Providers know that hobbyists often experience more satisfaction from a session if they believe the provider has enjoyed herself.  It's part of the fantasy that they provide.

That's not to say that it doesn't happen. Certainly it can and does when everything is right.

It's not that difficult to tell if a woman has an orgasm.  There are physiological changes that happen and that can't be faked.  But you have to get a little education about what those changes are and that information is available far and wide.

I personally find it a huge turn-off when a provider tries to fake an orgasm.  It ruins the session.  I would much rather she either not try to impress me with her fake enjoyment or let go enough to truly enjoy the session.  The lie is an enormous turn-off for me.



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with me, orgasms are very rare, in or out of the hobby. i may have had one or two with a client since i've been in the business. but honestly, my own orgasms are meaningless to me, they don't enhance my pleasure (the distraction and embarassment of them ruins whatever fleeting physical pleasure they may have brought), and they do nothing to help me serve my clients better.

now that is not to say i do not enjoy sex with clients, i often do, VEEEEEEEEERY much (hehe)...however for a woman, sexual pleasure and orgasm are not necessarily entertwined. the last thing i would ever do is deceive a client and fake an orgasm or any other sign of pleasure. it's important to me that i provide a genuine, honest experience.

Dear TwiceMidnight,
We've had some previous threads on the topic. I'm attaching one, and then including one in the body of this reply. If you can't click on the link, please go to the date it was posted (1/30/07.)
A hot - well, for us on the "non-flaming board" - debate ensued.

Check 'em all out,
the Love Goddess

http://www.theeroticreview.com/discussion_boards/viewmsg.asp?MessageID=3955&boardID=20&page=

Good Lord, never. Come on, guys! I saw an interview with a Montreal provider who summed it up best when asked if she ever had an orgasm. She said, "Oh, yes, twice! Once when he pays and once when the door hits his ass one the way out!"

I have two ladies that I see on a regular basis. One has at least one massive orgasm and one or two smaller ones every session and the other gal has between two and four every session...all of them are achieved oraly. I don't think either lady has has ever had one with me while we were boinking.

When I started out in this biz I did not achieve orgasm during appointments, but at that time neither had I achieved orgasm with a civilian partner. Over the past couple months I have actually started climaxing with partners- not always, but fairly often, whether a client or civvie partner. So I think it was just a matter, for me at least, of training my body and getting used to orgasming through partnered activities. I'm sure there is variation, from not ever coming to coming all the time, and everything in between, but for me personally it's pretty freakin' great that I can finally get off with another person. However, I think to some extent ladies feel they have to act as though they came, even if they didn't through no fault of yours.. often there is that pressure, whether from clients or other partners, and I think that pressure/expectation can sometimes make it harder for men or women to reach a climax.

XoXo,
Marea

Re: How common do providers achieve orgasm while servicing ?

Whenever a thread like this comes along, all I have to do is remember the famous deli scene in "When Harry met Sally."

We think we can tell when a woman fakes an Orgasm? NOT.  What I've chuckled about is how Meg's partners have felt ever since if she has a big O with them.  Was that one real or not?

I have several regulars with whom I have shared my knowledge of this with. It's true. I can have 5 very different kinds of orgasms from very different kind of stimulation.

#1: The clitoral orgasm.

Usually achieved while DATY. Some times when I am also just stimulating my clit with my fingers masturbating. This is my favorite way to climax. I enjoy stimulating it while I am with a partner, especially during doggy because it does produce some of my best orgsms.

#2: Vaginal Orgasm

This is from straight balls slapping ass sex. If I get with someone who is a decent size, 6 inches or above I can cum this way if they can maintain the "momentum" for at least 7-10 minutes. I know my body very very well and know what it takes to get me off in any one position.

#3: G Spot Orgasm

I have achieved this orgasm very very infrequently due to the fact most men can't find it. They think it's a myth or they are too shy to ask...but I am not too shy to show them where it is!  I have had more of these with my female partners rather than male however.

#4 Anal Orgasm

For a woman who truly loves Greek like I do having the right man put it to me can produce a fantastic anal orgasm. It's different than any of the others . It's more tingly, with me at least. I love the experience because I know that my pussy will be dripping wet with cum when it's over with.

#5 Sensory Orgasm

By far the most difficult and rare of orgasms that I have ever achieved. Have had some while doing tantra and erotic massage but without stimulating the vagina at all. It is correct in saying that we have "control" down there. If I am being stimulated in a sensory fashion...i.e.  Kissing, licking, touching of the skim and especially the back of my neck my "girl muscles" will have a powerful reaction.

This is my favorite orgasm. I have only had 6 in my entire life. I remember every single occasion when they happened. Only one time has it ever been  with a client and I was very very surprised that he took the time to push my buttons that way but damn did he ever reap the rewards of that.

I do know that while I do NOT have an orgasm with every person I am with I will definitely become aroused. I hardly ever have to use artificial lubricant for sex unless it's with someone for a very extended period of time, condoms do dry you out.

I would say that I have had an orgasm with about 75% of my clients. There are some that you just know will never bring you there, they don't have what it takes but the Arousal is still there. I don't believe in faking an orgasm. If someone asks me if I had one and I didn't I will tell them but also make sure they feel how wet I am inasmuch that I may not have had an orgasm but that doesn't mean I didn't enjoy myself.  

Just my perspective.

Alyssa