Lately i have been having trouble cumming because when some ladies giving me a BJ they often pull my foreskin down so they can pleasure my "head". Although it feels good, my "head" is just too sensitive. It's like i can feel i am going to shoot but it won't cum until a long time. Which can be a problem with one hour session. Can anyone give me any suggestion of what i can do?
If you have a favorite whom you have seen more than once (if you don't, try to pick one), experiment with her. If you already know what gets you off, communicate that with her. This might not work very well in a first session, for me anyway, the first one is a kind of 'get to know you', the ones after that are more relaxed. Any of the true GFE's I've been with were VERY receptive to my suggestions. A true provider gets alot of satisfaction in pleasing her client, and if you tell her, specifically, what gets you going, she'll jump at the opportunity to give you a better experience. Don't worry about her feeling bad because she's not 'doing it right', that'll never even enter her mind. If you don't know what gets you off, the two of you could have some real fun finding out!
Very simple, i am,
Just tell the provider prior to her enthusiastically ministrating to your sensitive glans! Inform her softly and gently [that sets the mood for tender treatment] that you have a very sensitive 'penis head' and that because you are 'uncut,' you can feel everything she does so much more intensely.
This is mostly a problem in countries where men are circumcized, and women are used to "keratinized" glans. If you examine a glans that has been protected in its intended little "baggie," it looks moist, of pleasant color and never dry. Unfortunately a glans that's been leading a life of exposure and possible chafing, can look a little "dried out" and surely needs more lubrication and force to get going. If women are used to this type of penis, their ministrations will reflect it. Believe it or not, some women in this country have NEVER SEEN an uncircumcized penis, much less manipulated one!
On a soapbox note, I wish parents and schools would take responsibility for better sex education, not only in the United States, but worldwide. Sexual ignorance and inexperience, not to mention all sorts of circumcisions and genital mutilations [yes folks, I hear you on the HIV-debate] have contributed to much physical and psychological misery all over. Sometimes I think retired providers would make very good sex educators, both in schools and in the various workplaces. Something to think about for the German government, who offer positions in eldercare to retiring ladies...
Talk about it, and it will work,
the Love Goddess
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Some opinions, observations and wonderings:
- I'm cut and I am aware of the fact that uncut gents have more penile sensitivity during sexual activity. Since I was circumcized at the ripe old age of 1-day and I'm now 53, I can't speak in any experiential terms as to the pros/cons of circumcision on my sexual satisfaction. And neither can most men of either side of the blade debate. I'd love the opportunity to speak to a gent who has had sex in both an uncircumcized and circumcized state. This is not likely ever going to happen so all I can do is relate my own experiences. This trigger happy guy is quite pleased with the sensitivity attached to his penis. I have zero regrets about the pleasure given to me from my cut penis. Based on this lifelong observation and the fact that I have yet to talk to the man who was sexually engaged both with and without, I'm quite skeptical when it is suggested that circumcision diminishes a man's sexual satisifaction. (BTW: Not suggesting that LG made this claim in her reply).
- I suspect my parents had me circumcized because that is what the norm was at the time. As U.S. Irish Catholics it was not a religious mandate but certainly a common custom. Well 25 years ago I did the same to my newborn son. My wife and I gave it some thought but thought it best and had it done before he came home from the hospital. There is no way that I feel as if I was mutilated in any fashion by my parents, I do not belive I mutiliated my own son and I know he does not feel that we mutilated him. (Again not suggesting that LG implied that circumcisions were mutilations).
- As far as ignorance... I'm kind of glad that I'm not a young parent thinking about this decision today. As I indicated, my wife and I did think about it then and I suspect we would likely make the same decision today. However there certainly is more ammunition in the debate now than 25-years ago. Now there are far more people citing circumcision as unnecesaary and even cruel, or at least there are more people vocalizing the subject. On the other end is the HIV debate that certainly was not present when my son was born. So I feel for young parents who may now feel tormented one way or the other. While I agree with LG that ignorance on such a topic is shameful, I also think it is near impossible to capture the infalable information that would make circumcision decisions easier. Informed or not, no matter what direction a young parent takes today, someone will say they made the wrong decision.
-- Modified on 4/16/2007 2:03:23 PM
About 25 years ago I worked with a guy who was circumsized as an adult and he said it was very uncomfortable. He said for a while an erection was extremely painful. He could laugh about it when we spoke but he said in the hospital one didn't wait to go to urinate because you did not want to get a piss hard on.
I am trying to remember his reason for getting it as an adult. Memory mail fail here but I think it was something like feeling different in school and cleanliness.
Moral: if you are going be circusized pick parents who will do it while you are still in the hospital.
Beret
As a circumcised, middle-aged man, I can tell you that sensitivity has decreased for me over the years. I attribute it to not having a foreskin and the protection that it gives to the sensitive glans. As LG said about kerotic (not to be confused with erotic! lol) changes on the surface of the glans, those changes that occur over time for we circumcised gents, will not happen for you. That's a great thing for you as you age. Enjoy it. Just communicate well with your bedmates and explain the issue because, as LG said, its very likely that you may be one of the few uncircumcised men that a girlfriend or other sexual partner will have met.
Note to LG: I agree with you about genital mutilation and the difficulties (both physical and psychological) that ensue as a result. Unfortunately, cultural and, especially, religious traditions make this an impossible practice to change, at least for many generations, if ever. I, for one, wish I was not circumcised.
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Most girls have their routine to a T and they suck every single cock in the same way...or try to copy porn flicks chicks.
Uncut cock heads are extremely sensitive...but I found out some guys do cum quick and some don't.
Not only the sensitivity on the head is a factor but also the amount and thickness of the foreskin.
If the guy has more skin and thicker than normal, well, he will last forever!
A thick foreskin is like a protective sleeve on his cock and it reduces the friction his shaft needs to make him cum.
I have my own techniques for uncut cocks...if you mail to me I might be able to share with you.
xoxoxo
Betty
I have the same problem...a BBBJ has to be only for foreplay, and only for 5-10 minutes, then it starts to be uncomfortable and I lose my erection, I have to stop the provider and say that is enough.
I also need to leave the foresking on the penis and not pulled back or else it is uncomfortable as well.
And I really like having a Condom on because it helps me not come to quickly, I did notice one time recently I could'nt come after about 30-40 minutes of Intercourse, I finally just gave up, I was too exhausted.