She's running late - again.
It doesn't happen often with THIS SB, thankfully. But some others in my rotation take a rather flexible approach to arriving on time. If you've scheduled a leisure day, maybe a hang out and chat over a glass of wine at your place (or hotel room), then slip off to bedroom for BCD fun, then a 30-minute delay in starting is not really a problem.
But if you, like me, tend to flex your date planning chops with dinner reservations, or perhaps tickets to a live event, or a private tour at a museum, exhibit or wine tasting, then missing your scheduled start time can be stressful and maybe expensive. So what's to do?
Well, the easy answer is to pad your stated meeting time. Tell her to arrive 30-60 minutes earlier than necessary and you have a built-in time cushion that protects your plans. The much more difficult answer is to find a way to improve her time-awareness and pre-date planning skills. Why is this difficult? The vast majority of SB's are sugar dating because they have not developed the life skills needed to thrive on their own. And achieving meaningful changes in behavior will be difficult or even risky (if she just thinks you're an asshole for insisting she show up on time.)
I have learned a few techniques over the years. They are not fool proof, but they help.
1. As noted, pad your requested arrive time so her tardiness won't derail your plan.
2. I generally make dinner reservations 60-90 minutes later than I think we will be ready to go to dinner. Why? It's generally easier to move a reservation up to an earlier time, than to push it back to a presumably more busy period at the restaurant. I use OpenTable like a Reservation Kung-fu Master. It's easy to go on the app, and move up the reservation when needed, usually while she's in the shower flushing my kids down the drain. Most of the time there is no need to call the restaurant. The app can make the change in 2 minutes.
3. Assuming missing a component of your plan won't be too costly, have a backup activity, and a backup for your backup. It may be as simple as going to local trendy bar for cocktails and doing some people watching. (Play a game and try to spot any other Sugar Couples - fun for all!).
4. This one may be the easiest, but its often forgotten: Tell her the plans and the times. She may step up if she knows.
What about you? Is this a recurring problem? What do you/have you done?
Life is good
The Cat
Fact: "The vast majority of SB's are sugar dating because they have not developed the life skills needed to thrive on their own." This is one of the characteristics of sugar dating that has kept me away recently. But, in fairness, it's not limited to SBs. I've seen similar behavior in some independent professionals as well.
In my brief foray in the sugar life, one SB was notoriously late. On the order of two hours or more. And virtually every meeting. Furthermore, the truly frustrating part was that there was always a hard stop. So, the time that she was late, was almost always coming out of BCD time.
Mutual respect is very big to me. So, as amazing as she was, I just couldn't take the lack of respect for my time anymore and bailed.
I have a date this Sunday with GCG. We have noon reservations. I told her to be ready by 10:30. Border crossing has an added complication.
I've been very lucky in that the overwhelming majority of my SBs have been incredibly reliable about showing up on time. This is a good thing because I time my Vitamins V and C in advance of our BCD time so that I can be at my best. The window of opportunity is limited, and I really prefer to feel the peak benefit of those meds coming on at exactly the same time we are getting naked. If she's an hour late, I've already started on the downward slope of the bell curve. 2 hours late would be unacceptable.
Tomorrow one of my very favorite long term SBs is driving 60 miles to come visit me at my house. She loves the drive and has done it many times. And she always shows up right on time! After we've worn ourselves out in the bedroom, I expect we'll dress warmly and go for a motorcycle ride to a quaint little town about 15 miles away and enjoy a leisurely lunch and conversation, then ride back, before saying our goodbyes and she drives back home. So, no other time constraints or restaurant reservations required.
I select based on reliability, meaning if she is terrible at responding to my initial texts prior to our M&G, she'll likely be unreliable as an SB. I do try to get her to correct this behavior at the beginning, making it very clear my life and business run on a strict timetable. I can tolerate 15-20 mins lateness if she hits traffic or has a legitimate delay, but if it continues then I move on. It's not worth the stress and anxiety for me as it blows the intimacy vibe.
The Cat points out that many SB's sugar because they lack the life skills of being responsible. I try to be understanding of this and help coach them in the importance of being conscientious. The difficulty is with my limited time constraints I absolutely need an SB that will show up on time.
I've had to let quite a few otherwise wonderful POTS/SB's go because they were unable course-correct to respect my time.
Thankfully I've been able to find some very reliable and steady SB's that are reasonably punctual.
They are amply rewarded by me with steady extra gifts and amazing TLC to show my appreciation of their consideration.
I have a date with a SB Friday at 5. A guy I know booked a date for 2 hours starting at 3. She's all in on going rawdog with him (they've never met). Im wondering if she's gonna take time to clean out her pussy so my sloppy seconds aren't too sloppy. No. I don't plan on keeping our date. He isn't either. I wonder how late she planning to be with me?
Will your friend make it easy for her to tidy up downstairs?
I always lay out fresh towels, shampoo, sensitive skin shower gel, and a toothbrush and toothpaste (I keep a set in a small box for each SB in my rotation*) before we head BCD.
I don't know if or how many of my SB's have another date booked after me, but at least I know (hope?) she won't be leaving snail trails on my living room furniture if we chat before she heads out. In the past I have had to hire professional furniture cleaners to clean up my sofa and reclining chairs. It was a somewhat delicate process to explain what type of stains they would need to clean.
* I bought a half-dozen plastic travel toothbrush boxes on Amazon that fit a brush and mini tube. These are kept in a drawer she won't see, and I take out the appropriate box for each SB. I do not put a name these boxes, of course. Instead, I keep a list of which color/style brush each SB is assigned.
Life is good
The Cat
Posted By: herbtcat
I don't know if or how many of my SB's have another date booked after me, but at least I know (hope?) she won't be leaving snail trails on my living room furniture if we chat before she heads out.
Ok have to amend the above statement to exclude certain SB's:
The SB who prompted my OP was one of my porn star SB's. She was delayed by traffic (it can get crazy busy in LA) and was only 20 minutes late. Not really a problem considering the fuck-a-thon session she provided.
BUT: I just saw her latest twitter (X) post. It's a clip of her shagging some "male talent" (I assume, but it could be another civilian I suppose) on a sofa. He's spitting in her mouth, slapping her face, choking her with his dick in her mouth, and then leaving a cream pie in her large enough to cover dessert service at a local Dennys. These are essentially the same activities I did with her, minus the spitting (not my thing). And I have my video of her as well, which will remain private in my personal collection.
What's relevant here is that the video has a date and time stamp 4 hours AFTER she left my place yesterday. I guess I was the rehearsal double, or maybe the warm-up fuck?
Life is good
The Cat
I used to date a TER Top Ten Provider, back when that really meant something special. She had a talent for making me feel like I was special to her and the only man in the world. But I knew she saw multiple clients every day and I asked her how she kept her energy up. She said she only needed about an hour between dates to recharge her batteries and she was eager to go again. I'm sure there must have been many times when I was not the first client she saw that day. But she was always fresh as a daisy and a joy to go down on. So I know that cleanup on aisle V is def possible if the girl cares enough to do it.
Well her appointment is from 3 to 5 then me at 5. And it's not her hotel room. So there's not a time or place for a recharge and refresh.
...especially when you gents are discussing how to remove cum stains from your furniture. 
It's a nice deflection just to say the girls haven't developed the life talent to manage their affairs (altho strangely, they seemed to developed enough to suck money from you and not the other way around)
Anyways, I attribute their tardiness more to their degree of interest vs. an alternative. For example, I suspect they are not habitually late to their nail/manicure/hair appointments.
Can't say if the hot boyfriend in front of you (read: -20 years younger) had to equally wait, but well....
You may very well be correct, or at least your observation explains some of the behavior.
If we could read their minds, well... then we could read their minds! The only time I'm 99% sure I know what she is thinking is when I've just applied my tongue or a Rose Toy on her for her 4th or 5th Big O.... I think. :p
Life is good
The Cat
One thing I learned about providers is that they are habitually late in order to maintain control. Feels good to make someone else wait, builds their sense of power. I don't think it is different for SBs either and as it was mentioned earlier says how much they don't respect their SB. I'm fortunate that my current SB is always on time. I can almost set my watch to it. On the very rare occasions she's been a bit tardy (no more than 15 mins late) she has texted me ahead and explained why. On a recent trip I asked her to be at my house at 4:30am so we could get to the airport on time. She was there on the dot. I'm spoiled now and won't tolerate lateness with other SBs, I just fire them.
