To remind everyone, it was the girl from this thread:
https://www.theeroticreview.com/discussion-boards/the-erotic-highway-20/update-shes-gone-after-5-visits-lol--35232?page=

After disappearing in August/ Sept of last year, xmas I got a “hey, I missed you” kind of text which ignored all the nasty parting words … along with some pajama pics. I played along and liked the pics.

Fast forward to April of this year, she asks to meet up as “friends” outta the blue. LP will prolly chide me again for playing it straight Civvie, but I played it as a friends dinner date at a fun ramen joint… meaning we don’t talk about SA type compensation things at all. Dinner goes to dessert. I’m wondering if the girl wants me to fukk her that night, make an offer or what?  

I continue to play it straight as I had gotten laid by SB#1 the day before. Shes caught a glimpse of  Sb#1 (the Maxim model) on my phone and asks about her. We hug and part company, me wondering if I missed a chance for another round.

Nothing happens for a week then we’re chatting and she’s asking abt SB#1 and I tell her something like we “aren’t together right now”. Within a few more texts, we arrange another civvie date next weekend this time for real.  

That weekend, I arrange for hotel and we fukked like rabbits the entire night until her mom made her go home at 2am. We do the same thing the following weekend. Third and fourth weekends at my place.  

There it ended again… why? Clap your hands it’s the clap!!! Seven days later of antibiotics I confront her. I don’t fuck my wife and my number one SB didn’t give it to me. She admitted there was a skeezy college guy lol.

 As Boris said: “thems the breaks!”

However thesilver lining is I paid zero allowance for that month of fun except for a high end bikini (plus dinners and hotels).!

END OF MESSAGE

First, I think you played the friend date strategy perfectly.  Never burn bridges, or at least try to pretend you didn't burn them if/when she comes back to talk.    

 
I'm not certain I would have let her know of or see pics of any other SB you are seeing.  I don't like to lie, but I can honestly say I'm not with anyone else "right now" as long as I define "right now" as within the last 4 hours. LOL.    Generally, SB's are not about jealousy since they are likely banging at least one more guy. But they also don't want to be one of many hoes you bang because she is special (just ask her!).  Your decision to talk about anything other than sugar or BCD helped her develop trust in you as a "good guy," and therefore safe to fuck. Nice!  

 
As far as getting an STI, well that is the risk we all take. I ask my SB's to get tested regularly, and I won't start our 1st BCD until we have shared recent test results. But there is always that risk.  You cannot rely on her to get frequent tests, so you must do so.    

 

I still occasionally search for terms like "DDLG," and "submissive" in profiles, but they are rare in my area.  

 
Now you have a great story to tell.  Well done, Sir!  

 
Life is good

 
The Cat

The BCD was better the second time around and I didn’t invest as much $. Interesting thing was watching her come around to DDLG play. She came to realize it fit with her sub tendencies. I’m in the vocal part and she didn’t disappoint there when it sounds genuine from a younger amateur partner.  

The ending could have been smoother but we’re all big boys and girls lol.

Excellent point. I have been interested in DDLG play for a long time.  But generally the partners I find that are into it tend to be older, like 28 to 38, and that doesn't really work for me.  I'm hooping to develop my current 20-year old, petite SB into a DDLG expert... Have to stay at 18+ play of course.  

 
Life is good

The Cat