Given today's SA paradigm where the least little slip up in verbiage on the site...and even away from it...can lead to a ban, any suggestions how to carefully phrase a note to a POT SB prior to a visit to a city? I have had success in the past with this but with bannings happening left and right, many for absolutely no reason, one needs to be extra careful in communications. Thanking in advance...

I tell them that while I do love ongoing longer term arrangements, sometime short term, even one time things, can be wonderful.  Then I tell her I'll be in her city soon and if she feels the same would she consider a playdate with an out of town visitor?  If she likes the idea, move the conversation offsite to discuss details.