but I doubt any of his "probing" was in search of answers about her 8 month absence. lol
I am with Herbcat (as usual) on this. This is NSA, and NSA works both ways. We don't want needy and clingy SB's and I am sure they feel the exact same way. Personally i love having a bunch of young hotties drifting into and out of my life.
I just had an SB drift back into my life, but my story doesn't have the same happy ending as Sweetman's. I had an SB wander back into my life after a four month absence. She reached out to through the site as she had "lost her phone" along with my number. I was really happy to hear from her again and we made plans to see each other again in a few days. She told me she had also gotten a new job as a cocktail waitress at a local "gentleman's club" so before our date I thought I would drop by, say hello, and grab a quick drink together and I am SO happy I did. I barely even recognized her when I got there, some how she had gained a good 40 lbs in only four months. Oh well, you win some and you lose some. Obviously there was no date, I tried to get interested in her again and tried to tell myself "she's not THAT fat" but she had made the mistake of wearing a top that exposed her previously very flat tummy and all that new flab just killed my interest in her.
So 8 months ago I started dating this very cute asian college girl, all of 19yo. We wound up having 2 BCD dates, and then she ghosted. No biggy right? Lotsa fishies in the sea. But I liked her and she seemed to like me enough to cum back for a repeat. I think at the time her sorority dues were coming up and she needed money. Whatever! All I know is she showed up twice for me, got naked and screwed my brains out. Fast forward to this evening. I got a text from her asking if we could get together again, maybe 2 days from now. Sure I'm all in! Whytf not! Several of my regulars are busy or otherwise unavailable. Who knows, this girl might be eager to remain in the rotation on a more regular basis this time around. Nah, she's probably just broke!
Not that unusual see this behavior. That's why I always try to avoid unnecessary conflict. I'd rather let her fade out of my rotation with the potential for her to drift back in sometime in the future than insist on a definitive end.
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He it's the very definition of NSA, right?
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Enjoy your seasonal dish!
do not probe her for the reason for her 8 month ellipse in your relationship.
Her reasons are her reasons, and I'm sure she will take umbrage at any probing.
As long as the time you spend together is high quality, that's all that matters.
but I doubt any of his "probing" was in search of answers about her 8 month absence. lol
I am with Herbcat (as usual) on this. This is NSA, and NSA works both ways. We don't want needy and clingy SB's and I am sure they feel the exact same way. Personally i love having a bunch of young hotties drifting into and out of my life.
I just had an SB drift back into my life, but my story doesn't have the same happy ending as Sweetman's. I had an SB wander back into my life after a four month absence. She reached out to through the site as she had "lost her phone" along with my number. I was really happy to hear from her again and we made plans to see each other again in a few days. She told me she had also gotten a new job as a cocktail waitress at a local "gentleman's club" so before our date I thought I would drop by, say hello, and grab a quick drink together and I am SO happy I did. I barely even recognized her when I got there, some how she had gained a good 40 lbs in only four months. Oh well, you win some and you lose some. Obviously there was no date, I tried to get interested in her again and tried to tell myself "she's not THAT fat" but she had made the mistake of wearing a top that exposed her previously very flat tummy and all that new flab just killed my interest in her.
... that could be the result either (or both) of two reasons:
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1. She's been eating like two people, or
2. She's been eating FOR two people.
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Good time to pre-pay for a DNA test and make sure your lawyer's retainer is paid up?
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I say this as a joke of course, as I know GaGa is expertly careful about wrangling his little critters, but it's still a potential risk of the sugar world. Here's what happened to me with a stripper-turned-SB a few years ago...
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I met her in a local club and we hit it off immediately. I ended up taking her OTC virtually every time I was in town for the next year. Eventually, I started flying her into my city (cheap on Southwest) for weekend trips and lot's of fun. Just around early December we got together for a 36-hour marathon fuck-fest I'll remember for a very long time. Note that I never gave this Viet spinner more than $300 in sugar per meeting, even on extended visits.
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I lost contact after that when her phone number went dead. After calling some of the clubs she worked at and hearing she no longer worked at any of them, I assumed she had either met someone who locked her down, she had moved away or she just wasn't interested in me anymore. It happens, NSA and all that. So I moved on...
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Cut forward 3 months when I next came back to town and I decided to make a short roll to the same strip club. I'm there for maybe 4 minutes when a slightly plumber Viet (not so much-) spinner walks up to me and gives me a hug. She was just large enough for me to think she'd really let herself go over the holidays...or that's how far my brain went before she dragged me into the VIP and then all my blood was rushing south as she administered one of her expert BBBJCIMNQNS's on me. Of course, we updated phone numbers and I let her know I wanted to see her OTC soon.
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Two days later, she texts me: "Hi.. we need to talk." And I finally start doing the calendar math. Yikes! We need to talk indeed!! She was just preggers enough to look either fat or knocked up. And she was about 2 weeks shy of her medical facilities' cut off for exercising any alternatives. So I ended up funding an alternative, out of pure fear. Didn't ask about other possible friends... if there was (and I'm not so naïve to think I was the only guy she was banging) she'd either admit it (and then what? Do I go find this guy and split the costs?) or, she'd deny it and I'm right back where I started. So I just made the investment.
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Now cut forward again about 4 more months. I'm driving through wine country on my way out of my 2nd winery and I get a text from her. It's a small pic of what looks like a newborn baby! No message, just the pic. I start freaking out! I text her back and ask who is in the pic. She replies with "Opps! That's my cousin's baby. Sorry I meant to send that to xxxxxxx." I spent the next few hours driving home in a panic. I followed up asking some more "innocent" questions like where is your cousin and hope both parents are well and happy. Her replies "seemed" legit and I finally just hoped that it was a legit mistake and that I wouldn't end up in a bad, bad place. The "bad" never materialized. I did see her about a year later, still working at the same club and no sign of or mention of her having a kid. But damn! Too fucking close.
So the long lost asian cutie whose reappearance started this thread postponed on me. Said her parents asked her to take care of her little brother and she couldnm't meet me. Possibly even true! But then she asked to set up another time, looks like next week, and she sounds very committed to not flaking out. Which is not exactly the same thing as actually not flaking out. We shall see....
Yep. Shit can happen.
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I'd say take advantage of this delay to NOT try to leverage it into lower sugar or asking "more" of her as punishment, lesson learned, making it up to you, etc.
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Be gracious and accept the reschedule warmly. She probably isn't doing this to test you. But she will definitely judge you poorly if you appear to be vindictive for "bailing" on you.