Have another question for you fine gents. Some of you have described a SB in your rotation as seeing them periodically or whenever i.e. not on a prescribed schedule. How do you find those species? Every SB I have talked to has wanted a regular ongoing arrangement, say weekly, bi-weekly. None have ever said to me to just connect with them when I 'm in the mood, no expectations, just whenever. Perhaps I have misunderstood the descriptions of those SBs who seem to appear/disappear on an ongoing basis. It would be nice to have one or two of them.

Don't be scared off by a pot who says she needs a regular, periodic schedule. I've found many of them will conform to what you offer instead.

 
Of course every girl wants a rock-solid, guaranteed, regular schedule of deposits (and meets). I don't blame them for asking for that. In fact, I prefer them to the ones whose initial offer is "anything."

 
I travel nearly every week, but my schedule is not like the Swiss train system. I tell them "here's how often I'm in your city and this how much I want to see you and we'll have to work it out week by week" at XXX ppm. If they bail at that point, I shed no tears. But most will give my schedule a try. (If they insist on automatic monthly allowance, that's a dealkiller for me. PPM only.)

 
Then, once we meet, I make sure she has such a damn good time that she basically forgets she started out asking for the moon. (Again, I don't blame her. If she ends up with someone she's not very attracted to, then of course other terms should favor her. I don't have any illusions that I'm a chick magnet, but it really is not hard to far surpass the worst possible version of a SD in her mind.) After a fantastic first date, complete with BCD, she (consciously or subconsciously) decides she'll see me whenever I'm in town if we're both available. I can't overstate the prevalence of this outcome. If I get her on a date, which almost always means getting her into bed, she is very willing to be sort of "on call" when I fly in ("on call" means a day or two of notice).

 
So ... engage and remember she will adjust her requirements at her will. Remember she states her initial requirements based on you being ugly, boring, jerky, embarrassing, uncouth, unreliable, bad in bed, etc. Her requirements get a lot more flexible when she realizes you are the opposite of those things.  

 
Rockfordfile

In Rocks case, the schedule flexibility is driven by his travel needs.    For me, I've accumulated 4 or 5 occasional SB's for different reasons.  

 
For some, their travel schedule meant they might only be around once every 4-8 weeks. For others, they lived in the general area but far enough away that getting to my place was not convenient. So they may very well put me on THIER B-List, lol.  Fine with me.  

 
For others, they had a long time BF who they saw frequently. That means they come to see me when his schedule allows. Although for my current Latina she has driven to my place directly from the BF's home when he failed to deliver.  A 20-minute drive and a hot shower later, I'm jaw deep in her and making her breathe heavy while pulling my hair and trying not to scream so loud she alerts my neighbors.  BTW, she gets the 2nd lowest allowance I offer, and she is happy with that.  

 
The porn stars I see are more expensive, of course. So I negotiated a once every 4 to 8-week schedule from the start. Worth it.  

 
Life is good

 
The Cat

I've met tons of girls that want weekly dates and allowance.  But they don't want to make time for it.  It's very rare to get weekly dates consistently.  Right now. Sure.  Christmas is expensive.  Summer time when they want to travel.  Or around their birthday bc they want you to splurge on them.

Reality is. Most want an extra $1k a month in their pocket with little work.  So look pretty, fuck once, and go out to eat.  That's the reality.  Some really do want consistency.  Some really want to connect with you.  Some will want you to be their boyfriend.  

Just be clear on what you want.  I have an occasional SB that keeps complaining about money but is only ever free weekdays during lunch.  I can't take time off every week.  I've offered dinner dates, trips, she is always 'busy'.

I have both kinds, and I can't actually say how I found those species.  As others have said, the ones who want somewthing very regular seem to be more prevalent.  My #1 and I have been getting together every 2 weeks like clockwork of a year and a half.  21 dates with her this year so far, and #22 set for 3 days from now.  It's fantastic having her in my life and forming the basis around which I schedule my other activities.  

My "whenever" SB is a lovely girl I met 7 years ago.  WSe've never been very rgular, just whenever.  This year IU've seen her 4 times so far, #5 set for tomorrow.  That's the way she likes it and I'm fine too.  I know I can always text her and ask for a date if I'm feeling it,  sometimes she's available, sometimes not.  but we always have an amazing time when we get together.

Another SB is sorta in between those 2 extremes.  We were very regular, as in every 2 weeks, for about a year, when she quit sugaring.  when she returned, it's been more sporadic, but again, wonderful dates when I do get to see  her.  5 dates with her so far this year.

I think it's really hard to predict what kind of schedule the girls will want in a sugar arrangement.  My best advice is keep adding to your rotation until you have all the slots you are looking for filled to your satisfaction!

It's true that very few out there will be consistent. But the consistent ones are out there. It's a numbers game.

 
Here's the preferred progression:

Look pretty, eat, fuck, allowance, she goes home.
Look pretty, (maybe pregame), fuck, eat, fuck again, allowance, she goes home.
Look pretty, (maybe pregame), fuck, eat, fuck again, stay the night, fuck in the morning, take her to breakfast, allowance, she goes home.

 
I just have make damn sure she has a damn good time. Yes, it's a problem when she wants me to be her boyfriend and all that entails, or she wants to marry, or she wants me to buy us a house. But by the time those things happen, a year or more has passed, and I'm calling it a good problem to have.

 
Rockford

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