I would like to give gentle touching to my chosen asp without intercourse or other typical requests.

This sounds so tame I wonder if they are even interested in a client who just wants to lay naked together touch and caress for an hour or two. I miss this more than anything.

Should I be looking for a specific asp or?

Any help would be hopeful.

How fabulous of you, zach.martin6,

YES, providers are interested! In fact, you'll be the beau of the ball, so to speak! Choose a provider who is reasonably mature, sophisticated and who understands tenderness at its finest. You could turn out to be a dream client - providers need caressing too, you know.

Awesome,
The Love Goddess

The reason I say that is I've known two providers quite well that DIDN'T like to be touched or caressed, and for the same reason some don't like to be kissed- it's too personal.

While it may seem counterintuitive, a lot of women can detach themselves from "down there" (i.e., their vagina) during sex a lot easier than they can separate themselves from touching or kissing during foreplay.  Of course, that's assuming they want to separate themselves from intimacy in the first place.

A lot of women crave touch as much as you do, so first make sure you've found someone who likes your brand of intimacy and then you'll both have a great time.

Sign me up..love that stuff.

I agree that it seems that way but it's my opinion that it's that detachment that leads to problems later.

LG could lend much more insight but I think that a woman who sells her body without some connection emotionally to the act will eventually harm her emotional connection to herself in profound ways.

It is one of the reasons that some providers turn to self-medicating.

in terms of cause and effect.  I knew them both long enough and well enough to know that something wasn't right with them.  

One of them was a high-functioning alcoholic with major father issues from her childhood.  He, too, was an alcoholic, but he didn't hurt her, he simply ignored her and was indifferent to her- essentially she didn't exist to him.

The other was "low-functioning."  But she had a father who rejected her in very deliberate and painful ways, like returning letters or gifts unopened.  This was still going on in her early 40's as she tried to re-establish contact.  It was painful for me to watch.  She also had some sort of other personality problems that were never really diagnosed, despite several attempts by professionals.

After getting to know these two women, I realized just how important a healthy father-daughter relationship can be to later happiness- or conversely, how destructive a bad relationship can be.   Both of these middle-aged women were far worse off than if they'd no father at all.

I do this all the time, although after sex. I had 2 particular regular providors that LOVED me for this. They always wanted to rush the sex and get it over with so we could spend more time just cuddling up and lightly caressing each other. They absolutely loved it when I would just lightly run a couple fingers up and down their body. A lot of the time we wouldn't talk or anything, just lay there caressing each other. Especially after sex, the skin was so sensitive and it all just felt awesome. Very cool and I agree, you will be loved for it.