I overanalyzed an isolated incident and it is not a good idea. A provider told me I made her physically uncomfortable. I don't want to get into specifics but it was unintentional and we were not doing anything unusual. It apparently happened on more than one occasion. When she finally told me the extent of her discomfort I was shocked that I had not figured it out myself. I would never want anyone to experience physical discomfort with me. I thought her increasing distance over time was for another reason.

When I found out I immediatly became distraught. I was overly worried and self concious when I was with other providers.  I started contantly checking way to much to make sure they felt physically comfortable.

So I finally resolved in my mind that the problem I experienced was an aberration and nothing to worry about with others. My mind likes to play tricks on me

So gregory 12, I agree, just chalk it up as an isolated incident and enjoy. Thats what I am doing and it is working.

Hi LG - you are right of course. I was so distraught, and I respect your insights so much, that I had hoped for some mind reading I guess. Thank you for the reassurance. Nothing to do but be myself, and let the relationships unfold as they will. But I am all about giving sensuality and pleasure. I measure the success of an encounter by the pleasure I give, by how the lady is moved, more so than by whether and how often I get off. I remain somewhat shell shocked about events.  Thank you for the encouragement.... Cheers  Gregory

Hi LG  Well, I guess the honest truth is, that I was so taken back by the situation, because the lady in question and I have gotten pretty close. I've continued to see other / new ladies but our relationship had gotten past the strictly professional. Two hour visits had become overnighters, and we've exchanged perhaps too many confidences. You can guess the rest. I'd be the first person to tell someone else to avoid this. And I've been in the game for 36 years now. But it happened. The lady and I have communicated. The situation is going to be a tough one. I had hoped we could back off a little, and preserve the best of what we've experienced. But this is apparently more difficult for the lady than it would be for me.
So I don't know how it will pan out. But I sure wish that we had figured out a way to limit or deal with it earlier on, and keep on enjoying each others company professionally without
any entanglement. It's just a fact of life that when you're enjoying each others bodies, and getting to know each other on a personal basis, the chance for emotional developments exist. So, put me down in the column of men who did not see this coming (or didn't want to), did not set and keep limits (or didn't want to). I've been "here" before (which led to a long relationship with lots of drama and a hard crash and burn at the end), and apparently have not learned my lesson...

Thanks for your thoughts - I acknowledge that the ladies reaction is hers alone to understand, unless she chooses to communicate. I guess my befuddled-ness (if there is such a word) comes from the fact that we have gotten to know each other a bit and have shared a lot of tenderness together. I'd hate to loose what we had been building, but if so, que sera. On the other hand, in my currently shell shocked state, I am a little inhibited to explore the possibilities with other ladies I see. In the end, I can only man up and let events unfold....  Cheers - Gregory

I had a somewhat similar experience a while ago. We were into the act in MS and her face got very serious and her eyes welled up with tears. We stopped and I asked what was wrong. She wouldn't tell me but it was a very tender moment for both of us. I saw her many times more before she retired and moved back to the Ukraine. She said she would come back but she hasn't and I still have tender feelings for her.

Mind-reading only goes so far. Unless she decided to see you again and tells you, you'll never know. From what you've said, it is more about her than you.