I say it all the time, probably more than most want to hear: Never burn bridges.  

 
I got a Snapchat Add request last night from a name I did not recognize.  This was different from the seemingly random "add suggestions" the app always shows. It was a Friend Add request, which means the other user had to know my Snap account name.  I accepted just to see where it goes, and knowing I can always block if it goes south. It did not.  

 
She asked me if I remember her.  OK - this is the typical Pig Butcher start where "she" tries to start a conversation with a stranger, hoping to catch some lonely guy/simp who is too stupid to know he's going to be scammed.  But this time she used my first name and that is unusual. Most scammers don't know your name when "fishing." But if the scammer knows who you are and is deliberately targeting you (spearfishing), she will know your name and possibly lots of other things about you.  I told her I did not recognize her name and asked her where we met. While waiting for her reply I searched all my contacts, saved sugar profile pics (going back to 2012) and other sugar records I had saved. No hits.  I was late at this point, so I went to bed with no reply.  

 
This morning, she replied. She used to be a dancer, so it was either "club 1", "2", or "3".  These were all clubs I frequently visited over the last 15-20 years, but less so in the last 5 years. I asked for a picture. She sent one (topless) and asked if I still have the same phone number. I told her I did without actually giving her that number and asked her to text me there.  When she did, her old contact record popped up in my phone using the name she had at that time.  It was a stripper I had played with at a full extras strip club near me from 2016!  I actually still didn't remember her or any specific fun we may have had in the club almost 10 years ago. But the text messages were right there on my phone.  We stopped communicating back then - not really sure why, but it was right around the time I started dating an SB who would become my #1 for the next three years.  

 
We spent a few minutes catching up - I am now retired, she just graduated from nursing school - and then she told me that she'd like to have fun on the side while she looks for her first nursing job. She lives near me and has a car.  

 
Why me? I really have no idea other than her comment that she always thought I was nice to her. I moved forward as though this was now a sugar dating negotiation. We went through details like allowance, preferences and boundaries and locations for meets.  I offered a moderately low-ball allowance just to test her level of interest specifically in me and she accepted without any pushback.   The amount was about what I was offering as a mid-to-high range allowance in 2016. Perhaps she had not worked in a club in a long time and/or hadn't sugared in a while either. Perhaps she just wanted to get laid for some cash and believes I am a nice, generous guy - which I am. Perhaps she is tied of not attracting a civilian boyfriend as she has a school-aged son. I am not really sure which, if any of those are true. We have a dinner date this weekend and expect to go BCD after.  I'm guessing she is in her mid-30's now.  

 
This could still be some kind of set up. Or she could now look very different now. But I'll know what to do when the time comes. As Alec Baldwin's character "Blake" said at the "sit" meeting that opens the movie "Glenngarry Glen Ross" says:  "It's fuck or walk!"  

 
So a bridge never burned can still be crossed... even almost a decade later.  

 
Life is good

 
The Cat