What gives, Scaramouche,

is that you're over 50 and can no longer be the master of your penile destiny. Multiple ejaculations are not always going to happen. Was it the provider? Dunno, wasn't there. But if you look to providers to give you second orgasms, you may become disappointed. Even the highest performance-rated provider may not always be able to perform miracles. It could be anything on your part - diet, stress, lack of sleep, performance anxiety - but most of all, a change in your bodily rhythm due to maturity. Simple as that.

The most important thing is that you don't believe this was the end of the world, because guaranteedly, it's going to happen again. As to when and where, it's anyone's guess. I love it when posters chime in and share their personal tips of how and what to do to accomplish "a second round;" ultimately, however, these things are individual.

On another note, it is amusing how men come to expect this or that from their bodies. For us women, nothing is ever a for sure thing and we manage to live in peace with physical uncertainty.

Be happy it's up,
The Love Goddess

and I attribute it almost always to the attitude of the provider.

Some have a way of affecting my mind through their words, their actions and some undefinable quality (pheromones?) to turn me on and get me off.

It's part inspiration and part persperation.

about 1-2 months ago i got a surprise: a shift in my responses.

early in my hobby career some warmth and occasional downright slopiness seemed to be needed for me to be able to get off at all.  since i was used to a lifetime of civy companionship almost exclusively, i was  conditioned to things having to be as close to that as possible. so my favorites in my first year tended to be on the warm emotional side.... at least when they were with me.

this year i've been more attracted to ladies that while very fun, are more professional. there are fewer emotional hooks out... i had two incredible surprises this year. one was the best first time sex i've ever had with any woman ever. also the first times i've been able to pop twice in two hours in 15 years. hats off to the ladies i think.

this is despite the fact that my health is not as good as last year. i generally schedule well in advance and abstain from the day there is a set date until the event itself. this can be a week.

i haven't quite figured it out. i'm on a self imposed hiatus because of the flu. but i look forward to trying the next round of experiments.

the only idea i have because the two ladies i've mentioned are quite different in style is that while both are more professional and totally free from drama they don't seem to so completely lose themselves in the session.

i doubt it's my superb skills at work here

Don't get out often, but love to travel and enjoy a few fine women. For me there has been times when we partied our asses off & just went to bed. No sex, just spooning. Other times, same fine ladies, its been off the f*****g charts.  I'm sure most will think I'm odd but I've found some fine ladies that I enjoy spending time with. No disrespect, you're experiance and time well surpasses me. I like to have a good time and it doesn't need to be in bed. Best to you

Re: Question for Love Goddess

I'm over 50 too. Having been in your situation, and being a student of Orgasms I can tell you it is all mental (your mental). My ATF a lovely lady, first time 1 pop, but it seems as we connected there were more. Each time we meet it is a new record not that I am counting. Something in the mental connection and our mutual love for the pleasure of an orgasm.

Do you ever wonder why providers offer just 1 hour and more seems to be an exception? 1 hour is about what it takes to make it happen. And about the right amount of time both of you can keep your attention (mental). Have you ever made love for 3 or 5 hours straight. Not because that was the goal but because you were having that good of time.

Find a lady who loves pleasure and gives from the heart, relax, enjoy, and never let her go! Until after the session LOL

I usually can't pop twice in an hour unless I masturbate.  With a provider it is virtually impossible.