The biggest advantage I have had is clear expectations. I am clear on what I want from a girl and what I'm open to shifting around.
When I first started, I wasn't clear and that led to disappointment. As I got better at it, and during COVID, I was able to hone in on what I really liked from arrangements. Now. I know that's what I'm seeking and if a girl is not in the mood for it, I know to pass and circle back to her from time to time. Or let her come back to me when she's more open.
I'm fortunate having one super reliable long term SB I see every other week. Plus another 2 who are very occasional, always welcome when they appear. But I'd like to develop some more leads so I have at least one more on deck, maybe one more regular. It's not easy, as you all know. I have 2 promising M&Gs scheduled for this week, hope they show up and that the vibe is good!
The biggest advantage I have had is clear expectations. I am clear on what I want from a girl and what I'm open to shifting around.
When I first started, I wasn't clear and that led to disappointment. As I got better at it, and during COVID, I was able to hone in on what I really liked from arrangements. Now. I know that's what I'm seeking and if a girl is not in the mood for it, I know to pass and circle back to her from time to time. Or let her come back to me when she's more open.
Sure. Although if you search there are a few guides from myself and Herbcat the I highly recommend reading.
When I first talk with a potential SB (pot) I like to hear what she is looking for or expecting. Frequency, allowance, private vs public time, etc.
Here's what I expect and discuss: 1. How often is she available for us to see each other? I already have a weekly SB so I don't need another one. 1-2 times a month is good. 2. Allowance, I start 4-500 per date with the expectation of 3-4 hours. Intimacy included. If she expects more I'm not the guy for her. 3. Clean tests. I have them as well and we should be willing to share them. I don't like using condoms and I like STDs less. 4. If it's a one and done or every few months than I'm flexible on her being single. If she is consistent, she cannot be dating anyone or sugaring with anyone else. I don't like drama and don't want to catch anything. Can I prove she's not messing around? Hard, but plenty of girls get caught eventually if they lie too much. 5. If she is not open to public time, ie, doesn't want friends or family to see her out with an older guy it doesn't mean the date is shorter. 6. A meet and greet. If we are far, long video chat at first. Been burned too many times by girls not like their pics or just no chemistry.
The 2 M&Gs did not result in anything more. One cancelled. The other was def DTF, but I felt zero chemistry or attraction so I did not follow up. Otoh, I had a fabulous reunion with a girl who just returned to my area after a 6 year absence. . She was just 18 when we first met and had a couple of fun dates, then she left. Now she's back and asked me if we could meet up. Turns out we had amazing chemistry and were equally delighted to see each other asgain. The sex was amazing. She's incredibly reponsive. And Loud! And when I asked her about $ome $ugar, she said just give me whatever you are comfortable with. Awesome. Hope to continue with her.
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