I have found a few SB gems from gals who did not reveal much with public photos, and understand the desire for privacy.
On the other hand, sometimes it can be a huge disappointment when you see her face or body. It’s natural to be optimistic but sometimes…
What do you say in those cases? It’s hard to think of anything gentle and whatever you say can be thrown back at you. I’m not proud but I have on occasion just decided not to respond or say I’m busy this week but maybe next.
Anyone else get into this?
I agree with you, that if I’m disappointed with their face, I’ve chosen not to respond.
If you cant say something nice, dont say anything at all.
Reminds me of a Seinfeld episode where Elaine asks Jerry, “When a guy says he needs to leave because he has to get up early in the morning, is that ever true? “
Jerry: “ Uh, no its not.”
I have trouble finding a slot in my schedule for the chicks I WANT to see. I have to put them off for weeks some times, and tend to lose track of them. I don't see why I should treat someone I DON'T want to see any differently.
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Now mostly it is follow up dates I pass on where I was unimpressed with the first meeting. I pretty much will fuck at least once anyone who says yes. Most heads look alike when you are watching them down there sucking on your dick. So there is usually something enjoyable with most chicks.
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That said, I'm mostly a variety man and tend to not do regulars for more than a few visits before moving on.
Pictures can only tell you so much. And some POT's understand the "art" of pics that don't tell the real story (i.e.: They know how to mask flaws with creative angles, staged lighting, and careful use of clothes and other props).
I've had my share of POT's who show up 20, 30, 40+ lbs. bigger and/or 5, 10, 15+ years older than they project in the profile.
The no-obligation M&G gives me a simple escape route:
"Thanks for meeting me yesterday. I enjoyed our conversation, but I do not think we are a good match right now. Best of luck in your search."
It's not a lie - unless she was just a total GPS/ROB, etc. But it gets me out of calling out how fugly/fat/smelly/etc. she is.
I'd have a much more difficult challenge if I didn't really know that I was not attracted to her until after my shorts were around my ankles... Which has happened, and usually ended up with poor results.
Life is good
The Cat
Agree with everything Herb says (as I do 99% of the time).
This is more a question about filtering before the M&G, so I don't get surprises. With rare exceptions I try to see any private pictures on the site, and then if we move to text of GV I sometimes ask for more. Most gals are used to this, and many are good, but sometimes you can be deceived by the photos shot from the back or obscuring the face.
Before meeting, I ask for a face pic and or a full body pic. They usually send them especially if they see my private pics. If not, I give a cold shoulder.
It is an awkward situation, but I don't like to ghost anyone since I hate to be ghosted. I usually text something like this: "Thanks so much for having lunch with me. But I don't think we had the kind of chemistry that would sustain an arrangement. I hope you have tons of success finding your ideal SD". I had to use that just last week, when this really nice, lively, smart girl showed up looking kinda not what I was hoping for.
Sweetman -- I use nearly identical language in these cases. Most of the time I get a polie response but the latest was angry (glad I avoided that crazy one):
That is not it, lol.
I am 27. Educated. Business woman. I work out . I take care of my body. I take care of me.
I am sexy. I speak 2 languages and I can talk about any subject, no children, no married, ready to offer exclusivity because my vagina is NOT public.
The problem is that you can't afford a woman like me. I don't sleep around with 5 guys for $500 ... I am looking for someone who knows my value and who can understand that I give an experience. I don't know other girls in the app, I don't care , I don't judge... but I ain't a cheap whore. If I had told you that I want to have an arrangement for $150 , trust me, you would be here with me.
So honey, I match with everyone because trust me, I have gotten thousands of dollars just for video calls or meet sbd greet , but cheapos like you are very short minded .... and have low self steem to really understand that high quality men would appreciate and respect a hot mama like me
So how did you actually rate her. haha
5-6 on the Richter scale. Higher if you like chunky. Personable, but I just couldn't do her at any price.
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I am in favor of this too. It can clear the unknowns with just the cost of a lunch.
In terms of my choices of women. I take the approach that Russell Crowe had in the movie “ A Beautiful Mind”. I don’t select the most beautiful woman, I’ll take one that can be a 6-8 on the beauty scale. They will usually rock your world with enthusiasm and determination to make it a great time. I’m not talking about super large women, but ones with great or good bodies and the face might not be the perfect 10 but close.
All that said, I never go into a M&G with the expectations of going behind closed doors right away. Happy hunting boys.