Dear PowersD,

Your query is quite interesting. Books do not help to maintain erection per se, unless you prop your penis up against them and hope it stays that way .

In all seriousness, however, you may be a candidate for ED meds if you can't stay hard longer than a minute. On the other hand, if you are hard during masturbation, then it's a question of habituation. You will need to go very slowly with a living, breathing woman and try to do sensate focus. This means focusing on one body part at a time and being very sensual in an NON-DEMAND position.

You can read Bernie Zilbergeld's book The New Male Sexuality and follow his advice, which isn't significantly different from mine. At this point, I'd say you may be a candidate for ED meds, IN ADDITION to the no mas masturbation plan.

Get with a woman you trust (a big issue) and start exploring SENSUALITY without being so focused on erection. Other than that, you may also see a physician to try some ED meds, at least until you get more comfortable with a new sexual pattern (or partner.)

Good luck,
The Love Goddess