The Erotic Highway

When your SB moves.... closer to you.
herbtcat 6 Reviews 476 reads
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We have discussed SB's (or occasionally SD's) who move out of town and the impact on the current arrangement.  Almost always it means the end, as long-distance arrangements are rarely practical, unless one or both parties often travel to the other's new location. Even if you agree to stay connected and are open to meeting in the future if travel/schedule plans permit, the current status-quo is over.  

 
But what about moving closer to each other? I have two case-studies to examine:  
Case 1. My current #1 SB, a Vietnamese spinner I've been dating for 3 years (staring when she was 19) moved three times during our history. The 1st two moves were generally insignificant to me, as she was still about the same distance (maybe 10 miles away), but in a different direction. But her most recent move, about 8 months ago brought her within a 10-minute walk to my place! Note that she lives with her brother and mother and had no part in selecting the new location. Her brother owns the condo, and she pays him some rent.  

 
However, I was quite worried that with this last move she might just decide to spontaneously show up at my door! Imagine if she pops on over to surprise me and I'm balls deep in my Asian Porn Star SB, my other Asian MILF SB, or my Latina SB, or my AA Stripper SB (who screams like a banshee when she cums!)? Or she shows up while I am in total unshaven, un-showered slob mode? Or (almost) worse, when I have non-sugar guests...  

 
Fortunately, she has never done that, and has continued to respect the time between scheduled dates.  

 
Case 2. I mentioned my Asian Porn Star SB above.  We have a long-distance arrangement where whenever she plans to be in my area she lets me know and asks if I want to meet. This has worked out well for over a year, with meetings occurring every 5-7 weeks.  It's a win-win as my budget can handle the higher allowance infrequently, and she gets a nice bonus payment added to her professional shoot pay for a few hours more time before driving home (add avoiding the afternoon LA traffic rush).  But she just moved to LA and is now a 20 to 40-minute drive rather than a 3 to 4-hour drive from me.  I will be seeing her as a new LA resident on Wednesday.  I will casually ask how her new drive time goes, of course, and I expect her to say it's much better.  

 
So, here's the concerns I have:  Will she want to meet more often, as she no longer needs to have work scheduled to justify the drive to LA?  I would actually like to see her more often, but the budget hit is significant - about 2x my typical allowance amount. And I will likely need to rebalance my schedule across my full stable of SB's, probably reducing their visits per month, which I will certainly do because - Porn Star.  

 
Now can I turn these possible problems into possible opportunities?  That remains to be seen. Here's my initial thoughts:  
1. Her burden to see me is now reduced. Will she be willing to accept a reduction in allowance per meet to get a net increase in monthly revenue (for example, take 1.25x or 1.5x my usual offer, but meet every 3-5 weeks instead of 5-7 weeks?  
2. Will she now find it easier for her to invite one of her industry colleagues to join us for a threesome? We have discussed this in the past and she's down for it. But logistics of finding a suitable friend and the implied double allowance have been a significant headwind.  Maybe being "local" will both allow her to develop more personal, like-minded industry friends in the area and will remove the need to add a Sugar BCD session after a day of shooting?  

 
I really don't know how this will turn out. She moved to LA for career opportunities, not for Sugar (hey, I'm really not that important, am I?). So, I'm confident that at the least we will maintain status-quo.  

 
What about you?  Have you seen SB's move closer to you? What happened? (BTW, not talking about moving IN with you! That's a totally different discussion. TLDR: DO NOT!)

 
Do you think my read on the possible opportunities is correct? Are there other opportunities I should explore? Are there   other problems or issues I should try to mitigate?  

 
Life is good

 
The Cat

This may entail a separate thread.  My main SB, we've been in a great spot, and are going on three years used the M word.  She said she wants to get married.  Her mom loves me.  Her whole friends and family know all about me.  

Our careers are non- standard and I've been the only guy who has ever supported her long term.  I think she's awesome as well.  We did talk that we couldn't for a while, due to us being about an hour apart.  

I'm not sure I can say I'll marry someone half my age but she's got a lot going for her outside being young and hot.

They say you don't choose who you fall in love with, if this is indeed love. If this is the real deal, you're fortunate to have someone care for you so deeply and whom you feel deeply for. It sounds like you have a unicorn situation. But it is always hard for me to envision why a very young woman would choose to marry someone she will very likely outlive, unless of course she has a lot to gain from it.

Agree... probably needs a separate thread, which I expect will grow very long.  

 
I've only had one SB who started hinting about marriage after we'd been together for 3 years.  It's a long, complicated story I won't retell here (I might if we start a new thread). But the short version is our long-term goals we not aligned, and my take was she was looking to lock down access to my assets (and lock out the rest of my family).  

 
Before I get sucked too deep into this topic, I'll exit with this existential question:  

 
Is there any benefit a man can get from marriage that he cannot get being single?  

 
(Single) Life is good

 
The Cat

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