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So, for those of you who have been following my saga with my first SB, I called her out on her last-second messages to me before we had a date planned. The first time, she said she might not be able to play (go BCD), because she was watching a friend’s dog. Then, the day of, she said her stomach wasn’t feeling good. Funny, she ate lunch that I paid for in addition to a cocktail. She talked me into buying her $150 of clothes as well. No BCD.  

On the eve of our second planned date, she said she was on her period. I called off the date and then hit her with a message questioning if we were on the same page - that she seemed to be getting creative in finding ways to try to still have a date, but avoiding BCD time. She went ballistic and said she wasn’t my fuck toy and that I should respect her wishes to not just jump into playtime….

I followed the great advice from y’all here and sent her a message saying that I would never want her to feel uncomfortable, but that I would be available to meet with her when/if she changed her mind. I went silent after that, and she has disappeared - so far. So, one down, and many more fish in the ocean.  

This board is awesome, and you have saved me countless dollars and empty dates. Many thanks to all of you!!!

sweetman60 reads

One thing I've noticed about all the legit SBs out there is that they are decisive.   They are def DTF, if they find someone who clicks all their wants.  That might be looks, chemistry, money, and many other things.  But when they find someone suitable, they are DTF after just one M&G.  They already made up their mind about this before they ever started talking to you.  Any girl who makes excuses NOT to go BCD is not a legit SB.

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am201467 reads

100%  

Women in general know right away whether they see themselves sleeping with you or not

The ones that drag it out over like multiple dates, will usually find a way to finagle out of BCD time and rather end the budding relationship  

Only exception is if you yourself want that courting / dating period to check for compatibility— in that case, no ppm ofc, but small time gifts are ok  

Personally I have done 1-2 platonic dates sometimes when I wanted to be sure myself whether I see my self sleeping w her regularly or not

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fullyhedged56 reads

Sweet is right on point...If a woman is DTF all you need to do is guide her to the BCD destination. The attraction is set (be it chemistry, $$$ needs or whatever) and you just have to avoid fumbling the football. It's surprisingly easy when the stars align.  

If you have established a sugar relationship and you're getting nothing but obstacles to having your needs/interests met then 100% move on. Personally, I have a 2-strike rule: the first behavior that contravenes our agreement is noted but forgiven. The second transgression ends the relationship. I live in a very fertile area for this lifestyle so there's always another SB out there.

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herbtcat60 reads

Great update, RH! Always remember who has the power:  She has the power to say "yes."  While you have the power to say "no."  As long as each of you are willing to exercise your power, neither of you will ever do something you do not want to do.    

I use the Three Date rule to drive my process for preliminary dates. I borrow this rule from the civilian dating world. Or maybe the dating world of the 80's / 90's... don't know if it applies to post-2010 dating.  

 
The Rule:  
If you start dating a woman and she has not slept with you by the 3rd date, she never will.   In the Sugar Bowl, that means no more than three non-BCD dates. And of course, those dates are without allowance.    

 
I agree with am2014. She knows after the first 5 minutes of meeting you if she will have sex with you. The rest is just her (rational or irrational) qualification process where she verifies you check enough boxes on her list to get naked.  The longer she's been in the bowl and/or the more she thinks she NEEDS the cash, the faster she will go through the qualification process.  In 2 decades of sugaring I have met maybe 3 (non-scammer) POT SB's who wanted one or more extra non-BCD dates.  All of them got minimal gifts for those dates and all of them agreed to go BCD on the 3rd date.  

 
The scammers are a whole different thing... so let's save that for another post.  

 
Life is good

 
The Cat

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joedp68 reads

Posted By: RH1984

 On the eve of our second planned date, she said she was on her period. I called off the date and then hit her with a message questioning if we were on the same page - that she seemed to be getting creative in finding ways to try to still have a date, but avoiding BCD time. She went ballistic and said she wasn’t my fuck toy and that I should respect her wishes to not just jump into playtime….  
   
 
Auntie Flo is the secret weapon that SBs, SPs, GFs, wives deploy when they weant to avoid sex.

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