Please take me seriously, I love BJs, and I love nothing better than coming in a womans mouth. Nothing Nothing feels so good. I am 42 and been sexually active since 19. I remember my first BJ an worry about cumming to fast. Now years later I have acheived cumming in the mouth a total of 5 times. It is depressing, I don't get it, it has to be mental, I have no other sexual problems. Well this is a BIG one. I have worn out providers girlfriends and wives try to acheive this. Most get mad and think I am totally controling this non ejaculation. HELP!

Hmmm..maximous,
We have discussed this in earlier threads here. It seems we all came to some conclusion of relaxing, thinking sexy thoughts and above all, getting out of that unconscious sexual anxiety place you seem to find yourself in.

You have probably "trained" yourself since days yore of "disconnecting" when you feel the ejaculation coming. Now you need to "retrain" yourself to do the opposite. And yet, relax and don't worry about coming. If it happens, great, if it doesn't, try next time. I really do believe that it's way worse when you try so hard that you "wear out" the other party. S/he gets very anxious, picks up on your strained feelings and badabing - you've got ping-pong anxiety to the hilt.

Instead, try this for paradoxical intervention: Go into it and tell the person up front that you LOVE BJ's, but that you don't come from them. That they just feel good to you, but that orgasm is not on the horizon. And then relax, and quit thinking about it.

Do you come from masturbating? Intercourse? Then finish off with that. No use beating dead meat, to be horribly crude. But I bet that if you take the tack that you just don't come from BJs, and we might as well realize it from the start, maybe, maybe, something might click into place...eventually.

Dunno, but worth a try,
the Love Goddess

maximous...listen to the LG..and relax and enjoy it as best you can.  I am 65 yrs young, and have moderate high blood pressure and I also have had 2 angioplaty's and a heart attact in the hospital (no heart muscle damage...thank G-d) which equal and good case of ED.  However, when I sated into this hobby I also had a problem of ejaculation. (As a youngster in my 40's I was able to keep it up for 4 or 5 sessions per night(with the same lady) and deliver a good size load each time.  Ahh, the ood old days.
I now have an ATF, who I see at least 2X per month and on our first meeting, I could not cum...and now I have amazing sensual/sexual relations with her.  I also see additional providers for the variety and I let each know up front that I may not be able to cum,and that it is not their fault.  I've found that in most cases that statement presents a challange and 90% of the time they get me to cum, grenerally with an BBJCIM....I may only be able to cum once or twice in the hour and half....but boy is it great.
Don't fret...lie back, relax, think happy thoughts and ennjoy the BJ...and you will work out your problems.
By the way..since my 2 cardiac incidents..I work out 5x per week...which increases my stanima and makes me feel good...and I try to eat well...which includes pussy twice a month.

That is probably a good idea. Personally I don;t care if I  cum during a BJ and am probably one of the few who really doesn't enjoy  them as much as good old pussy. It is Ok to start on me to get me hard , if I am not already hard, but if you really like that  I think what  L.G. says might just work. Pesonally I'd rather do oral anf get it.

I've been having similar difficulties in ejaculating, whether it be through oral or conventional intercourse.  But my problem appears to stem from retarded ejaculation resulting from diabetes.  (When I find a job with some insurance, I'll talk to a doctor to confirm this.)

Max, have there been any changes in your health recently?  New meds perhaps?

Just another two cents that probably aren't worth a plugged nickel nowadays.

First I apologies fo not checking old post, on simular subject. I appriciate your advice more than you know, It really seems obvious but sometimes you just need things said. I will relax and not try. Sounds a lot like my golf game. FYI no new meds, or change in life. This has been a lifetime problem. I guess there are worse one to have. I do cum during intercourse and masterbation which I do to much! Thanks again this is a great forum to have!

Seriously...not "selling" myself, I don't need that, I have enough business as it is.

I've had many guys coming to see me because they cannot cum thru a bj and some could not cum even with intercourse.

I know exactly how to read a guys body and sense every inch of him...and I can make it happen.

Also, I've made guys with premature ejaculation last for a hour and guys who never did multiples cum 3 or 4 times (my record is a 54 year "once a month" client who I can make cum 6 or 7 times in couple hours..once, in his birthday, we did a marathon and I made him cum 12 times in 4 hours).

I did help many guys...maybe I can help u too.

I want to make it last, and i do, volutarily or sometimes involuntarily.
Much less problem with flexible provider who'll
let you: control session; thrust; pull out
and resume; and rub your dick on her lips toward
the end. If I can do most of those, I can
come, even part in mouth and rest on chin or
tits.

You need to let it go...if you want to experience a mind blowing BJ, the only person in control is the one sucking your dick.
You cannot try to control yourself...you need to learn how to relax, lay back and ENJOY what she is doing to you.
Don't think about cumming, just think about how good if feels.
If she knows what she is doing, she will be able to make it happen.
There is a big different between having your dick sucked and receiving a BJ performed with skills.

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