The Erotic Highway
The crux
The Cat
If you've arranged that M&G for several days out, who's to say she hasn't found her unicorn in the meantime. Or now that she's had time to think about it, it doesn't sound like such a good deal/idea after all. Thing I've noticed this time out on "premium" is resistance to distance. In a major metropolitan area is an hour so far away? Apparently for some it is. Bottom line...if she's really interested the M&G will happen. In my experience, the ones who show for a M&G are pretty much a sure thing. I remember only one M&G several years ago where we did not click, and went no further. And lately, the incidence of by passing the M&G for directly to BCD has gone up. My strategy on scheduling a M&G is pretty simple. Meet ASAP without my having to jump through hoops. If she cancels, she cancels.
As I mentioned (ok, whined) in a previous post, my batting average in adding new SB's this year is flat at .000, despite getting no less than 3 M&G's scheduled in the 1st 14 days of the year. The 1st M&G happened, but I declined to move forward when I saw she was bigger than life - at least around her waist and hips - and when I saw her order 4 items from the dinner menu! The 2nd and 3rd both cancelled on me after some time.
Fortunately, I still have 3 solid SB's in my A-Level rotation, and another 3 or options on stand-by as needed. But it's generally a good idea to have a few more "on deck" to cover any drop-outs or even replace a current SB with an upgrade.
With the last cancellation, I made an observation that the longer the time from agreeing to a date and time and the actual meeting, the greater the chance she will cancel. Now I tell all my POT's upfront that I have lots of schedule flexibility IF I can schedule a week ahead. I explain that my calendar is usually full for the next 3-4 days at any time. I do this for 2 reasons:
1. It's true. That's just how my life works.
2. It tends to help me weed out the potential scammers who MUST meet tonight. If she can't wait 3 days to meet, that's a yellow and possibly red flag for me.
In my last cancelled M&G, we set out rather well. Messaging was easy and we seemed to click well. Our ideas for a good arrangement aligned and we share common interests. Plus - she is SMOKING HOT! She travels back and forth between LA and another state where her family lives every other week. So we pick a date 2 days after she would return from her next trip. During the interim, we exchanged a few texts and (non-nude) pics and all seemed well. The morning of the day we were scheduled to meet she sent me a text that she had to cancel due to a work issue and would be interested in rescheduling as soon as her issue is resolved. And that's when I realized that M&G's set up over 5+ days away tend to never happen. It seems fairly intuitive when I say it like that.
So I'm considering changing my routine and keeping 2 nights a week ALWAYS open for a M&G (if possible). That means I'd never have to schedule a M&G more than 4 days out, and usually much sooner.
What is your experience with cancellations? And what is your strategy on timing/scheduling a M&G?
Life is good
The Cat
I have a busy schedule and my availability is limited. That is the crux of why I am seeking an arrangement. Yet many POTS seem to want me to work around their schedule. I.e. they don't seem to understand that time is money and that is what I am paying for. If I had time to waste I would be civie dating. So I schedule M&G around my schedule and if they cancel they cancel.
If you've arranged that M&G for several days out, who's to say she hasn't found her unicorn in the meantime. Or now that she's had time to think about it, it doesn't sound like such a good deal/idea after all. Thing I've noticed this time out on "premium" is resistance to distance. In a major metropolitan area is an hour so far away? Apparently for some it is. Bottom line...if she's really interested the M&G will happen. In my experience, the ones who show for a M&G are pretty much a sure thing. I remember only one M&G several years ago where we did not click, and went no further. And lately, the incidence of by passing the M&G for directly to BCD has gone up. My strategy on scheduling a M&G is pretty simple. Meet ASAP without my having to jump through hoops. If she cancels, she cancels.
I think you are correct about possible reasons WHY a POT will cancel. Finding a better offer, or just losing interest in me are the most likely reasons in my opinion. Of course, they rarely tell me why...
And my experience is that my ability to close once we meet face to face is significantly higher than using other channels like text or even video chat.
So the "meet ASAP" strategy seems pretty important and I will have to adjust to use it effectively. It's actually a basic component of good sales technique. Get them excited about the deal then close immediately. Tom Hopkins is going to kick my ass when he hears I've been forgetting this lesson. So will Alec Baldwin...
Life is good
The Cat
Glengarry Glen Ross is absolutely one of the greatest movie dramas of all time. Fortunately for all of us, the leads on SA are not just for the closers. Everyone has an equal shot at them.
After I penned that earlier response, I went "duuhh", I forgot to make mention of those who just simply get cold feet before the scheduled m&g happens. Most often this occurs with the newer SBs. And yeah, they are never gonna give us the real reason why they're canceling.
It makes sense that gals may cancel if there is a long wait (plenty of opportunities) or if she is in another city.
I can't speak from experience however since I've only had a few and no cancellations so far. I think 2-3 days is optimal since it shows they're not desperate and yet doesn't give them a lot of time to find a better SD.
I agree that the longer it is until the meeting, the more likely she will cancel. If she picks a time too far out, she’s not serious. I also won’t schedule anything for the same day. I think it looks like I’m desperate, which I’m not. Also, the ones that press for a same day meeting are obviously scammers. My approach is to try to schedule within 2-3 days and to run her out of excuses. She can pick the restaurant or bar at a location near her and at a date and time at her convenience. I ask her to text the morning of the meet confirm. If she doesn’t text to confirm, I’m not showing up.
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