Most of what I'm going to write here contradicts Herbs advise so use it for what it's worth. Keep in mind, I have only done this a few times. It takes a lot to get me to make this commitment.
First off, why? My goal is to have 2-3 dates a month with a hot woman who actually enjoys spending time with me going out and having great sex. So, long term the plan is to be dating without drama and have a great time. Connection, conversation and amazing intimacy. That usually doesn't come in one date.
Second, I can afford to pay 2-3k a month in allowances for a few girls. So, if one skips out, I have a party pad till I pick up a new one. The lease is in my name.
Not a chance I'm going after those hos that want 7-10k per month. Never worth it. And you never do enough for them. They are leeches that will suck the life out of you.
The idea of paying rent is not even discussed till after we have been seeing each other a long time. She has to prove to be consistent and a good time. We have to have a great connection. No emotional fizzle. Months of consistency and great communication. Good dates are easy and there can always be something ongoing that can stay ppm.
Why do I consider rent? I like the idea of having access to the apartment. Lease is in my name. If she fucks around I can always boot her out. But it also guarantees she's gonna be there more when I want to. If she's willing to rearrange her schedule to see me at least once a week, then she is a candidate. If I'm shelling out rent, there's gonna be guarantees on her end as well. That includes text, talk, pics, videos and regular dates. Great time alone. Like a real girlfriend with less drama.
Here are the real results so far:
1. Lasted 5 months. 6 month lease I had the place, basically used it for an outcall if I wanted to see an escort. Then let it go. Was good, till she flaked and I asked her to move out.
2. Lasted 2 months. She was 'on vacation' for almost a month. I swung by and saw her chilling there with friends. I told them all to get the fuck out. She argued about it being here place, I pulled the phone out to call the cops. Lease was in my name. She left very quickly.
3. Went for close to a year. This was during Covid and she was a college student so it was rough. Ended due to something happening to her. So no blame game on either side.
4. Still going. Been paying her rent for six months. We were together two years before hand. Going great. I've met her family, she's met mine. We are more of a couple at this point.
Lessons learned.
1. be more careful than you think. If you think she's about ready and going to commit. Wait, make her prove she can be trusted.
2. Is this someone I actually want to have any connection or liability to me?
3. Can you afford to pay the lease if you boot her out? And still enjoy your life?
4. You are signing a lease, what is her commitment?