel worked out high relative to an escort.

At choice hotels I can usually check in at 1 or 2 PM.     They have also let me stay till 12PM at lunch time.      $60 to $75 with Farm Bureau discount and Choice member.

I searched for potential SBs that were separated.  It seemed to me that they would want to be discrete.  Also I felt I would have a slightly reduced chance of running afoul of Mr.   This decision greatly reduced the field of available SBs on SA, but it didn't take too long to meet a gorgeous but mature lady. (I'm no spring chicken.)