Lately, I find my mind occupied with sexual thoughts virtually all day long.... is this ab-normal?.... what is normal?

Thank you

Reear Love Goddess

Dear Curious,
"Virtually all day long." Hmm...does it stop you from concentrating at work? Are you in danger of getting fired? Have your peers/superiors complained about your work performance? Are you having problems concentrating while driving? Does thinking of sex "virtually all day long" stop you from enjoying other activities such as sports, school, other non-sexual entertainment such as movies, books, music? Do you find yourself irritated and snappy when interrupted during your thinking by others? Are you neglecting your immediate family emotionally and/or financially because your thoughts prevent you from being a good partner/parent/friend?

If you answered yes to more than two questions, you may suffer from sexual addiction and that's not a laughing matter. You will need treatment.
But...take heart! Here's some data from the Laumann Gagnon Study at the University of Chicago, popularly titled "Sex in America." That was a landmark study from 1994, detailing the sex lives of appx 3,500 randomly selected American adults. The survey was conducted by the National Opinion Research Center. Some of their findings were that 54% of men think about sex everyday or several times a day, 43% a few times per month or a few times per week, and 4% less than once a month (Laumann, Gagnon, Michael, Michaels, 1994).
19% of women think about sex everyday or several times a day, 67% a few times per month or a few times per week, and 14% less than once a month (Laumann, Gagnon, Michael, Michaels, 1994).

Unfortunately there is an urban legend circulating around, twisting some old Kinsey data, stating that men think of sex every 7 seconds. Clearly, that's not the case, or we'd all be hopping around like priapic primates, or protecting ourselves from the same

Now think again. Do you really, really think about sex ALL day long? Maybe your increased sexual thoughts are there to distract you from something boring or anxiety provoking. Is there something stressful going on in your life right now? Thinking of sex is a wonderful distraction and a great escape. Increased sexual thoughts (when there is no direct stimulus) can also have something to do with a life transition that may feel uncomfortable or scary. We tend to return to the familiar and that which we are able to master when faced with big decisions that may take us into new or unknown territory. Having fantasies where everything turns out great, sex included, is not such an abnormal defense.

On the other hand, if it gives you pleasure, keep fantasizing and enjoying. Just don't let it get in the way of real life or a REAL good lay..

Good vibrations your way,
the Love Goddess

Get a bunch of MLB trading cards and whip them out when ever you feel too aroused.

They don't pick them for their looks.

So I stole it!   I am willing to suffer the consequences for my theft.

Is it a personality disorder to get turned on by a good vocabulary?  

Bonobo

No problem, fellow simian...you know that bonobos engage in what Japanese primatologists named "GeeGee labbing" after they saw bonobos happily rubbing their genitals together?

Uh, uh, uh
the Love Goddess

Keep them coming LG.

Bonobos present a conundrum for bioethicists as well, since they passed the mirror recognition test for self awareness in 1994. Peter Singer and other bio-ethicists insist the bonobos should enjoy all the rights to survival and life that homo sapien sapiens enjoy.  However, other sexual behaviors the bonobos exhibit, such has incest and pedophilia, present them with unanswerable issues.

I love it when you get selfish!   uh uh uh! :^)

Bonobo

after completion of a steamy love session do you
put your pants on one leg at a time or do use a parachute to land in with both feet at once?

Decided not to comeback on this.

Warmth

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