Here's a question.
I am a well educated 44yo married male.  Very attractive, always had girlfriends through every stage of life.  Married have a beautiful wife.  Never had any done anything ever with another man, nor had the urge.
In the last 2-3years had a provider I knew, kind of get me into a sensual dominance.  No leather/bondage/pain, etc.  More control, manipulation, using me as a "pleaser".  She also taught me to suck my own cock, which was only arousing to be because it turned her on so much, actually a bit uncomfortable.  
The next twist she had for me was that she wanted me to suck another mans cock for her.  To actually see if she could accomplish this level of control over me.  
Now I have not done that, but I have to admit, it is highly erotic to me in a very narrow sense.
The thought of her control over me, and that it turns her on so much, and that she has that level of control over me is very very erotic.  
I understand part of the D/s is power exchange and commonly men who hold powerful positions in their vocation (like me) enjoy the role reversal.
The question I have is...why do I want to suck cock for her?
The thought of being with another man to me is repulsive.  Kissing another man...extremely repulsive.  Touching anthing sexually on another man, repulsive.  Yet, the thought of sucking a cock, for her..seeing her hungry eyes, locked in mine and how it would please her..very very erotic.
In my senario, I would not see the other guys face, nor he mine, would not hear him, and I dont have any interest at all in his pleasure, its more about her reaction.
But under those circumstances, I want to suck a cock, and I want to do it without a condom, so I can experience the semen.
It seems bizarre to me and wondered if you had some thoughts about it.  Is it a common fantasy?  Is it more common at my age?
I have been totally forthright, so I am prepared for a barrage of snide remarks, but would appreciate your thoughts.

Curious.. I could have written that post.  So I am very interested in the answer.  I would add that the experience in no way makes me question my masculinity, or heterosexual-ness (is that a word?).  But it is all in the opening of experiences and broadening my horizons.  

I would do it in a heartbeat for her.  We have talked about it and I know it will happen when she dictates it...

No snide remarks here whatsoever, adambede,

Just mull around the idea for a while...could you really do it? My bet is that the phantasy is way more powerful than the reality...but only you will know..and the only way you'll REALLY know is to set up the situation. It's not that bizarre as a scenario. For whatever reason, you find being dominated by this provider a total turn-on, no matter what she asks you. Or..???

Before you go further, why don't you have a long chat with yourself and ask what you'd be willing to do for this provider in general? What if she asked you to jump off a bridge or a building? Lend her 10,000 dollars? Is it only sexual/sensual requests that turn you on?

As to the prevalence of these types of phantasies, well, domination has been common throughout the ages and throughout civilizations. A good dominatrix can almost hypnotize her client. There are all sorts of fetishes and situations...everything from wearing baby clothes and diapers to getting mummified. Is it sexual? Well, to submissives, it clearly is. Sucking someone's cock seems one of the more reg'lar fetishes, but heck, I'm a gay-affirmative woman, so to me, that seems one of the most normal things to do in this world.

Now, I just have one caveat - if you do decide to go through with this phantasy, PLEASE use a condom and DON'T suck up his semen. Here's my thought: can we guarantee that this man [who is willing to get his cock sucked] is a vanilla-type person, who isn't otherwise putting himself in risky sexual situations? It's one thing visiting squeaky clean providers who check themselves religiously, don't use drugs or otherwise act risky..but who is the man willing to get his penis sucked by another man? Another one of her clients? Maybe? Or a hustler who engages in unsafe behavior for money, drugs, etc? Sorry for the possible prejudice here, but I'd be very, very careful.

Now, I can't resist asking the question: what sort of pretzel-like contortion do you go through to suck your own cock and were you able to do it first try?

Totally forthright here too
the Love Goddess

'the phantasy is way more powerful than the reality'...

I hear ya LG.  On more than one occassion I have had both a civy companion or a provider ask me if I would like to snoball while I was in the midst of receiving a knee-buckling BJ.  Each time I responded yes as the offer was made in a realy hot tone and I was dancing in ectasy land at the time.  Well when the moment of truth came (pun intended), I quickly deferred.  In as much as I was open to the idea pre-blastoff, my fantasy drive plummets even more quickly than my erection when I climax.  What was once a hot and sexy thought soon became 'I don't want to swallow my own come' reality.  Thankfully my partners were understanding and did not accuse me of using this as a ruse for BBBJTC.  It's just amazing how the fantasy can wane when the deed is done.

Thank you for your thoughtful reply.

It may be just a fantasy and something I could never experience in reality.  I might add, that I would never want another guy to suck my cock, nor have anything inside my ass, nor fuck another guy.

I did meet an older woman who was willing to do everything I had asked, she and I had a session together, but I balked when she volunteer to bring in the cock.  

What I dont understand is why does it continue to be such a strong fantasy??  I'll certainly admit, more than anything else, its the type of girl who is really into this, who really gets off on this type of humiliation that really turns me on.  But like an earlier reply, once the orgasm has passed, ugh...it becomes pretty repulsive to me.  On the contrary, when I am with a beautiful girl, I just want more, even when the orgasm passes.

Auto-fellatio?  Well, the gal who introduced this to me, was an expert or had done this before, because she knew exactly what she was doing.  
I had always been very limber, and I think she recognized it.  She taught me some stretching exercises which I practiced at home on my own.  

Her technique, was for me to lay on my back, small pillow under my head, then flipp my legs back over my head, leaving my cock dangling in front of my face.  With her helping to push (my legs down or my head up) even without stretching I was so close, and eventually with stretching, I could lick the tip of my cock, then just get the head in, with her help.

She would then masterbate me the rest of the way.

It was such a turn on for her.

At anyrate, what do you suggest for my cock sucking fantasy?  Where do I go from here?

I posted earlier, but it didnt "take".

First regarding your answer, LG.  No I couldnt do it my first or second or third try.  The woman who introduced me to this (still in business in Florida) knew exactly what she was doing.  It was all new to me.  Not really pleasurable from a physical standpoint, because it is physically hard to do, but very erotic from a psychological standpoint, cuz she "made" me do it, was really into it, and was kind of controlling me and it was humiliating to me at her expense.

She outlined some stretching exercises for me, and relished the fact that my wife would watch me stretching at home, not knowing what it was for.  I would see her periodically.

Her position was to put a pillow under my head while laying on my back.  Then while still on my back, flip my legs over my head so my cock would be dangling in front of my face.

In the beginning she'd jack me in this position, and make me open my mouth for the orgasm.  I have always been a very limber person, but the stretching really helped.  As I got better, she'd help me by lifting my head, or pulling my butt closer.  When from very close to licking the tip, to just getting the head in.  I could never suck up and down very deep, but she'd help with the stroking.  She even had me perform my "trick" for a girl friend of hers.


Thank you for your reply, but I am still a bit perplexed.  I know that right now, the fantasy of having a woman 'force" me to suck another bare cock to completion is very very intense.  I agree that the fantasy is probably more intense and once the orgasm passes, it becomes a repulsive act, whereas after an orgasm with a beatiful woman, I still want more of the woman.

Not sure what I should do...appreciate any advice or referrals.

Most sincerely,

A

Thank you for both of your replies, adambede, they did post.

Quite frankly, it sounds GREAT to be able to suck your own cock! I'm envious and I don't even have one...I guess I'd like to give myself some oral sex, but heck, I can barely bend down to tie my shoes, so...more power to you !

As to your phantasy, I think you know very well that the reality wouldn't correspond with what's inside your head. My advice, since you ask, is to let this remain the POWERFUL IMAGERY it's become, and to enjoy the climax that comes with these thoughts to the fullest. You clearly enjoy being dominated and as long as it's safe and you are not being taken advantage of, then stay with the program. I really believe you know your limits and have analyzed yourself very deeply. It's just confusing, since the erotic feelings are so overwhelming when you interact with the woman (or women.) If the woman is as good as you say she is, then maybe ask her to do a different scenario with you. It's possible that she'll come up with something just as great that won't cause so many conflicting feelings inside.

Let it stay that way and enjoy,
the Love Goddess

thx for the thoughtful advice, it rings true.  I'll do my best to enjoy, but keep away from the dangerous stuff!

My experience had a little different twist to it.

It came as an invite by a couple to join them in a threesome.  We were at swinger party so I understood the guests where a sexually liberated crowd.  My orientation is profoundly heterosexual and I wouldn’t seek out or engage a man for any type of sexual activity.  They'd come from out of state so I didn’t know them beforehand but we hit it off from the beginning.  The husband was intelligent and the wife was very alluring.  He seemed straight in every aspect and all our public interaction was focused on the wife.

As the evening progressed the three of us adjourned to a back room together.  I’ve had previous encounters with couples but all limited to sharing the willing woman.  Once we alone he seemed content to lay at the foot of the bed and just watch her and I together.  At one point during oral 69 play with her on top, he casually leaned over and started giving me head.  I was kind of shocked at first but didn’t resist his actions.  She also didn’t initially react but after a few minutes this turned her on immensely.  From there the whole situation transitioned to a higher erotic plane.  But during the balance of our time together no additional direct sexual contact ensued between he and I again.

The odd thing is in the context of the encounter it didn’t seem that unusual.  I’m fairly open-minded and my impression was this wasn’t something they’d planned or normally did.  This spontaneity appears to have added to her enjoyment.  Had I known or sensed this is what they had in mind I probably would’ve passed on this encounter.  But now that my apprehensions are breached, I might not be so inclined to reject out of hand the possiblities and would return the favor given this positive experience.  But I don’t feel this is something I’d look for or find enjoyable otherwise.